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Parenting Lazy Kids ~ How to Change Their Attitude and Get Them to Work

Parenting Skills Blog Gives You Character, Parenting, and Family Solutions from Jean Tracy, MSS and www.KidsDiscuss.com

Is there a lazy kid in your house? Are you frustrated when he skips out of his work and you do it for him? If so, it's time for a change. Look inside for effective ways to turn a lazy attitude into a helpful child.

Excerpt from Back Talk Street and Sammy the Slacker, page 81.

"Where's that slacker?" yelled Sammy's father. "He promised to help me clean the garage!"

Sammy's mother sighed, "I don't know. I haven't seen him."

Everyone at Sammy's house had chores on Saturday morning. They called it 'Saturday Work.'

A few minutes later, Sammy's mother called out to Sammy's dad, "Did you find Sammy? He didn't clean up his mess in the kitchen."

"I haven't seen him!" shouted his father from the garage.

Larry hollered from the bedroom he shared with Sammy, "Where's Sammy? I'm not cleaning this mess all by myself."

Nobody found Sammy. As they sat down for lunch, Larry noticed a note from Sammy taped to the fridge. It said,

"If work's your thing,

Don't count me in.

I'd rather play,

Than work today.

Gone Fishing."

Sammy's dad ripped the note off the fridge and muttered, "I'm going to teach that slacker a lesson."

Helping Lazy Kids Change Their Attitude

Sammy the Slacker wiggled out of work. Like a snake in the grass, no one could find him. He did what he wanted. To find out the lesson his father taught him, you'll need to read it for yourself on Back Talk Street. Right now let's focus on laziness.

A slacker kid is lazy. He often acts helpless. He hopes someone else will do his work. If you, pick up his toys, clothes, or kitchen messes you must stop. I know you love your kid but if you're doing his work, you're not training him to get along now or in the future.

Imagine your child being a slacker in school, on future jobs, or when he has a family of his own. Think of the reputation he'll earn and the frustration he'll cause. Will he be rejected, lose jobs, and his future family? The time to work on his attitude is now.

5 Questions to Get Your Child Thinking about the Problems with Laziness

When you read a story like Sammy's, ask character building questions like:

1. What did Sammy need to learn about work?

2. Why do you think some kids are lazy?

3. Have you ever been tricked into doing other kids' work? How did you feel?

4. Are you ever lazy? Why?

5. What advice would you give a lazy kid?

Use these questions for discussion with all your kids. They'll get to hear each other and make their own decisions about laziness.

Stop doing your kid's work for him. Stay close. Monitor his work. Call him back if his work is sloppy. You might not like this part of parenting but it needs to be done. If you do, you'll be turning your lazy kid into a helping child with a brighter future. Praise him honestly for work well done.

Get your spouse involved. Consider what other actions to take. Ask yourselves, "What can we do to turn our child into a team helper?" Brainstorm together. Question your own behaviors too. I know you will come up with expert answers.

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5 Easy Solutions When Your Kids Lie

Parenting Skills Blog Gives You Character, Parenting, and Family Solutions from Jean Tracy, MSS and www.KidsDiscuss.com

Does your child tell fibs? Is he getting a reputation for lying? Find out why he lies and how to help him tell the truth.

Excerpt from Back Talk Street and Larry the Liar, page 75

One day Larry, the smallest boy on Back Talk Street, puffed out his chest and walked up to Bubba, Victor, and Peter. Sammy, Larry's brother, ran down the hill to join them.

'I wish Sammy would stay home,' thought Larry.

"What do you two dumbbells want?" asked Victor.

"Sammy and I caught a thirty-pound salmon in Granny Jean's pond yesterday," lied Larry.

"A thirty-pound fish! That's the stupidest lie you've ever told," argued Peter.

"You're too skinny and Sammy's too lazy to catch a thirty-pound salmon even if there was one in Granny Jean's Pond," sneered Bubba.

"We did too!" protested Larry.

Sammy thought to himself, 'Larry doesn't even know how to fish. I'm the one who knows and I've never caught anything bigger than 6 inches.  I wish Larry would stop lying.'

"Let's go home, Larry. I think it's time for lunch," suggested Sammy.

Larry just gave Sammy a dirty look and thought, 'Go home yourself, Sammy. You're wrecking everything.'

Raising kids who lie can break your heart. You know something's wrong but what?

 Here Are Two Reasons Why Kids Aren't Truthful:

1. To protect themselves from criticism

2. To look more important than they think they are

What Is Lying?

A lie is like a mask covering the truth. It's a form of hiding. If lying becomes a habit, it may become natural to exaggerate, deceive, and lie.

Larry wanted to fit in with the big boys. He wanted them to admire him. He lied to increase his reputation. Why? Because he didn't feel "good enough."

If this feels like your child, use character building stories like Larry the Liar. Get your child to think about his own behavior by listening to Larry's.

Parents, Pay Attention Here:

If you're the parent of such a child, use stories with character building questions  like Back Talk Street

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Find out what your child's thinking. It's the key to helping him change his behavior.

5 Great Questions Leading to 5 Key Solutions

1. What did Larry need to learn about telling the truth and making friends?

2. Do you trust kids who lie? Why?

3. Do you ever tell a lie? Why?

4. Why is telling the truth better than telling a lie?

5. What advice would you give to kids who lie?

Talk with your spouse. Consider what actions to take. Ask yourselves, "What can we do to change our child into a truthful person?  Brainstorm together. Question your own behaviors too. You will come up with answers.

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3 Character Tips for Teaching Empathy to Tough Kids

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Have you ever met a child who enjoys hurting others? Maybe he seeks revenge. Maybe he wants to be a big shot, the tough guy. How can you help him?

Character Building Excerpt from Back Talk Street and Victor the Villain, page 69.

"...One day before Victor and Bubba's parents came home, I heard Victor laughing a cruel laugh. "That's what you get for being such a weakling!" he yelled.

Bubba curled up in pain after Victor had taken a flying leap and kicked him in the stomach. "I'm telling on you," yelled Bubba.

When their parents came home the yelling didn't stop. Their parents locked the boys out of the house. The whole neighborhood saw and heard the boys wrestling and screaming in their front yard. Of course, Victor won because he was bigger and stronger.

At school, the next day Victor and Bubba acted like buddies. 'Today's the day,'thought Bubba. He whispered to Victor, "It's time for you to clean Cory's clock." They both grinned and went looking for Cory..."

Why Some Kids Enjoy Being Tough

Parents, a child who enjoys hurting others is like a cat pawing a mouse. Victor the Villain like his brother, Bubba the Bully, enjoyed being tough guys.They didn't care if they hurt others. Why? Under Victor's bed lay hidden clue. What do you think it could be?

3 Character Tips for Teaching Empathy to Tough Kids

Kids need to see themselves through characters in stories. They need to hear what other kids think. They need to feel the pain of knowing they're not liked. They need to see there's a better way. Here are 3 questions to use for discussion:

1. Why do you think Victor enjoyed hurting weaker kids?

2. When someone is mean to you, why is it hard not to be mean back?

3. What advice would you give to kids who like hurting others?

Parents, Pay Attention Here:

If you're the parent of such a child, use stories with character building questions  like Back Talk Street. Find out what your child's thinking. It's the key to helping him change his behavior.

Talk with your spouse. Consider what actions to take that are non-violent. Ask yourselves, "What can we do to change our child into a caring person?"  Brainstorm together. Question your own behaviors too. You will come up with answers.

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Character Tips ~ How to Help Kids Who Lose Friends by Bragging

Parenting Skill Blog Gives You Character, Parenting, and Family Solutions from Jean Tracy, MSS and www.KidsDiscuss.com

Why does your child brag? Is it just to get attention or to prove that she's "good enough"? Look inside to discover why and what to do?

Building Character with an Excerpt from Back Talk Street and "Betty the Bragger," page 63

"I'll bake the cookies for our Valentines party!" exclaimed Betty. "My chocolate chips are the best. I can make them all by myself." Miss Kellogg smiled as she wrote Betty's name next to "chocolate chip cookies" on the board...

As soon as she got home, Betty looked up the recipe for chocolate chip cookies. She didn't know what the abbreviations tsp., tbsp., or oz. meant. Since her mother was at work, Betty decided to guess.

She stirred together a bag of flour, a box of baking soda, brown sugar, three bags of chocolate chips, a dozen eggs, and many of her favorite spices not mentioned in the recipe.

'This looks and smells delicious,' she told herself as she spooned the mixture onto the baking sheets. Betty hummed as she worked. She imagined all the compliments she would receive from her classmates. 'Maybe I'll give Miss Kellogg two cookies, she thought.

The cookies smelled a little different, looked a little black, and stuck to the baking sheets. Many were soggy. Betty hoped they would dry out. 'I'll just tell the kids that these are my new and improved chocolate chips...'

2 Reasons Why Kids Brag

Parents, bragging is a blinking neon sign that draws attention to oneself, saying "Look at me. Look at me".

1. Betty bragged because she craved attention. 

2. She also bragged because she tried to prove she was good enough. But she was disrespected instead.

Why not read her whole story to find out her painful secret?

Why Bragging Doesn't Work

No parent wants their child to brag because kids don't like braggers. Kids want to feel important too so they put braggers down.

Betty thought she was helping herself make friends and admirers. She needed to see that bragging made her enemies. So how can you help?

3 Parenting Questions That Help Kids Stop Bragging

First, read a story about a child who brags and it doesn't turn out well. Then ask:

1. What do you think about kids who brag?

2. How do kids treat you when they think you're bragging?

3. What advice would you give braggers? Why?

Parents, to help your child you must first know how she thinks. With that knowledge you can kindly help her make important changes. Without it she might rebel at your criticisms.

So take a look at Back Talk Street, the revolutionary guide that explains in stories the step by step details telling exactly what you need to do to help your child. To get it click here, http://www.kidsdiscuss.com/parent_resource_center.asp?pr_id=kd001 its stories, questions, puzzles, mazes, and word finds, all further the lessons you're teaching.

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What Do You Do to Stop the Bragging?

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Parenting Tips and Bullying ~ How to Raise Kids with 5 Smart Key Attitudes

Parenting Skills Blog for Character, Parenting, and Family Solutions from Jean Tracy, MSS

Building character in kids can be confusing. Have you ever wondered if your children are developing moral attitudes? Let's look at some great attitudes to instill for building character and avoid raising bullies.

Parenting Skills – Today's agenda for Building Character:

  • Today we'll discuss the 5 key attitudes to encourage character
     in your children.
  • We'll also offer practical questions for developing the 5 key attitudes.
  • Character Building – The 5 key attitudes to develop in your children with moral dilemmas:

    • Empathy
    • Role-taking
    • Social Awareness
    • Self-reflection
    • Good advice giving.

    Parenting Skills – Character building questions for developing the 5 key attitudes:

  • Character Building with Empathy – Empathy understands and feels the thoughts and feelings of another. Teaching your kids empathy is not difficult. When your child tells you about an incident at school in which another child was bullied or treated badly ask, "How would you feel if that happened to you? Or you might ask, "How do you think the victim felt?" Helping your child to understand the thoughts and feelings of others, teaches them empathy and helps build character too.
  • Character Building with Role-Taking – Role-taking is related to empathy. Help your child step into the shoes of another with questions. Then act out both sides of an incident. "Why do you think the bully acted the way he did?" Act out being the bully. "Why do you think the victim acted the way he did?" Role-play the incident. Role-playing helps your child see both sides clearly.

    Character Building with Social Awareness – Social awareness is closely related to empathy and role-taking. Social awareness is the understanding of what most kids think about bullying, hurting others or any painful problem another child may experience. A good question to ask is, "How do most kids think about being mean to others?"

    Character Building with Self-Reflection – Self-reflection helps kids look at their own behavior. Asking "Have you ever treated other kids badly? What happened? How did you feel about yourself?" helps your child pay attention to his deeper thoughts and feelings. Here's another question for self-reflection. "If you could do it over, what would you do differently?" When kids self-reflect and see how they can improve their own behavior, they are one step closer to building character.

    Character Building with Good Advice Giving – Asking your children, "What advice would you give to the bully? What advice would you give to the victim?" helps them solve problems and come up with solutions. When they're faced with similar difficulties, they'll be more likely to follow their own advice.

    There you have it, 5 key attitudes with character building questions. Try them and let me know the results by commenting in the comment link below. I'm interested in your opinions.

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    5 Parenting Tips ~ Changing Kids Who Gossip into Children Who Talk with Respect

     Parenting Skills Blog from Jean Tracy, MSS and www.KidsDiscuss.com shares Character, Parenting, and Family Solutions.

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    Is your child desperate to make friends? Does she gossip? Find out how gossiping turns friends away and 5 ways to help your your child hold her tongue.

    Character Building from Back Talk Street and an Excerpt from Gabby the Gossip, page 51:

    Gabby's Story:

    When Betty answered the phone and heard Gabby's voice, her heart pounded with excitement. Betty and her brother were the newest kids on Back Talk Street.

     'Finally, one of the girls in the neighborhood is calling me,' thought Betty. 'Maybe now somebody will be my friend.'

    "Hi, Gabby, what are you doing? asked Betty. Gabby giggled,

    "Hi, Betty, guess what I saw at Tilly's house last night?"

    "I don't know, tell me."

    "Last night when I went to spend the night at Tilly's, I saw her dad's teeth."

    Betty wrinkled her forehead. 'I've seen them too, she thought. 'They looked fine to me.'

    "Tilly's dad has very nice teeth," said Betty.

    "No, he doesn't," giggled Gabby. "I saw her dad's teeth in a glass of water on the kitchen sink. I saw him too. I couldn't stop giggling when he walked into the kitchen without his teeth. Tilly got mad and said,

    "Stop laughing, Gabby, or go home." I couldn't stop laughing so I went home."

    Before hanging up, Gabby said, "Don't tell Tilly I told you, OK?"

    "Don't worry," said Betty. "I can keep a secret."

    In this discussion story about gossiping, Gabby wanted the new girl, Betty, to be her friend. She thought if she made Tilly and her dad look bad, it would make herself look good.

    The Problem with Gossips:

    Gossips point their mean tongues at the backs of their victims and stab their reputations. How? They look for the bad in people. They exaggerate it. They blab it too. 

    The problem for gossips is the hammering they do to their own character and the fact that someday they'll be found out. If your child gossips, help her realize how she is hurting herself and others. Read stories like Gabby the Gossip. Find out what happens to Gabby and ask the following 5 questions:

    How Parents Can Help Child Gossips Change

    After reading Gabby's story, ask your children and their friends ~

    1. What did Gabby need to know about the dangers of gossiping?

    2. Why do you think kids gossip?

    3. How do you feel when kids gossip about you?

    4. If you've ever gossiped, how did you feel about yourself afterward?

    5. What advice would you give to kids who gossip?

    To help your child discuss the problems with gossiping, why not use the power of stories like Gabby the Gossip?

    Feel free to pick up Back Talk Street for ready stories about the troublesome kids in Gabby's neighborhood. Enjoy the discussion questions, your kids' answers, and the fun puzzles for your kids to solve. It downloads to your computer instantly. No waiting!

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    Parenting Tips ~ 3 Ways to Help Kids Who Cheat

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    How to Build Character in Kids Who Cheat with an Excerpt from BackTalk Street and "Peter the Cheater," page 45

    "Look what you did you stupid kid!" cried Billy as he threw his cards on the table.

    'How could he see what I did?' wondered Peter. 'His glasses are so thick."

    "I saw you pull that ace out from under the deck," accused Billy. "You are such a cheater. I'm going home."

    "You're the cheater!" yelled Peter as Billy stomped out.

    When Peter was alone, he hung his head and thought, 'Yesterday Miss Kellogg called me a cheater too. I wish I hadn't copied Larry's test. I wish I hadn't told her, 'I bet I get a good grade.'

    Peter remembered what Miss Kellogg said, "Peter, don't be a cheater. I saw you copy Larry's answers. You need to do your own work."

    A heavy feeling filled his heart. 'I just wanted to be a winner. How can I be a winner if I don't get a good grade?' he asked himself.

    Parents, cheating is a lie that poisons the heart and weighs it down. The cheater lies to himself and to the people he's with. Sooner or later, they'll call him a cheater. Sooner or later they'll disrespect him. Even worse, he'll disrespect himself.

    When parents teach kids to be worthwhile by winning, being number one, or being better than everybody else, kids may end up cheating. Why? They want their parents to see them as worthwhile.

    Peter felt bad because he was caught. He needed to see that cheating is wrong because it's a lie to oneself and to others.

    3 Parenting Tips for Helping Children Who Cheat: 

    1. Have a good talk with your child about cheating. Be kind in your approach.

    2. Discuss Peter's story. Since you're child isn't Peter, it will be easier for your child to be objective and give good solutions. It is hoped that he'll apply his solutions to his own life. 

    3. Ask these 3 questions from Peter the Cheater's story:

    a. What is the difference between cheating to win and winning honestly?

    b. Why are cheaters really losers even when they win?

    c. What advice would you give a cheater?

    Parents, you're goal is to raise an honest child. If you're pressuring your child be a winner at all costs, back off. Use your wisdom to help your child try. Appreciate the honest effort he makes and praise him for it. If you do, his heart won't be weighed down by poisonous thoughts that make him feel bad about himself.

    If you'd like to read the whole story of Peter the Cheater to your child, pick up BackTalk Street. He'll enjoy the discussions, the games, and the fun puzzles about cheating too. 

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