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The Shamed Child - 9 Criticisms Parents Must Avoid

 

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DISCOURAGED CHILDREN FEEL PAIN

A parent can become a critical judge when he feels tired, cranky, and frustrated. If a child hears the thunder of criticism often enough, he'll begin to believe that's who he is.

When he believes the words, he may even act on them, thinking, "If you say I'm bad, I'll show you how bad I can be."

The problem with criticism is it rarely helps a child become better. It often increases a child's bitterness, anger, and sadness. Ask yourself, "Do I like criticism?" If you said, "Yes," you are rare. But if you said "No," consider how children feel when criticized.

 

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Angry Criticism Isn't Helpful

 

In today's parenting gift you'll find 9 examples of the worst things to tell our children.  They can become a child's inner self-talk when an angry parent repeats them enough. Perhaps they were said to you when you were a child.

I suggest you download them and add them to a notebook to review when you're upset and tempted to yell at your child.

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Parenting Tip: How Happy Families Encourage Children

 

 

 

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HONEST FAMILY COMPLIMENTS RAISE SELF-ESTEEM

If your family spirit needs a boost, and you're not sure what to do, consider this article with its 30 positive parenting tips.

Parents are powerful because their words can increase their child's confidence or tear it down. When their angry words are repeated, children remember. To the child, "Get out of my sight" becomes "I'm not lovable."

Repeated put-downs become the 'Critical Judge' living inside the child's head and they can last a lifetime. Negative self-talk has the power to limit a person's effectiveness.

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Harsh Words Can Become An Internal 'Critical Judge'

Positive words also have a ripple effect. Catching children being good boosts their self-esteem and steers them toward becoming kind and caring people.

In today's article, you'll find:

  • 9 of the worst things to tell your children
  • 12 character traits with an activity for bonding family members
  • 9 positive strengths to notice in children
  • 9 examples of compliments to share within your family

Children who internalize honest specific praise see themselves as good people who care about their family and other people too.

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Honest Praise Helps Kids See Themselves As Good People

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Caring Families: How Parents Build Self-Esteem

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How Parents Raise Loving Families - 7 Tips + Video

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FIND OUT THE EASY WAY TO RAISE A CARING FAMILY!


Sincere words, a smiling voice, and eye contact are 3 ingredients you can easily use to create caring in your child.

Your words, whether harsh or loving, will be replayed over and over throughout his life. Your harsh words can become the critical judge he'll hear in his head when he does his homework, looks for a job, or raises kids of his own. 

If your words are kind and encouraging, they'll become his inner "Head Coach" and give him the confidence and courage to live a happier more productive and caring life.

But what if she's sassing, demanding, or lying? Clearly this is not the time for coddling and kind words. It could be the time to hold your tongue and not give in to the sass and demands. It's not easy.  IT CAN BE DONE!

How Changing Words Changes Family Life

Here’s a brief video with 7 family compliments that include honest words, a kind voice, and specific comments you can use. You’ll also find out how a tiny box, a family dinner, and noticing behaviors can help you raise a caring family.

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The Takers: Poem for Kids with Family Discussion

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IS YOUR DISRESPECTFUL CHILD A "TAKER?"


If your child appears conceited and arrogant and you are worried about his future, you have good reason to be concerned. Who will treat him with respect when he is disrespectful? Who will love him in spite of his selfishness? Who will work with him if he doesn't listen?

Spoiled kids act as if they are the "King of the Universe." They expect things to go their way. They get what they want because they demand it. They aren't givers. They are takers.

If you are raising takers, read and discuss today's parenting gift with your children. It's a poem entitled 'The Takers.'  You'll find 8 questions to discuss with them. 

Notice that Michael's mother, in the poem, doesn't enforce rules. Is that why she's doing his work for him? Zoe's dad couldn't stand her tantrums in toy stores so he gave in. Is that why she screams to get what she wants? Ask your kids the questions and listen to their opinions. You may be surprised at their wisdom.

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YOU CAN STOP TEMPER TANTRUMS!

 

Even if your children are givers enjoy the poem and the family discussion. It will be fun to hear how they think.

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