Praise or criticism, which motivates kids to do their best? Too much criticism often makes people bitter not better. Research advises us to give 3-6 compliments for every negative comment because kind remarks help lessen the sting from complaints.
If you must disapprove of your child’s behavior, there are 3 rules:
- Do it privately.
- Be brief, no lectures.
- Suggest a positive behavior or solution.
Goal for Giving Praise
You don’t want your child to live for other people’s approval. A nickname for pure approval seekers is "Love Slob."No one wants to hear their child called a "Love Slob."
Your goal in using praise is to increase your child’s inner motivation which means they do their best because that’s their positive self-image. It’s who they know they are.
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- How criticism feels to your children.
- Whether they notice each others mistakes more than their good qualities.
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