When Kids Need to Apologize! Parents Can Help.
Let’s face it; kids aren’t born with social skills. Unless we teach them, their manners can be rude and hurtful. When they upset a friend, a parent, or a relative with their actions or words, they may be shutting doors now and in the future. No one likes being around rude people.
Today we’ll teach The Apology Formula and how to use it to repair and reopen strained relationships. We’ll keep it short and simple to make it easy to learn.
The Apology Formula to Post on the Refrigerator
I’m Sorry for… + Name of Offended Person + I Promise to…
The Role-Playing Activity
Teach your kids with lots of role-plays at different times. Choose situations any child should apologize for, like calling a friend “a brat,” sassing mom, and pushing the babysitter.
Pretend that you are the offended person. Discuss with your child what he might need to apologize for. Make it a game. End with a hug or by shaking hands.
1. I’m sorry for calling you “a brat,” Jordan. I promise to talk to you nicely from now on. (Shake hands.)
2. I’m sorry for sassing you, mom. I promise to talk to you with respect. (Shake hands or hug.)
3. I’m sorry for pushing you, Nanny. I promise to go to bed when you tell me. (Shake hands.)
Explain that everyone makes mistakes. Apologizing is a great way to repair those mistakes. Tell him to be sincere when he apologizes and that you’ll be proud of him for using this important social skill.
Don’t forget to praise him/her in real situations. Be proud of yourself too. S/he’ll be repairing relationships and reopening doors all because you taught them The Apology Formula.
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With warm wishes,
Jean Tracy, MSS
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