Parenting Tips - Help Kids Choose Honesty and Overcome Guilt

 

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Kids Respect and Trust Truthful Parents
 

LYING HURTS YOUR CHILD'S REPUTATION AND BREEDS DISTRUST.  If you're the parent of an elementary-age student, who has trouble telling the truth, can you remember a time when you told a falsehood? If it had bad consequences, can you remember your feelings? Were you plagued with guilt? Were you afraid to confess for fear of punishment? 

Lies can cause your child mental pain too. Today's article shares 7 fearful consequences from lying, 7 positive effects for being truthful, 6 honest strategies, 5 moral dilemmas for your child to solve, and 10 self-talk statements from which to choose. 

 HONESTY BEGINS AT HOME!

Children look up to parents with eager eyes and ears. They see and hear everything.  When parent's aren't truthful, kids learn about lying. When parents are truthful, kids trust and respect them. Use the tips in this article to model truthfulness and help your child.

3 Suggestions to Tell Your Child When He Is Ready to Admit His Mistakes:

1. "Avoid over-thinking about the action you are about to take. It might stop you from telling the truth." 
2. "Take 5 deep breaths right before admitting your lie. It will help you relax."
3. "Repeat a simple slogan like, “My truth is like gold when my honesty's bold,” because it could give you the courage you need."

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You CAN Help Him Choose Honesty and
Overcome Guilt

Read more:

The Honest Child - 35 Parenting Tips Teach Truthfulness

 

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Parenting Tips - Caring Kids Learn Charismatic Skills

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Parents Can Teach Kids Social Skills

CHILDREN  WITH SOCIAL SKILLS AND CHARISMA AREN'T BORN THAT WAY. To be charismatic takes charm and you can teach it.

We're not talking about popularity, manipulation, or vanity. We're talking about the true inner charm that cares about others. It will help them grow socially too.

If you model charm to your children, they can learn it from you. There are 3 things all people want that come under the Umbrella of Attention. Give those to others and you'll have charisma.

Use Sincere Eyes, Smiles, and Words with:

  1. Approval by looking for the good in your children and telling them what you see.
  2. Appreciation for the good things they do. "Thank you for..." or "I like the fact that you..."
  3. Affection using a touch, hug, pat on the back, kind word, kiss, or whatever is appropriate.

This is called the Triple A Formula. It is the best way to give what your child and others crave and that is, Attention.

Be a great listener. Hear what your children are saying. See how they're acting. Then try to understand how they're thinking and feeling.

Don't tell. Ask.

"How are you feeling?" Again be a great listener and repeat in your own words what they said. Here's why:

Charismatic listeners help others feel a real connection with them.

You want that with others and, especially, with your children.

Use these 3 tips, Approval, Appreciation, and Affection, as you ask your children the 6 parenting discussion topics in the following YouTube video. They will help your children develop the social skills they need to become the charismatic leaders of tomorrow.

Click on Socially Smart Kids - 6 Parenting Discussions with Children

 

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Charismatic Children Lead with Caring

Feel free to copy the discussion topics from the transcript below the video. Please leave me a comment too. I would love to hear from you.

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The Emotional Child - How Parents Help Kids' Feelings

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           How Parents Help Kids with
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DEPRESSED CHILDREN, ANGRY CHILDREN, FEARFUL CHILDREN OR ANY OVER-EMOTIONAL CHILD CAN BE HELPED. Today we'll offer a simple parenting technique you can teach. 

This method uses your child’s imagination to handle out-of-control emotions.

First your over-sensitive child draws his very own emotion meter. Then he closes his eyes and visualizes moving the needle from poor (out-of-control) to fair, to good, and then excellent.

It’s fine if he doesn’t reach excellent because “good” emotions are good enough. The emotion meter can help children who are sad, angry, guilty, or anxious. Upset parents can use it for their own feelings too. 

Watch this short slideshow presentation (only 12 slides) and copy the easy instructions below the slides. Then share it with your child when he is in a good mood. Practice it with him several times.

Ask him to let you know when he used it by himself to calm his emotions and feel better.

Remember to use it on yourself too and you'll never have to feel stuck in a bad mood.

Click on The Emotional Child and get started.

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7 Family Discussion Questions Boost Kids' Self-Image

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FUN DISCUSSIONS WITH KIDS PROMOTE FAMILY UNITY!

Praise or criticism, which motivates kids to do their best? Too much criticism often makes people bitter not better. Research advises us to give 3-6 compliments for every negative comment because kind remarks help lessen the sting from complaints.

If you must disapprove of your child’s behavior, there are 3 rules:

  1. Do it privately.
  2. Be brief, no lectures.
  3. Suggest a positive behavior or solution.

Goal for Giving Praise

You don’t want your child to live for other people’s approval. A nickname for pure approval seekers is "Love Slob."No one wants to hear their child called a "Love Slob."

Your goal in using praise is to increase your child’s inner motivation which means they do their best because that’s their positive self-image. It’s who they know they are.

Use our gift today which includes the poem, “I Caught You Being Good Today,” by downloading, discussing, and getting your children to answer the 7 discussion questions.

If you do, you’ll find out:

  1. How criticism feels to your children.
  2. Whether they notice each others mistakes more than their good qualities.
  3. What would motivate them the most, criticisms or compliments.
  4. If they’d like to focus on the good in each other more often.
  5. How they’d like to share with each member the good they see.
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"You walked the dog around the block."

 

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Family Character: Simple Activity Strengthens Relationships

 

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CREATE A SOLID FAMILY FOUNDATION

When children feel like they belong to a loving family team, they experience inner security and confidence. Today's parenting gift shares an easy bonding activity. It helps family members develop a strong foundation with solid roots.

You'll be asking your family, "What do you want our family to be like?" To get the family discussion going you'll find 12 suggestions. Everyone should get a chance to share their ideas.

When you have a list of ideas, take a family vote and pick the top 6 suggestions. Choose someone to print them out and post them on the fridge or put them in a picture frame with a family photo as a reminder.

Challenge the family members to notice these qualities in each other as they occur.

Feel free to download this parenting gift to use whenever it is needed.

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How Parents Raise Loving Families - 7 Tips + Video

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FIND OUT THE EASY WAY TO RAISE A CARING FAMILY!


Sincere words, a smiling voice, and eye contact are 3 ingredients you can easily use to create caring in your child.

Your words, whether harsh or loving, will be replayed over and over throughout his life. Your harsh words can become the critical judge he'll hear in his head when he does his homework, looks for a job, or raises kids of his own. 

If your words are kind and encouraging, they'll become his inner "Head Coach" and give him the confidence and courage to live a happier more productive and caring life.

But what if she's sassing, demanding, or lying? Clearly this is not the time for coddling and kind words. It could be the time to hold your tongue and not give in to the sass and demands. It's not easy.  IT CAN BE DONE!

How Changing Words Changes Family Life

Here’s a brief video with 7 family compliments that include honest words, a kind voice, and specific comments you can use. You’ll also find out how a tiny box, a family dinner, and noticing behaviors can help you raise a caring family.

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Verbal Abuse from Spoiled Children - Checklist and Video

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ACCEPTING DISRESPECT HURTS EVERYONE

The words your children yell at you reflect how they think and feel about you. If those words are selfish, mean, or hurtful, you've got work to do. Why you? Before your children can change you need to change. I know it's hard to hear. But ask yourself 3 questions about:

Disrespectful Children

How did the disrespect start?

How did I respond?

Why is it continuing?

You can learn a lot of important information by answering those 3 questions.

You work hard all day and come home to even more work - dinner, dishes, laundry, lunches, and homework. You're tired and ask your kids for help. "Don't tell me what to do!" is yelled back at you.

Your tiredness makes you cranky and you yell back. If you end up  feeling like a parenting failure or guilty about the things you say, it's time to change.

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You CAN Change Your Behavior, Their Sass, and Feel Guilt-Free

Today's FREE Parenting Gift is a checklist of 10 verbally abusive things you might hear from your children. If you hear any of them or similar words, watch the parenting video below the checklist. It can help you stop the verbal abuse from your children by making the behavior changes you need.

To pick up Are Your Kids Spoiled? A Parenting Behavior Checklist:

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Stop Spoiling Your Kids - 6 Parenting Tips Video

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Over-indulging Kids Turns Them into Weak Characters.


When parents give too much and expect too little, they raise spoiled children. Their parenting love is out of control. They make themselves into doormats and their offspring selfish and weak.

7 Problems with Entitled Kids

  1. They think they're the boss.
  2. They can be rude.
  3. They're never satisfied.
  4. They verbally attack parents.
  5. They whine when they don't get their way.
  6. They want more.
  7. They aren't grateful.

5 Ways Parents of Pampered Kids Feel

  1. They feel like doormats - walked on.
  2. They explode with anger.
  3. They experience guilt when their kids act badly.
  4. They whine and sound weak.
  5. They confuse giving-in with love.

Today's Brief YouTube Video Shares 6 Ways to Stop Indulging Kids

It takes courage and determination to be a consistent parent. Why? Because youngsters will try hard to stop their parents from changing. It won't be pretty. But the improvement in their child's attitude and behavior will be worth the parenting effort. One more thing, Parents will take their true role as leaders and trainers and their children will feel more secure.

Please watch The Spoiled Child - 6 Practical Parenting Solutions

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A Child's Divorce Poem for Parents

 

 

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A Child's Real Feelings about Divorce

 

When a parent who's separating or getting divorced leaves the home, a child is filled with questions he may not know how to ask.

A Child's Questions about Divorce

  1. What will happen to me?
  2. Is the divorce my fault?
  3. When will I see my other parent?
  4. Will my parents marry someone else?
  5. Will my other parent forget about me?
  6. Do I have to take sides?
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What Children of Divorce Really Want:

  • Their parents to stay married
  • Their parents to stop fighting and get along
  • Their parents to keep visits
  • Their parents to allow them to love both parents
  • Their parents to avoid bad-mouthing each other
  • Their parents to keep them out of the middle
  • To feel safe, secure, and loved

Our parenting gift today is a poem that looks at divorce through the eyes of a child. It is a reminder for parents of what they can do to help their children deal with the loss of their original  family.

Along with the poem is a checklist of 7 helpful questions.

Download A Child's Poem  "Don't Forget Me," by inserting the code word:

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Consider saving it to a binder to refer to whenever you need it.

 

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How Do Divorced Parents Love Their Children?

 

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Children of Divorce Need Their Parents

Divorce crushes children when busy parents lose contact.  They wonder, "Did I cause my parents' divorce?" Their guilt can sink them into depression because they don't understand that the conflict is between their parents and not them. So how can loving parents continue to show they care?

Today our parenting gift includes 15 ways divorced parents can show love. They can lift your children up from the despair of divorce and keep you connected.

  • Number 1 tells what your child thinks when you talk against your ex.
  • Number 5 shares what to do when you need to make schedule changes.
  • Number 8 gives important advice about a parent's new boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • Number 12 suggests what to do about gifts for your child.
  • Number 15 states what to say often to help your child. Maybe you can already guess.

Find out if you are right by going to Subscriber Gifts or 15 Loving Divorce Solutions and insert the word:

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