7 Parenting Tips – How to Raise Motivated Kids + Video

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Turn Your Depressed Kid into a Happy Learner

 

YOUR DISCOURAGED CHILD MAY BE HOOKED ON NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. If so, you'll hear a hopeless tone with pessimistic words like:

  1. Why should I try?
  2. I’ll never use it.
  3. It’s boring.

What can you do to change her mind? Today’s video helps you turn your child’s dark thinking into bright ideas.

This video encourages your child to change his ‘can’t-do attitude’ into a ‘can-do mindset.’ You’ll be helping him compare the depressing feeling of giving-up to the enthusiastic sense of trying. How? With the 7 meaty discussions you find inside. 

The discussion questions are listed within the video.

You’ll also find 5 self-talk rhymes besides the 3 listed below to keep her joy of learning alive. Positive rhymes that become part of your child’s thinking pattern will help her stay motivated when she repeats them often. They're especially helpful when learning is tough.

  1. I feel my true grit when I lose, I don’t quit.
  2. I’m the guy who loves to try.
  3. Learning’s my style because trying’s worthwhile.

Even if your child doesn’t show signs of discouragement, listen to the video below. You’ll be glad you did.

 

 

 

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 The Motivated Child – How Parents Raise Can-Do Children

 

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Parenting Tips: Motivating Kids Through Their Senses

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Motivating Your Child Is Easy


 

CHILDREN LEARN THROUGH THEIR SENSES. Seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and touching are built-in learning gifts. Parents CAN encourage kids to gain knowledge with sense-based compliments. Today, you’ll find several ways to encourage your child’s efforts to expand their intelligence. 

Your Children Feel Great with Loving Touches

Perhaps you want to teach your child kindness. His sense of touch could come alive with a pat on the back, a hug, a kiss, or a hand squeeze. When you notice a caring behavior, you could say something like, “I appreciate how you let your brother play video games with the older kids.” A pat on the back might be the perfect touch.

Your Kids Learn through Tasty Foods and Delicious Smells

Consider promoting your child’s cooking skills. Let’s say she decides to bake chocolate chip cookies. She’ll learn to read recipes and measure ingredients. You could inspire further cooking by saying, “Your cookies taste as good as they smell.” A warm cookie with a glass of milk could further her desire to learn new recipes.

Children Smile When They See Their Work

Refrigerators and kitchen bulletin boards are super places to post their masterpieces. Art work, school work, even a photo of a bed well-made can motivate them to keep on trying. Your comments like, “How did you challenge yourself to write such an interesting report,” encourages them further.

Kids Love to Hear Special Sounds

 

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Use Her Sense of Sound to Motivate Her

 

Perhaps your child enjoys baseball and made a difficult catch. Your words like, “How did it feel when you caught the fly and threw it to third base for a double out?” puts her back in those moments when the crowd was cheering. Because of your praise and the crowd’s roars, she’s likely to practice catching and throwing even more.

For more ideas using the senses to motivate your child, go to:

How Parents Motivate Kids Through Their Senses

 

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How Parents Turn Bullies into Respectful Children - 1 Minute Video

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Parents CAN Stop Bullying at Home.

 

PARENTING  A CHILD BULLY  IS FRUSTRATING WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. If you find you're constantly stepping in the middle and it isn't working, keep reading. Today I'll share 3 tips you can easily use and a 1 minute video with 11 positive suggestions.

You'll know that bullying is occurring,  if one child wants power over the other and wants to hurt the other with hitting, or yelling, or put-downs.

Of course, don't let jealousy be a cause for one child bullying the other. Do your best to show love, attention, and approval equally. Also separate your kids when the fighting starts. Here are 2 ways you can do that:

1. First Tip: Send each child to their rooms to hit their pillows at least 10 times. The idea is to help them let off the steam of anger, anxiety, and revenge. When they are done, get them to talk about the fighting and how to solve it. Let the solutions come from them.

2. Second Tip: Tell them to go to separate boring places in your home where they can't be in contact with each other.

Avoid their bedrooms because they could end up playing with toys instead of thinking about solutions.

Put the timer on for 5 minutes for them to come up a better way to handle the conflict.

Don't let them come up with easy immediate answers just so they won't have to be by themselves and think.

When the 5 minutes is up, listen to both sides. No interrupting by you or them.

In the end, have them act out their solutions.

Third Tip: Use this suggestion when the kids are getting along. A family meeting is ideal.

Discuss the problem with fighting.

Make sure they share their ideas without anyone interrupting.

This is a good time to practice listening skills. They must look at each other and repeat the other's ideas correctly before they get their turn to speak. The goal is to make sure each child feels heard.

Now please watch the 1 minute YouTube video with 11 more suggestions:

Click on: Sibling Bullying - How Parents Can Stop It

 

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Parenting Headstrong Kids - 5 Solutions in 1 Minute Video

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Power Struggles with Your Strong-Willed Child
Can Be Solved!


THINK OF HANDLING STUBBORN CHILDREN LIKE METAL BEADS AND A MAGNET. Your child's stubborn behaviors are the metal beads. Your reactions are the magnet. Each stubborn behavior can cause a swift and powerful clash if you let yourself explode with emotion. This doesn't have to happen.

Consider Using Logic by Asking Yourself 3 Questions:

1. What are the consequences to our relationship if I consistently blow-up?

       When I continually react with anger, his stubbornness hardens even more. Respect dies.

2. What are better ways of reacting to his stubbornness?

         I can use a kind, firm, and self-controlled voice.  With time and repetition, mutual respect could grow.

3. Are there specific ways to be the respectful parent and turn his headstrong behaviors into cooperative ones?

        If you draw a blank, watch our 1 minute video below. You'll find 5 solutions you can start using today.

Please remember, no parent is perfect. We all get over-stressed and lose our tempers. Don't get down on yourself if this happens to you. Just reconfirm your commitment to be a respectful parent.

One more thing, you CAN make the magnetic pull between you and your child into a pleasant and positive relationship.

Click on: Have a Headstrong Child? 5 Solutions

 

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Parenting Gift: 10 Fun Conversation Starters with Kids

 

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Children Love to Give Their Opinions

 

MANY PARENTS ARE NOT BORN COMMUNICATORS. They love their children but don't know how to talk to their kids. Over-talking turns kids off. Interrupting, sarcasm, and being too busy create a distance between parents and children.

Simple meaty questions and listening well open the door to good conversations. You don't have to do much. If your kids sense you're truly interested in what they think, even if they know you disagree, they'll talk. This means arguing to get them to change their minds is out. But you can ask more questions to get them to think deeper about a subject. And when they're done, you can share some thoughts of your own.

Car Conversations

Today's parenting gift includes conversation starters for family dinners, car rides, and bedside chats. Some examples of starters could include:

  1. What makes a good person? Why?
  2. Would you like to be famous? Why?
  3. Should kids have chores? Why?

Listening well takes patience because you might not like what you hear. But if you cut in and correct, you risk not finding out how your child really thinks. Why? Because your child may shut down and not talk. Then how can you guide your child to better thoughts?

Feel free to cut today's parenting bonus into ten questions. Put them in an envelope and pull out when you'd like to have an interesting conversation with your child.

 

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The Sarcastic Parent - How to Use Praise Instead - 1 Minute Video

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Sarcasm Hurts Children

 

If you’re a parent who ridicules your child, and your sarcasm is backfiring, you must change. Why? Because getting your friends to laugh at your youngster causes her pain. Don’t be surprised when your parent and child relationship suffers and your friends gossip behind your back.

Today we’ll share a video with a 1 minute parenting tip that shares a specific suggestion on how to change. We’ll even include the script.

Sarcastic Parents - Don't Push Your Child Away 

 




Transcript:

Don’t Push Your Child Away

A 60 Second Parenting Tip

Avoid Sarcasm.

You may be witty, a jokester, or very funny.

But it can be hurtful if your child is the object of your jokes.

When others laugh at her she could feel ashamed or ridiculous and foolish.

Stop! Sarcasm can backfire on you.

Your kids could avoid you now and, in the future, too.

Catch your child being good instead.

Tell him specifically what you like.

Use positive words and a pat on the back.

Keep your child close with honest compliments.

 

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Parenting Checklist - 10 Listening Mistakes to Avoid

 

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Parenting Errors That Must Be Changed

Every parent makes mistakes. Some apologize. Others don't understand what they're doing wrong. But they sense they're making blunders because their children are shutting down.

Today's parenting gift helps those parents. We'll look through the "eyes of youngsters" and see what messages  children could be receiving when parents are too busy for them.

Imagine what children think when parents:

  • Fail to make time for kids
  • Rush from one thing to another
  • Seem distracted too often

This parenting gift helps alert parents to the pain kids feel and the changes than need to be made. Download the list. See if there's some behavior you'd like to change. It can be easy to fix when you understand the problem.

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Listening - The Key to Family Bonding - 1 minute video

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Listening Is Loving!


 

If you and your family are so busy with life that you don’t have time for each other, you might want to slow down. Remember the 10-10-10 Rule by Suzy Welch where you ask yourself 3 questions?

  1. Will this (busyness) matter in 10 days?
  2. Will it matter in 10 months?
  3. Will it matter in 10 years?

In 10 years your 8-year old will be 18. The point is, we need to make room for our children if we want to enjoy a strong family bond. Family bonds can give each member a strong foundation for dealing with life, especially if it's a loving connection.

Today, our 1 minute parenting tip video features a simple solution you can start using today. Here is the video with the script below it:

Listening – the Key to Family Closeness

 

 

 

If You’re a Busy Parent AND YOU KEEP SAYING to your child, “I don’t’ have time to talk,” You could be sending him the message, “What I’m doing is more important than you are.” Of course, it’s not what you mean. What can you do? Tell your child when you can talk with him. “Give me 15 minutes. Then let’s talk.” Don’t forget!

 

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Gift - How Listening Helps Parents - 3 Reminder Rhymes

 

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Listening Is the Parenting Skill that Brings Kids Close


When parents interrupt by talking louder than children to make their point, kids feel angry, unheard, and closed down. If you've ever been interrupted, talked down to, or over-talked, remember how you felt. 

Listening doesn't mean you agree with what your child said. It just means you listened. Of course, if you disagree, don't charge into your child with loud disagreement. Calmly ask questions and listen some more. The better you understand the better your child may listen to you.

Arguing doesn't solves problems. It just cements each side's opinions. We see this in the news every day. I bet there have been times you turned it off. Who wants to hear people fight?

Today's parenting gift offers rhymes as reminders to listen. You'll find 10 altogether. Pick the one you may need and save the others in a 3-hole binder in case you need them in the future. Here are two more of the rhyming reminders:

 

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My child gives me pleasure with
thoughts that I treasure.

 

To be attentive and wise, I look with both eyes.

 

Get all 10 Listening Reminders with Rhyming Solutions by using the code to download:

 

POEMS

 

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How Parents Give Kids the Gifts They Want - 3 Ways

 

 

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Parenting Gifts You Can Easily Give

When you want to communicate better with your child, avoid buying things. Yes, kids do want toys, video games, and new cell phones. But if you experience your kids always wanting more, is gifting material things really a good idea?

 

This parenting present offers more than 3 gifts. It shares 10. Choose the 3 you need the most. Practice them and feel your parent/child connection grow.

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Repeat What Your Child Said.

 

Repeating what your child said is proof that you listened. It proves that you paid attention and respect him. Listening opens the doors of communication and creates closeness.

 

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Add it to a 3-hole binder to use whenever your relationship with your child is drifting. Then choose the listening skills you want to practice. Refresh your relationship and enjoy your loving connection.

 

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