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Family Values ~ My Kids are Disrespectful!

What happens to family values, when your kids swear at each other and at you? Can such disrespect be turned around? You bet! Look inside and find out how a simple family meeting can do the trick.

“Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden.” - Jim Rohn

The Family Meeting:

Use the problem solving step within the family meeting to discuss how swearing hurts the family. Kids love to be heard as they talk about their thoughts. Have different members share how they feel. Then ask each member to give a solution. Criticizing is not allowed.

Family Values Grow within the Family Meeting:

Ask questions to get your family thinking. Make sure everyone speaks. Don’t let members interrupt.

Have each member make a commitment to use respectful talk. Write out commitments to make the family better and post them on the bulletin board.

With family meetings you have the power to root out disrespect and cultivate respectful children. It’s the loving thing to do.

How do you teach your kids family values?

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Family Fun: “Birthdays are Too Much Work!” How to Involve the Family

How can planning a birthday party involve the family? Where do you start? Consider the family meeting.

How Family Fun Begins with Family Meetings

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life.” – Richard Bach

The Family Meeting

Every family should delight in its members’ birthdays. Here’s how to use the family meeting to plan each member’s party.

First, ask the birthday member what he/she wants. Second, check your pocketbook and decide the cost. This will help your birthday member and your family members decide:

·     How many people to invite

·     Who to invite

·     Which games to play

·     Whether to use paper plates or good dishes

·     Whether to make it a big dinner or a dessert event

·     What to eat

Get volunteers to do the following:

·     Make the invitations 

·     Make the decorations 

·     Bake the cake 

·     Buy the food

·     Choose the games 

·     Set the table  Clean up


Family Fun and the Power of Family Meetings:

Family meetings have the power to make each member feel valued. When the members eagerly plan birthday parties, the birthday person feels wanted and loved. The family meeting teaches children how to work together, make decisions, and feel involved. Asking each child to share their ideas boosts self esteem.  And, one more thing, you won’t be doing all the work either.

How do you plan birthdays?

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Discipline Tips – Do Your Kids Tattle Like Victims?

How do you discipline when your kids tattle and act like victims? Do they cry, whine, and sob? Do their cries irritate you like fingernails scratching a blackboard? Would you like it to stop?

Imagine hearing your Cory fight with his older brother. When he sees you coming he starts to cry. As you come closer his cries turn into shrieks and sobs. Between the sobs he tattles on Joe. ‘Oh no,’ you think, ‘not again.’ You know Cory wants to get his older brother, 12 year-old Joe, in trouble.

But Cory is 11 years-old. It’s time to leave the tears behind and start using words.

You ask yourself, “What’s Cory getting by acting like a victim?” It’s true he wants to get Joe in trouble. But why does he whine and sob? This is what little kids do.

Could it be that Cory wants your sympathy, hugs, and soothing words? Does he want to prove he’s weak and can’t take care of himself? Does he want to avoid growing up so you’ll keep babying him? Does he want to avoid being responsible?

You don’t want Cory to see himself as a victim. You want him to stop crying and begin using words when he’s upset. You want him to enjoy becoming a responsible person. What can you do?

Discipline Tips for Kids Who Tattle Like Victims:

  1. It’s time to teach Cory self-discipline. Go for a walk with Cory. Ask him if he’s tired of crying when he’s mad at Joe. Ask him if he’d like to handle conflicts better. Talk to him about the importance of using words without tears when he’s upset. Tell him how proud you’ll be when he talks out his problems without tears.
  2. Role-play a frequent conflict with Joe. Have Cory pretend he’s Joe and you become Cory. Show Cory how you’d like him to act with Joe. Trade roles with Cory. Do this several times. Make it fun. Then discuss how you’d like him to talk instead of cry when he’s mad at Joe. Ask him if he’s willing to try.
  3. Compliment when Cory uses words, acts like he’s growing up, and becoming more responsible when he’s upset with Joe. Do it often.

If you follow these suggestions Cory will cry less. His whining and tears won’t sound like fingernails on a blackboard. He’ll be more responsible too.

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