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Motivation: How This Mother Uses Stories to Motivate Her Kids

Motivation through stories gives your child a jewel to deposit in his memory bank with every story. When he remembers the story he remembers the moral. This moral could help him make good choices throughout his lifetime.

A Motivation Problem:

One mother's son is 9-years-old. He is well liked by all because he's sensitive to others. Yet he sets himself up for disappointment because he expects to succeed with his first effort. His mother is worried.

I think Lora has a solution that this mother might try. You can use it too.

I often use stories of famous people or heroes who overcame obstacles to show that not everyone, in fact no one, gets everything on the first (or second or third) try. The important thing is to keep trying. - from Lora

This reminds me of a character building chart I'm using with a child who's

 learning to read.

He'd like to get everything correct on the first try too. To keep him motivated I

 try 4 things:  

1. His character building chart has this goal at the top: I Keep Trying

 2. Every time he sincerely tries a reading activity he receives a star for his chart.

 3. I change activities often so he won't feel bored.

 4. Like Lora, I use stories before we even start a session.

 For instance, I told him the story of Thomas Alva Edison, the inventor of the light bulb. He

 didn't invent the light bulb on the first try. In fact, Mr. Edison said he knew a thousand ways

 not to invent a light bulb. He never gave up.

So far my young student has 18 stars. He counts them with pride every time he

 adds another star.

If you'd like stories with good morals to motivate your kids, check out these

Short Stories.

To get a ready-made character building chart, pick up my Character Building Kit  and

 watch your child keep on trying.

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Motivation: How This Mom Becomes Her Kids Goal Setting Cheerleader

Your child's motivation may need a boost when she wants to give up. Find out this mom's strategy when her children are discouraged.

I acknowledge how they feel - that they might be discouraged, tired, disappointed, afraid - and remind them that everyone feels that way from time to time. Then I talk about what it will be like when they reach their goal. What it will look like, how they will feel, how others will react (kiddy visualization). Then with me right by their side cheering them on just give them some version of "GO FOR IT". - from Lora B.

I like how Lora starts with kids feelings. Acknowledging those feelings helps kids feel understood. It can motivate too. She also uses visualization to help her kids see and feel the positive picture to strive for. 

Motivation and Goal Setting for Kids Using Visualization:

  1. Ask, how will it look when you reach your goal?
  2. Ask, how will you feel when you reach your goal?
  3. Ask, what can you tell yourself to help reach your goal?

Parents, when your kids can see, feel, and say positive self-talk all in the same moment, their goals will be within reach.

I did this with my son, Brian, when he was 10-years-old. The baseball coach told Brian he would pitch in the next game. Brian had never pitched before. We sat down and did what Lora suggested. Brian saw, felt, and used positive self-talk.

He struck all the batters out. It was amazing. Like Lora I was his biggest cheerleader. 

One more thing, this was his self-talk sentence: "I am pitching powerfully into the catcher's mitt." And he did.

If you'd like my visualization kit for kids go to Goal Setting Pyramid Then watch your child succeed.

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Motivation: How This Grandmother Keeps Grandchildren Motivated

Motivation for pre-schoolers can be difficult. If you have very young children you know their attention spans are short. So how can they learn? Find out what this grandmother does.

For my grandsons, age 3, and 5. I have to keep them moving from one activity to a new one often. I can see when they are losing their focus. Then I stop what we are doing and move to the next.

They like water balloons here in AZ a lot while it is hot outside. Inside they love water paints. - from Annie

Parents, when I taught first grade years ago, I knew the kids needed a change because the wiggles and noise increased. I did what Annie does and changed the activity. I got them out of their seats. Then we'd sing and exercise with silly gestures. As soon as they sat down, I'd teach them something new because their young minds were rested and ready.

(Of course, the first thing I did once I reached home was take a nap until dinner time. You need lot's of energy with little kids.)

What Parents Need to Motivate Young Kids

Like Annie we need to have a number of activities ready, like drawing, painting, puzzles, building toys, and especially colorful children's books. At home it works well when your children pick the next activity from what you set out.

You can also teach them to clean up after each activity. This helps keep toys organized for the next time you need them.

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Motivation: How This Mother Is a Champion at Motivating Kids

Motivation is difficult when kids say, "It's too hard." It can be discouraging when kids won't try. So how do you get kids to keep trying? Here's what my friend Darla advises:

 

Hey Jean, My personal experience as a parent and teacher is that kids are best motivated by previous successes. My advice is to be realistic with your kids; set the hurdle low, show them how to clear it, and then let them clear it. The next thing you know they will be raising the hurdle for themselves. Anybody can clear any hurdle as long as it is low enough. Choose a beginning height that you know your child can clear.

 

Did you notice that Darla, as mother and teacher, starts kids with tasks she knows they will achieve?

 

She sets the hurdle low.

She shows kids how to clear it.

She lets them clear it.

 

She says kids will be raising the hurdle for themselves.

 

Her motto could be: "Anybody can clear a hurdle if it is low enough." 

 

 

I like Darla's hurdle metaphor. The picture of raising the bar is great for kids. It makes use of their imagination and energy.

 

Motivation and What Parents Can Do To Help Kids

 

As parents, let's start where we know our kids can be successful. This gives them the taste of success and encourages them to try the next hurdle as long as it is just a little higher but low enough for them to clear the hurdle. Why? Because success builds on success.

 

One more thing, did you guess that Darla is a true athlete at hurdles? She's won many championships.

 

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Motivation: How Motivating Kids by Example Works for This Mother

Motivation is easier if your child sees your enthusiasm for the things you do. You become the model of  trying to do your best. Let's find out how this mother motivated her daughter for the last 18 years.

My daughter is now 18. The trick has always been the same - teach by example. When I want her to do something, I do it myself. After a couple of days, she models the behavior.

Daughter Models this Behavior  for Two Reasons:

First, she does not want me to nag her about not doing something.

Second, she sees how much happier I am.

The best example of this is exercise. When I start exercising, I am usually happier, more level headed and things do not bother me as much. She will go with me to the gym and just sit on a machine. By the end of the week, she will be doing at least 20 minutes.

The same goes for food choices and everything else. If she sees me doing, she will do it. - from Roxana

Roxana's motivation by example reminds me of my grandson. A few of us were playing alphabet Bingo. I asked,

"Hey, Ethan do you want to play?"

"No Thank you, he answered."

I knew he was feeling a little shy. But I thought, 'If I don't make a big deal about it, he'll come running.' Sure enough as soon as we started he ran to the dining room and became our 4th player. We acted like everything was normal and didn't make a big deal out of it.

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Motivation: How This Mom Finds Resources to Motivate Kids

Motivation to learn grows when you add fun resources to the teachers lessons. Find out how this mother uses orientation day to find the resources she wants.

I love the orientation day when we can meet teachers face to face and get a feel for each other. My favorite tip is to find out ahead of time what the children will be covering for each six week period and find age related resources they can tap for more information and graphic stimulation.  - from Ruth 

How This Mom Exemplifies Being a Parent and a Teacher

Ruth listens to the teacher to:

  1. Find out what the teacher will be covering in the next 6 week period
  2. Looks for age related resources to support what her child will be learning
  3. Makes sure those resources add information and visual stimulation

Imagine how the partnership between you and your child's teacher could promote your child's enthusiasm and learning. Get to know your child's teacher. Find out the curriculum she'll be teaching. Then look for resources on the internet and at the local library. If you do, you'll be motivating your child to learn.

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