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2 Parenting Tips for Building Character and Childhood Responsibility

Parents, life can be tough if your kids aren't responsible. Do you know parents who let their kids play before their chores? Many parents do and then wonder why their kids won't do their chores. Look inside for 2 statements that can turn things around if they're said often and used consistently.

2 Parenting Tips that Build Character and Childhood Responsibility

1.  "Work before play." This daily refrain like a popular melody must be implanted in kids' brains. When kids consistently work before play, they become responsible children.

2.  "First this, then that." Repeat this similar refrain when kids want to shirk their chores, homework, or practices like sports and music lessons.

Samples of both:

1. Do your work before you play with your friends.

2. First practice your guitar then you may watch TV.

One Reason Why Building Character and Childhood Responsibility Is Important

Not long ago I met Officer Stratton. He hoped parents wouldn't be fooled into raising self-indulgent, lazy kids with weak characters. Officer Strutton had worked in a state prison system. He told me, "The number one trait of inmates was laziness. It's what got them there in the first place."

Parents, the above 2 parenting tips can prevent laziness if you're consistent in repeating and following through with them. Use them to build self-discipline, character, and childhood responsibility. They're easy to say and easy to use.

One more thing, you are your child's best teacher.

Do you agree with Officer Stratton? Please comment in the link below.

With warm wishes,

Jean Tracy, MSS

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5 Parenting Tips for Teaching Responsibility through Chores

Would you like 5 parenting tips on how to get your kids to do their chores? Would you like your kids to quit griping too? Look inside for 5 actions you can take to teach responsibility and character through chores.

5 Parenting Tips to Help You Build Character Through Chores

1.  Decide on the right chores for the right age to make sure your kids are old enough.

2.  Take the necessary time to teach how to do each chore so your child can do a good job.

3.  Inspect the completion of your child's work to teach him responsibility.

4.  Track his progress through chore charts to reward him with stickers.

5.  Offer non-material bonding rewards for fun times with you because he  did his chores and didn't gripe.

You can get chore charts with age-appropriate chores and rewards by clicking here  Why? Because if you're a parent, you're a teacher and these will help.

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Motivation: Moms Understand How Yelling and Criticism Hurt Kids

Motivation by yelling takes an extraordinary child to accept it. Most kids aren't that understanding. Today, our guest, Mary L., shares a childhood memory and her view of criticism.

I've known some people who can handle yelling from people whom they are *sure* love them. A childhood friend had a father who yelled; she said calmly, "Oh, he's not mad at me. It's just the way he is, blowing his stack. He can't help himself." from Mary L.

Mary's childhood friend was wise at an early age. As grown-ups many of us still remember and resent our parents for criticizing and yelling at us.

I remember "yelling" at my 3rd graders years ago when we were practicing for our school play. I told them, "If I yell from the floor of the auditorium, don't be upset. I'm not mad I just want you to speak louder." I hoped they'd understand. As it turned out the school, parents, and grandparents all turned out to cheer them on. They were a smashing success.

Here's An Insight about Criticism from Mary L.

 Most kids seem to give up without trying when they think they will be criticized or ridiculed if they do try. Nobody wants to seem a fool. 

I agree with Mary about not trying due to criticism. Many parents think their criticism is helpful. They don't realize that compliments trump criticism. If their kids don't want to try, it could be they fear failing, feeling foolish, and receiving more criticism.

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Motivation: How This Mom Helps Kids by Replacing Nagging with Choice

Motivation and nagging mix like oil and water. When kids are "motivated" by getting parents to quit nagging, positive motivation disappears. Parents, if you could teach your kids how to be motivated from their inner selves, would you do it?

Today Our Guest, Revitalize!, Tells Us How to Motivate Kids from the Inside:

 

I guess a starting point is helping them find a neutral place within themselves to first see if it's something they really want to achieve or do.

 

If it is, then see if they can sense what is getting in their way - know how, lack of confidence, feeling it's impossible etc.

 

That I feel lets them become engaged in the process of discovery which can be empowering to them - along with taking some of our nagging and insisting out of the equation! (been there, done that!!) - from Revitalize!

 

I Like This Discovery Motivation Method Because:

 

1. This mom is teaching her kids to be mindful, to understand themselves, to go inside.

2. These kids them ask themselves, "Is this goal something I really want?"

3. They make a choice. If they want it but are having trouble achieving the goal,

4. They ask themselves, "What is getting in the way of achieving my goal?"

5. They find out if not knowing how, lacking confidence, feeling it's impossible, or something else is getting in the way.

6. These kids can now solve how to get over the hurdles and achieve their goals.

Parents, What Do You Think of Revilatize's Discovery Method for Motivating Kids?

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Motivation: How This Dad Raises Successful Kids

Motivation begins at home. What if your child earned best attitude, grades, and behavior awards? Would you share your parenting skills that led to such success?

Today we have such a dad and he's sharing some of his many secrets.

One of my most effective motivational "methods" is story telling... that is, stories from my experience or other people - famous people or people who screwed up big time.

I like to give my kids a visual of how it looks if they give up and what it would look if they just kept on moving forward.

The results? Both of my kids are honor roll students year after year (now they are 11 and 13); my daughter was voted best 6th grader student (based on attitude, grades, behavior, etc.), best sportsman in 7th grade (based on supporting others, attitude, etc. -- now she's in 8th grade). E.G.

I Like E.G.'s Motivation Tips Because:

  1. He tells stories of himself and famous people. If a picture paints a thousand words, stories add a thousand thoughts. E.G. picks stories that his kids remember. Those stories are motivators.
  2. He even tells stories of people "who screwed up big time." His kids learn how not to do something from these stories.
  3. He paints a picture of what it would look like if his kids didn't try.
  4. He also paints a picture of what it would look like if they "kept on moving forward."

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Motivation: How Yelling Parents Stops Kids from Trying

Motivation helps kids to want to achieve. Yelling stops kids from wanting to try. Kids get mad, stubborn, and sometimes fearful. They hear the angry voice. It blocks their minds from thinking clearly. Let's find out what one mother thinks about yelling and motivation.

This mom from "itsacrazylifewith4," says she knows someone who tends to yell when children give up or "don't do perfection." This is her advice:

I tell my kids that you don't know how you'll do if you don't try. You cannot fail if you at least try and you may succeed more than you thought.

I believe this mother gives good advice because she uses truths to guide her children. If they hear her advice often enough it will become a 'voice' in their thoughts. 

How Your Voice May Help Your Children

When her children's future trials and challenges confront them, they may hear her voice inside their heads saying, "You don't know how you'll do if you don't try. You cannot fail if you at least try and you may succeed more than you thought."

Parents, what do you think of planting wise thoughts in young minds? Why?

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Jean Tracy, MSS

 

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