Are your kids motivated? Or are they a disappointment? If you're like most parents, you'd like your kids to excel at your talents. Sometimes it doesn't work. Find out what this father learned.
How Motivation Can Mean Surrender
"I believe it's important to patiently and with lots of love discover the interests and strengths of your children (we all have a set of strengths and weaknesses) and encourage your child to become the best s/he can be.
They are all unique beings with unique interests and gifts. Yes, I wanted both my kids to be martial artists, speak many languages, and play a few instruments... but I came to realize that they are not me -- my daughter is great at team sports and in academics (I sucked in school); my son is great at technical stuff (I'm still pretty much technologically impaired - I just learned what I need to get by) and is great at building things
It was hard to accept that they will not be what I wanted them to be, but our relationship is much better ever since I surrendered and supported them to become the best they can be based on their gifts, strengths, and interests" - posted by E.G.
I like the secret Mr. Sebastian learned because it put him on the right track.
It can help you too. He separated their talents from his dreams for them. He realized his kids had different talents from his. He surrendered and supported their gifts, strengths, and interests. You can too.
How to Learn Your Kids Talents:
1. Give them lots of experiences.
2. Observe where they excel.
3. Give them choices from what you observe.
Then promote their choices with encouragement, participation, and praise.
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