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Parenting Expert ~ Who Else Wants Tips for Family Conversations?

Building character through family conversations doesn't have to be a mystery.

Family Conversations Ron Huxley
Ron Huxley, LMFT

Our guest blogger, Ron Huxley, is a Marriage and Family Therapist and the author of Love and Limits: Achieving A Balance in Parenting.

Today Ron is offering us tips for holding meaningful family conversations.

"...the answers are all around us. We swim in them. I think there are many, many opportunities for discussions if parents are interested in asking questions and willing to be nonjudgmental in their reactions.

Ron's Easy Family Conversations to Get Kids Talking:

  • about kids views on things in the news
  • about the driver that just cut mom off on the road
  • about people who drink too much 
  • why teachers give so much homework

The process here is probably more important than the product," says Ron.

Jean's Response ~ Parenting Tips for Conversations and Character:

I like Ron Huxley's ideas because when we pay attention to the things around us, there's plenty of good conversation starters. Like Ron said, when you get cut off the road by another driver, there's something to discuss.

Instead of cussing out loud, you can ask your kids, "Did you see that?" Listen to their comments.

Then ask, "What do you think of drivers who cut people off? Why? Listen again. Of course, you can speak but get them to talk first. And like Ron suggested, be nonjudgmental.

What an easy way to get kids thinking, building character, and have a meaningful family conversation too.

Your Action Step:

Look for simple everyday events and discuss them with your kids.

You can contact Ron Huxley at www.ParentingToolbox.com  He is also the Clinical Director at Kinship Center for Children

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 Jean Tracy, MSS

Jean's Website ~ http://www.KidsDiscuss.com     

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Expert Therapist Tells How Using Pictures Helps Kids Talk

Some kids are shy.They don't like speaking in front of others and they fear they'll say something stupid. The suggestions by Susan Bell, a Marriage and Family Therapist, can help.

Family Conversations Susan Bell

Building Character Through Pictures

Building character starts with getting your kids to talk. But if they don't talk, what can you do? Let's listen to Susan Bell.

"Pictures say a thousand words, and using pictures in a collage can help kids express themselves where they might not have the words or courage to speak.

The topic of the pictures could be around:

  • Family events
  • Lineage or simply
  • Telling a story about your family"

Susan Bell, MFT, is at Associated Behavioral Health and Wellness Center

Contact Susan at her Website: http://associatedbehavioralhealthandwellnesscenter.com/SusanBell.en.html

Jean's Response:

I like Susan's ideas. The kids  and parents could have fun putting the collage together. They could find pictures in magazines, newspapers, or use family photos. They could cut out words or letters that spell out character building words like:

  • Love
  • Honesty
  • Gratitude
  • Friendship
  • Patience

and find pictures to match. Then they could take turns explaining the words and the pictures. Once you and your kids start thinking about using pictures or words, there's no end to your creative possibilities.

Parents might have to create rules like:

  • No criticizing
  • No interrupting
  • Listen so you can build your story on what the last speaker said

However you choose to use Susan Bell's ideas, make sure you and your kids are having fun.

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Family Conversations ~ Expert Tells How to Enjoy Great Talks with Your Kids!

If your family conversations don't always run smoothly, listen to our guest blogger, Cindy Rzasa Bess, PhD. Cindy is a Developmental Psychologist, Educational Consultant, and a Professional Speaker.

Family Conversations Cindy Rzsas Best
Cindy Rzasa Bess, PhD.

"There Are a Few Very Important Things to Remember When Conversing with Children:

First, asking "yes" and "no" questions limits conversation. When you ask a question, with the hopes of getting an answer, ask an open-ended question with "how", "what" or "why" as the lead word. Children like it when they can explain something to you.

Second, listen when they speak. Put down what you are doing and sincerely listen to them. In this age of screen and ear plug technology, your child has to know that they are more important than your phone, computer, blackberry, Ipod or Ipad. This also means that you should encourage them to express themselves rather than putting videos on at home or in the car to keep them quiet.

Third, don't interrupt or high jack the conversation... if you want them to speak...listen.

Fourth, encourage them to talk to you by inviting their ideas, thoughts and feelings. That might mean role modeling and sharing appropriate information of your own with your children. Remember feelings are never right or wrong... don't judge... listen.

Lastly, set courtesy boundaries around communication. When they are young teach respect, kindness and empathy. Remind them not to interrupt others, to wait their turn to speak, to keep their "talktime" limited so everyone can add to the conversation, and to ask them to unplug when they are with you in the car or same room. I hope these thoughts are helpful!"

They sure are, Cindy!

Contact Cindy at http://www.thebesschoice.com/

 

If we follow Cindy's advice, we'll have great conversations with our kids. We'll be teaching them life skills that will benefit them now and lead to their future success.

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Parenting Expert ~ The 2 Best Times to Talk with Kids

If getting kids to talk is the first step to building character, it's important to find the time to talk.

Family Conversations Catherine Cameron
Catherine Cameron

Our guest blogger today, Catherine Cameron, is a Birth and Postpartum Expert. She's a Doula and offers childbirth classes, family support, and Reiki and Craniosacral Therapy.

Catherine's 2 Best Times to Talk with Kids:

"I believe timing is important. Know when your children are open to conversation.

If mealtime is a typical gathering time for family, then it presents a great opportunity for discussion.

Another time I find useful for one on one discussion, is before bed. It can be that cuddly comforting time when you can reconnect at the end of the day and possibly recap events or bring up concerns when both parent and child are focused and calm.

You can find out more about Catherine Cameron at her website and blog:

http://www.mindfulconnections.ca/
blog: http://spiralhealinginfo.blogspot.com/

Jean's Response:

I think Catherine's suggested times for conversations with kids are natural times and the easiest for most families. Kids can look forward to these special times to talk and be heard by the people they love most, their parents.

I believe talks with kids build character when the conversation flows easily. If these times don't work for you, consider having your conversation time:

  • right after school with snacks
  • in the car on the way to appointments or sports
  • after Sunday breakfasts

Your task, should you agree, is to make time to enjoy talks with your kids. By listening and caring how your child thinks and feels, you influence your child to develop good character.

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Jean Tracy, MSS

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Family Conversations~How Families Have Fun Together

Family Conversations can create family fun. Our guest blogger today is Chanie Monoker, founder of the DAS Center. He'll tell you what he does to create fun in his family.

Family Conversations Das Center

"There is a "game" called Family Talk (and Family Talk 2) which is a series of cards on a ring with each card containing questions. While no ages are given, different questions are more appropriate for different ages.

It's a great way to have a neutral conversation about things that are meaningful to each person. Things like:

1. What's your favorite... or

2. What's your worst... or

3. Do you remember your driver's test?

The latter might be more appropriate for teens, but even tweens will enjoy listening to others' experiences."

To learn more about Chanie Monoker, go to

http://www.linkedin.com/in/dascenter

Owner at Das Center: Developing Awareness a Student at a time 


Additional Help: 

The Family Discussion Kit

You'll find 51 Dilemmas for Your Family to Enjoy Discussing.


Jean's Response:

I appreciate Chanie's idea about having fun together. Games are a great way to feel closeness and enjoy each other. They promote family conversations too.

Another way to have fun is to work on jigsaw puzzles together. Our extended family uses the easier 300 large piece puzzles. We ask each other for the pieces we need and talk about the puzzle during snack breaks.

We all have different styles. I always look for the outline pieces. My daughter looks for special pictures pieces inside the puzzle. Even my 3-year-old granddaughter finds pieces to add. And my 12-year-old granddaughter hides the last piece so she can add it at the end.

What's really neat is we all work together. We enjoy admiring our completed puzzle together too.

Having ways to enjoy each other goes a long way toward becoming a close-knit loving family.


What Do You Do for Family Fun?

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Cyber Bullying ~ How a Physical Diary Can Help Kids Online

 Cyber Bullying is a legitimate problem for kids online. Find out how a physical diary off line can help them make good decisions about cyber bullying. Adina'sDeck.com tells kids how.

 Adina's Stars 
Stars in the Cast of the DVD, Adina's Deck~The Exclusive Club Solving Cyber Bullying Mysteries

Ask Your Child to Keep a Physical Diary:

"Encourage your child to keep a physical diary of their online actions. A diary that is private from Google Searches. Let them record their thoughts, feelings and interactions they have on the Internet.

This can empower them to take a moment to step away from the technology and reflect about their actions online."

Jean's Response:

A physical diary could help kids make good decisions about cyber bullying. It is hoped they will think before reacting. If they seek revenge through cyber bullying, they may think twice and decide not to be revengeful.

If they are bullied online, perhaps Adina's Deck will help them decide who to tell and what to do. They may even decide to organize a club to solve cyber bullying mysteries at their school.

For more information, contact:

Debbie Heimowith, Debbie@adinasdeck.com

Jason Azicri, Talljas@gmail.com  

or go to http://www.adinasdeck.com  

You can purchase this amazing DVD for less with this hidden promo link ~ http://adinasdeck.com/apromo-2/

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Teaching Kids Peer Mediation for Cyber Bullying

Peer Mediation for cyber bullying is taught in the DVD, Adina's Deck: The Exclusive Club Solving Cyber Bullying Mysteries. Let's find out how.

Meet Some of the Stars in Adina's Deck:Adina's kids in trouble 

"If your child has two friends that are cyber bullying each other, encourage your student to find out about Peer Mediation training at school. Peer Mediation can be an effective  way for your student to help their friends. Make sure one of the parties isn't significantly more powerful than the other party."

In Adina's DVD on cyber bullying, someone is writing nasty stuff about a popular girl. Adina knows more about computers and cyber bullying than her fellow students. Why? She has a  secret. She also knows how to find cyber bullies.

In this DVD Adina shows how to  use her peer mediation "deck" to help both sides find out a way to solve their problem. But that's not the end of it. You'll also find out why the police were called.

I liked the DVD because of the clever way it informs the audience about cyber bullying. I also appreciated the young stars who acted and spoke like real kids because they are real kids.  Adina's Deck ~ The Exclusive Club Solving Cyber Bullying Mysteries appeals to kids too.

For more information, contact:

Debbie Heimowith, Debbie@adinasdeck.com

Jason Azicri, Talljas@gmail.com  

or go to http://www.adinasdeck.com 

You can purchase this amazing DVD for less with this hidden promo link ~ http://adinasdeck.com/apromo-2/

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Is Your Child a Cyber Bully?

Some parents are shocked to learn their kid is a cyber bully. It's what they do next that counts.

While listening to the radio on Interstate 5 today, the news told of a 12-year-old girl whose 2 friends learned her facebook password.

The friends pretended they were her and wrote disgusting things. It went out to all the 12-year-old's friends and friends of friends. She felt crushed, angry, and humiliated.

One of the bully's parents did nothing. The other bully's parents took her laptop away. Which kind of parent would you be?

By the way, one of the bully's appeared before a judge today.

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Actress Adina from Adina's Deck

Let www.Adina's Deck.com  help you. It's a website with great DVD videos that can be used at home and at school to help kids think twice about cyber bullying. Here's some of their advice.

"If you think your child is cyber bullying someone else, they might get defensive and feel unable to discuss this with you. Teach them about their brains, ~ literally:

Online, they don't receive emotional cues. It's much easier for them to act impulsively online and misinterpret information because the brain doesn't receive physical cues that it would normally receive in person. Talking to them like adults can empower them to better act like adults."

Jean suggests a Family Conversation about cyber bullying:

Once you find out exactly what your child wrote online ask the following questions:

1. How do you think the other person felt when she read what you wrote?

2. How do you think her parents feel about you?

3. What will her friends and school think about you when they find out what you did?

4. What will you tell a judge when he asks you to explain your actions?

5. What advice would you give to someone who is an online bully?

If your child refuses to talk, tell her to go to her room and write out the answers before she can come out. Make sure there are no video games, computers, cell phones, or other distractions.

Then tell her to make a plan to make up for what she did. Make sure it directly relates to her cyber bullying.

Considering purchasing this DVD:

Adina's Deck ~ The Exclusive Club Solving Cyber Bullying Mysteries

For more information, contact:

Debbie Heimowith, Debbie@adinasdeck.com

Jason Azicri, Talljas@gmail.com 

or go to http://www.adinasdeck.com 

If your child isn't cyber bullying now, I suggest you copy this blog and save it for the possibility of it happening in the future.

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How to Decrease Stress, Anxiety, and Anger in Kids the Gentle Way

Do your kids act out with anger, fear, or are they depressed? If so, they're reacting to stress. Like many adults they don't know how to handle it.

Lori Lite Indigo Dreams Garden of Wellness
I've had the opportunity to know Lori Lite and review her Indigo Dreams: A Garden of Wellness for kids. It's one of her many CDs for children and teens at http://www.Stress Free Kids.com

Indigo Dreams includes 2 children's stories plus 3 practice tools designed to decrease stress and increase self-esteem.  Her techniques include the Bubble, the Light Shield, and Language Scramble. Children can practice them before falling asleep. They become the tools for handling stress whenever kids need them.

Lori also created stories that entertain children while introducing research-based relaxation and stress management techniques.

Her relaxation music CDs and bedtime stories will give you a variety of tools to make bedtime and stress management easy, available, and fun.

If your children are experiencing stress and you don't know how to help them, go to http://www.StressFreeKids.com

I believe you'll find the help you need.

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5 Things You Can Do Today To Become Happy Parents

Being a happy parent is easy when you follow these tips from Mumtaz Hussain. She is our guest blogger today. We're posting 5 of her 15 ways to be happy.

Happiness is our birthright

When we see a small baby we instinctively squeal with delight at his or her first smile. Our natural human instinct is to lean is towards happiness, but as time passes and the increasing pressures of parenting unfold, we can sometimes lose our mojo.

When that happens it can be hard to retain our sense of perspective and we can fall into the habit of negative thinking. This is very common when we are parents, and the job of raising our children has become a thankless task.

No matter what has happened to wipe that smile off your face, you must try to do whatever you can to put it back, and I don’t mean eating another bar of chocolate or having another plate of samosa!

Here are 5 things you can do today that will bring a smile to your face, if not have you laughing out loud!

1. Avoid negative people.

I don’t really need to expand on this one too much do I? You know who they are, and you know how they make you feel, and you know you need to avoid them. If you can’t avoid them altogether then at least keep them at arms length, and minimise your contact with them.

2. Stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes and smile.

Tell yourself how wonderful you are and that you deserve to be happy. Do this a few times a day, even if it feels silly. This works wonders to lift your spirits!

3. Do some exercise and get some air into those lungs!

We all know that regular activity benefits us enormously, both mentally and physically, even if it’s just for 20 minutes a day. So take a brisk walk, run up and down your stairs a few times, do star jumps during the commercial breaks when you’re watching TV. This will ensure you feel more energised and help you stay trim and fit, which will in turn have a knock-on positive effect on your mood.

4. Put on music that makes you happy, or with lyrics that cheer you up.

Try anything that’s going to put a smile on your face. Dance with your children too! That’s a definite way to ease the tension as well as having fun together as a family!

5. Watch comedy shows, funny movies or go to a comedy night.

Happiness is the aim here and what could be better than laughing? If you watch a funny movie with your children then they will feel a strong sense of belonging which will strengthen family ties, and reduce tension.

To read the complete article go to:
http://www.lovingyourchild.com/2010/12/tips-happy-parents/

  My name’s Mumtaz Hussain and I believe every woman, man and child deserves to feel great in their lives, no matter what stage of life you’re in! Find out more about me here. http://mumtazhussain.com/ 

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