Parents, Teach Children "Thank You" Anyway!
If you’re a parent who teaches your children life skills, you mustn’t forget to teach these 2 skills. They are so important that our parenting expert, Kathy Slattengren, wrote about them in her parenting book, Priceless Parenting Guidebook. Let’s see what she says.
"Showing respect is a fundamental skill all children need to develop. As parents we can both model respectful behavior and guide our children in behaving respectfully.
One of the most basic forms of showing respect is to use “please” and “thank you.” It is our job to teach our children to appropriately say “please” and “thank you.” When children lack these basic courtesies, it causes problems.
For example, one aunt explained how hard she worked to find neat gifts for her three nephews. When opening the gift they would often say things like:
“I don’t really like this.”
“This isn’t what I wanted.”
Unfortunately, the parents did not step in to help their sons learn that these types of responses were hurtful and in appropriate.
At another holiday gathering children were wildly opening gifts without paying much attention to who the gift was from never mind actually thanking the person for the gift. The children threw aside each gift and anxiously started tearing the wrapping from the next gift. Again the parents failed to set up appropriate rules or expectations for the gift opening.
It’s critical to teach children how to politely handle situations involving gifts. By discussing what to say under various situations ahead of time, children will be better prepared to act graciously even when receiving a gift they really aren’t excited about.
It can also be helpful to agree on a gentle reminder signal, life a light touch on the ear, if children forget to say thank you.
There are many daily opportunities for children to practice saying “please” and “thank you.”
. Asking for things to be passed at meal time
. When leaving a friend’s house
. Making a request for help
Use situations like these to help your children practice their skills.
Parenting Action Step:
Ask your children how they would like you to remind them, if they forget to say “thank you” and “please.”
The above post was from pages 15 and 16 in Priceless Parenting Guidebook: Ideas for Handling Everyday Parenting Challenges
Let's give Kathy a HAND for reminding us to teach these 2 important life skills. Let's practice her action step too.
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Jean Tracy, MSS
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