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Parenting Tips: 6 Friendship Skills to Help Your Child Make Friends

If You're Raising a Lonely Child, could learning Friendship Skills help him? Certainly!

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Lonely Kids Don't Have Friends

Now you can coach your child on how to make exactly what he needs - FRIENDS.

Imagine your child complaining, "I don't want to go to school, EVER! You ask, "Why?"

"Nobody Likes Me. Everybody hates me."

At school and in the neighborhood he's tried using:

1. Sarcasm to appear clever. Kids' feelings were hurt and they walked away.

2. Bragging to appear important. Kids' didn't like feeling 'less than' so they avoided him.

3. Silence and they ignored him.

You love your child and want to help. 

 

How Can Parents Help Kids Make Friends?

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Let's Find Out How!

 

Rubber Band Ruby Learns to Play Other Kids’ Games

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Ruby Stopped Pouting and Started Playing

 

Eyeball Eddie Learns Direct Eye Contact

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Eddie Put on a Happy Face with Direct Eye Contact

 

Upbeat Betty Learns This Social Skill for Making Friends

 

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Betty Learned that Kids Love to Hear Their Own Names

 

Bentley the Braggart Needs to Give Praise

 

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Bentley Turns from Being Self-Centered to Other-Centered

 

Ice Breaker Brenda Learns This Communication Skill

 

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Brenda Learns What Kids Love to Talk About

 

Nail Biting Nate Learns To Take a Breath

 

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Nate Learns How Breathing Calms Him Down So He Can Talk

 

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3 Ways: How Parents Give Children Love and Confidence

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Parents Who Love Kids "Just Right"

HOW TO PARENT WITH LOVE AND CONFIDENCE is the subject of our parenting skills author, Dr. Robin Berman.

In her book, Permission to Parent, Dr. Robin says, "Lasting bonds are forged through a combination of love, limits, and time." Today she'll share how to love your kids "just right."

Dr. Robin Berman offers stories from her student days as an intern. An older woman, who was dying of cancer said, "I want my mom." Even though her mother had died many years ago, her mom's love gave her the comfort she needed. The old woman carried that love throughout her life. It was that loving bond which helped her now.

Throughout her book, Dr. Robin shares stories that reinforce her point, a loving parent/child bond is everything. I was inspired by her tale of the man in his eighties and of the young mute girl who was dying of AIDS and why she spoke to the author.

Love, limits, and time are Dr. Robin's recipe for family peace. She not only uses stories to show how the parent/child bond works, she uses insightful quotes from ordinary moms and dads like:

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The Loving Connection

"It' is all about the connection. I want my daughter to feel how much I love her. I slow it down, I get low. I sit on the floor. I meet her where she is. I don't parent from above. I want to reach her, eye to eye, soul to soul." - Father of three

Reaching your child and making the connection is another point Dr. Robin makes. But some parents reach too far. They are "helicopter parents" because they hover too close. Instead of making their kids strong through their love, they make their children anxious.

3 Examples of What Helicopter Parents Do:

1. They rush to do their child's work.

2. They try their best to prevent all pain.

3. They send the message, "You need me because you can't do things on your own."

Dr. Robin calls this "Bubble wrapping." Helicopter parents prevent their kids from thinking, "I can do it myself."

The author also explains how parents can give healthy love that fosters independence and security.

3 Ways Parents Love Best:

1. They respond with a soothing calmness.

2. They give the child room to solve problems on their own.

3. They send the message, "You can do it. I believe in you."

This kind of love gives the child a belief in himself and leads to self-confidence.

Parents who aren't sure if they're doing too much or too little will appreciate this book. It clearly shows them how to give their children the love that lasts a lifetime. 

Many parenting authors write fine books. Dr. Robin's book is among the best because she focuses on the foundation - LOVE. She knows the way to parenting "just right."

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If you'd like a parenting book that lays out step-by-step tips and truths, pick up Permission to Parent - How to Raise Your Child with Love and Limits. Your children will profit and so will you.

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Let's THANK our Parenting Skills author, Dr. Robin Berman, for sharing her positive insights into parenting "just right."

Dr. Robin Berman

Robin Berman, MD

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Brain Power: How Parents Teach Children Goal-Setting

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Now parents can teach kids how to set goals in 3 simple steps. To show what I mean, I made a YouTube video which I'll share below. It includes some of the following:

Imagine this boy shaking as he shares his book report.  Facing his fellow students he tries to remember his thoughts but his throat is dry and he can't talk. After rushing to his seat he buries his   head in his arms and tries not to cry.

Telling him to relax won't work. What I'm about to share will.

Your child doesn't have to feel panic. Instead of fearing class presentations, he can visualize them before they even happen. When he gets up in front of his classmates, he will do well if he's followed the 3 steps. Why? Because his visualization, one of the steps, works like a rehearsal.

 

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Reaching Goals Lifts Your Child's Spirits.

Would you like your child to feel great?  When kids create goals and reach them, their spirits soar. It gives them confidence to try again. The method you are about to teach your child offers them a method to use for life.

You can use it too. As a counselor, I've taught it to many adults. They were amazed at what they achieved.

Teach Your Child to Pick a Realistic Goal

Advise your child to choose a goal that she truly wants to accomplish, like catching fly balls, singing a song on key, playing her guitar for the school assembly, or talking to kids she'd like for friends but is afraid to approach.

The Goal Must Be Actionable:

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2. It needs to be time limited - something she could accomplish in a specific amount of time.

3. She must have the resources she needs to make it happen. For instance, if she doesn't have access to a guitar, playing for the school assembly is only a dream not a goal.

Here are the 3 Steps to Achieving Goals:

1. Say It.

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"I am seeing the audience liking my solo."

Say, "I am..." + Goal (as if it is already reached.)

2. Sense It.

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He's sensing the feeling he wants.

Your child must choose and sense the feeling he wants, like joy.

3. See it.

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I am looking at my class as I give my science report.

Visualize it! He must look out toward the goal rather than see himself. He won't be looking at himself when he gives his report. He'll be looking at the class.

Say It. Sense It. See It Altogether in One Moment

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I am seeing, sensing, and saying my goal as if I've already achieved it.

Say It. Sense It and See It Morning and Night Until the Goal Is Reached

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Advise your child to see it, sense it, and say it before rising in the morning and before sleeping at night.

Pick up your copy of my Goal-Setting Kit which includes:

  • Easy directions designed by professional child counselor.
  • Cutout Goal Setting Pyramid. Print as many as you wish on on card stock.
  • 6 goal setting cards(use card stock) Print as many as you wish.
  • Parenting article on goal setting for kids.
  • 80 activity rewards
- See more at: http://www.kidsdiscuss.com/parent_resource_center.asp?pr_id=kd004#sthash.oTof2CBg.dpuf

1. Easy Directions

  • Easy directions designed by professional child counselor.
  • Cutout Goal Setting Pyramid. Print as many as you wish on on card stock.
  • 6 goal setting cards(use card stock) Print as many as you wish.
  • Parenting article on goal setting for kids.
  • 80 activity rewards
- See more at: http://www.kidsdiscuss.com/parent_resource_center.asp?pr_id=kd004#sthash.oTof2CBg.dpuf1. Easy directions

2. Cutout goal-setting pyramid

3. 6 goal-setting cards

4. 80 activity rewards

The Goal-Setting Video

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Building Self-Confidence: Revolutionary Help for Women and Girls

 

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Raising Your Daughter's Confidence

Is your girl's self-confidence related to your confidence? Yes!

If you're a mom, have you ever asked yourself,

How can I get my daughter to,

1. Raise her hand in class?

2. Stop worrying about looking and being perfect?

3. Bounce back from failures and try again?

Could boys profit from the lessons in this book? Certainly! I refer to girls because they're generally plagued with fears of imperfection more than boys.

Today I'll review The Confidence Code, the perfect book to help you and, in turn, help your daughter grow. Here's my review:

“Think Less. Take Action. Be Authentic.” – Claire Shipman and Katty Kay

The Confidence Code reveals the pervasive and deep-seated problems women and girls experience with perfectionism. Through scientific research and interviews with the world’s most powerful women, the authors, Claire Shipman and Katty Kay, give us the secret to building confidence and shaking off failures.

The authors, both high achievers as television journalists, share their personal difficulties with being confident. Their transparency makes them believable.

Readers will say, “I’ve done that” or “I’ve felt that way.”

In the end, they’ll be encouraged to embrace the code and travel the high road to self-assurance.

Themes within This Revolutionary Book Are:

1. Overcoming the blacklist of perfectionism.

2. Being willing to take reasonable risks.

3. Accepting failures as "no big thing."  

You'll learn how to think, deal with feelings, and make your life more meaningful when you read and practice the confidence code. Share what you learn with your children.

If you're a woman who wants to improve your life and help your daughters, read The Confidence Code. It will help you break the chains of perfectionism, become your authentic self, and experience a profound freedom deep within. What a treasure to share with your child!

Teach Your Daughter These Important Lessons:

1. Shake off failure by stopping the overthinking that holds them back.

2. Get back in the game with clear enthusiastic thoughts.

3. Be willing to make mistakes and try again.

4. Take the risks that promote growth.

When you learn the code and practice it, you'll boost your self-assurance and take your life to the next level. You'll be the model your daughter needs.

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I chose the hard cover version to read because it’s easy to copy quotes, write notes, and add the page numbers I want to return to. It’s also available on other devices like the kindle.

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Let's THANK Claire Shipman and Katty Kay for writing this revolutionary book.

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