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The Family Team: 5 Questions to Ask Kids about Chores + Video

                                                                                                                             Meme Chores

IF YOU WANT YOUR FAMILY TO BE A TEAM for learning, fun, and chores, keep reading.

Today I'll share 3 reasons chore lists are good for kids, a short cartoon video, and 5 discussions questions to get your children thinking.

How Chore Lists Help Kids

1. Chores help kids become responsible.

Responsibility in children and adults makes them honored contributors to the family and society. Irresponsible people, on the other hand, are tough to respect.

2. Chores make children self-reliant.

Instead of waiting or hoping someone will do their work for them, kids will know how to take care of themselves. Cooking, folding clothes, making beds, mowing lawns, and washing dishes are a few chores that help them become self-reliant. Helpless people are rarely admired.      

3. Chores help youngsters become self-disciplined.

If they learn the motto, "First work then play," they'll accomplish much and create an important life skill. Undisciplined folks can't be trusted to follow through.

As you discuss the questions below the video with your kids, listen more than talk. If you don't care for what your children are saying, don't shut them down. By listening well, they'll feel heard and you'll have more power to influence better thinking.

Here's the YouTube Video, Building Character: How Parents and Kids Discuss Chores, to Watch with Your Kids:

 

Your children might not come up with 3 ideas. That's OK. The purpose of the video is to set the stage for discussing chores with kids.

5 Problems with Chores:

Most parents and children don't 'jump for joy' doing household jobs.

Here are 5 questions to ask your children:

1. What could happen if the whole family decided not to do household chores?

2. How much fun would it be to live in a messy disorganized home? Why?

3. How easy would it be to find what you need? Describe what could happen?

4. Would you like to bring friends into your dirty home? Why?

5. If each member pitched in with the chores without grumbling, how would it feel to live in your home? Why?

Along the side of this blog, you'll find 5 more questions to ask either now or later at a family dinner. Enjoy the discussions.

Children are more likely to cooperate with chores if they can share their own solutions.

If you'd like more help to achieve cooperation with household duties, here's my

Chore Chart Kit

It Includes:

  • More Tips and Advice
  • A List of Age-Appropriate Chores
  • A Chore Chart to Copy again and again
  • 80 No-Cost Rewards to Create Family Fun and Bonding

Pick it up at www.KidsDiscuss.com

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Jean Tracy, MSS

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Brain Power : 6 Ways to Help Your Child Watch TV and Thrive

You've heard the warnings, "Television is bad for your child!"

You work Meme TV Strategieshard while your child watches lots of television. You worry about his brain. Will it be influenced by harmful TV shows? "What can you do? 

Today we'll share some research, 6 parenting tips, and a short YouTube video.

Parenting Advice from Research: 

1. Create consistent rules.

2. Follow routines.

3. Schedule a regular bedtime.

4. Read to children often.

5. Take kids to the library.

6. Teach youngsters their colors, shapes, and alphabet before kindergarten.

7. Avoid TV for children less than 2 years.

By doing the above you'll be setting the stage for raising successful children. But as your kids get older they'll tend to watch more TV. Could it ruin what you've taught?

You don't want your youngsters watching shows that poison their minds. You wish the TV producers would keep bad material off the air. But everyone says it's your responsibility to monitor what your kids watch. Is there anything you can do besides locking your TV in the trunk of your car or taking it to the dump? After all, there are great programs too.

You want your children to play, make friends, and have fun. Such healthy activities boost their brain power. So where does TV fit in?

6 Ways for Your Child to Watch Television and Develop Brain Power:

1. Limit TV time. Say, "Homework and chores first then TV." Encourage playing outside with neighborhood kids too.

2. Choose the programs that enrich their minds. Check the TV guide each week and find entertaining educational programs for them to watch.

3. Discover television shows that help your child with her research project or help excite her passion about saving whales, sharing her allowance with a child in another country, or something else.

4. Mute TV commercials and ask your child, "What do you think will happen next?" In this way you'll be influencing his thoughts.

5. Switch or turn off objectionable shows; the ones that promote violence, disrespect, and sex. Explain to your child why you don't want them to watch the inappropriate material.

6. Ask questions that promote thinking, listen, and then give your opinion. In this way, you'll be promoting your positive values through healthy discussions.

If you'd like 137 more ways to help your child succeed in school and in life, pick up your copy of Parents as Teachers

 

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Available at:

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You'll receive 137 ideas to help your child succeed from birth to 9 years.

Now for the Short YouTube Video: 6 Best TV Strategies to Help Your Child Succeed

137 Teaching Ideas from Birth to 9 Years

  

 

 

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Parenting Tips: Discover 4 Secrets for Getting Your Kids to Talk

 

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When Parents Listen Well, Kids Will Talk

GETTING YOUR KIDS TO TALK IS EASY when you read our parenting tips and watch the short video below. It doesn't take an expert to figure out why some kids won't talk. It does take watching, thinking, and trying new behaviors. Today I'll share:

  • 3 reasons why parents need their children to speak up
  • 3 reasons why kids won't talk
  • 4 ways to get your youngsters to talk

When families move faster than the speed of life to get things done and fall asleep exhausted, they don't have time to enjoy each other. To form a bond that includes warm conversations, families must decrease their load, drop out of some activities, and slow down. Why?

Parents Want the Best for Their Kids

But how will they know what's best if kids don't talk? Being a stranger to your children is being in the dark with the people you love most.

3 Reasons Why Parents Need to Get Their Kids to Talk

1. They need to know how their youngsters think.

2. They need to know what their kids feel.

3. When parents know how they think and feel; they will be able to guide them.

Children don't like being told HOW they think or feel. If you've ever had someone tell you how you feel, and that person was wrong, you can imagine how mistaken a parent can be if their kids don't tell them.

3 Reasons Why Kids Won't Talk

Of course, some children are affected by traumas. But we're talking about ordinary children who keep their thoughts and feelings to themselves. Here are 3 things that keep them quiet.

1. Parents who put them down, use sarcasm, or keep interrupting.

2. Parents with short fuses who get angry and make them nervous.

3. Parents who don't take time to listen because they're too busy or not interested.

In these situations kids turn inward with their thoughts and feelings. Sometimes they talk to unwise companions but not to their parents. So what do parents need to get their youngsters to talk? They need the 4-Point-Plan.

How the 4-Point-Plan Helps Kids Speak Up

1. Children will talk if parents PROBE gently with caring questions.

2. Kids will talk if parents slow down and LISTEN with interest.

3. Youngsters will talk if parents APPRECIATE what their kids say.

4. They will talk if parents remember, "NO CRITICISM."

To Remember How to Get Kids to Talk Just Post the PLAN:

Probe

Listen

Appreciate

No criticism

Post the 4-Point- PLAN where you can easily see it. Let me know the results.

For more help in getting your kids to talk, pick up:

 

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The YouTube Video: How to Get Your Kids to Talk

  

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4 Loving Messages: How to Launch Your Child's Self-Image

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Children Leap for Joy When They Find Your Loving Notes

Your Child's Self-Image Is Important to You.

You want her to feel confident and believe in herself. Is there a simple way to increase her self-worth? Certainly!

Today I'll share a video and its script to get you started.

 

 

 

 First, Here's Something Important to Know

Research tells us that doing something randomly increases its meaning. Giving something too often lessens its power.

For instance, if you give your child a big bowl of ice cream every day for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and for snacks in between, she might lose her desire for ice cream. I don't suggest you experiment with this.

But wonder if ice cream was a special treat to enjoy once in a while. How might she feel about it then?

Love notes, given when least expected, could raise her self-esteem. Rather than giving a loving message 5 times a day like the ice cream example, a loving comment might do more good 3 or 4 times a week.

Kids Delight in Surprises

I suggest you rotate putting a loving comment in her shoe, under a pillow, in her favorite cup, or her favorite cereal box. Once you start, you'll think of lots of places to hide them.

Now for the Script and Video:

Parenting Kids with Love Notes

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3 Rules for Love Notes

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1. Be Specific

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2. Be Honest

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3. Be Positive

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Complete the 4 Loving Messages:


 1. I Love Your Smile Because...

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I Admire Your Artwork Because...

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I'm Glad When You're a Good Sport Because...

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I'm Pleased When You Offer to Help Because...

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Raising Your Child's Self-Esteem Is Easy with

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Pick up 75 Love Notes in the Parent Affirmations Kit at:
www.KidsDiscuss.com

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The video puts it altogether:

 

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