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How to Teach Your Bossy Child 7 Leadership Skills

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Bossy Kids Can Become Leaders

IF YOUR CHILD IS TOO BOSSY AND KIDS ARE REJECTING HIM, it can be painful for him and for you. Most children don't have a clue about leadership skills. Yet, they want other kids to follow their lead.

Keep reading to find out the 7 bossy behaviors that turn kids off and the 7 leadership skills your child can learn.

You can teach these skills with helpful conversations, role-playing activities, and/or charting your child's new leadership abilities.

One leadership tip includes resolving conflicts. The key is negotiation. Here are 3 easy things your child can learn to do:

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Leaders Can Resolve Conflicts

1. Ask questions about the conflict and listen to the other' answers.

2. Find out if there is something both sides share in common. This is called 'Common Ground.' Your child can help each side achieve the 'wants' they have wants in common.

3. Then have him ask the big question once tempers cool down and both sides feel listened to. "How can we both win?" or "How can you both win?"

This one skill can be practiced at home by you whenever conflicts arise. Because it's practiced at home, your child will know how use it with classmates and friends.

Can you see how this skill can help change your child from a bossy boy to a trusted leader?

Read more to find out the other 6 simple leadership skills you can teach your child:

7 Leadership Skills Your Bossy Child Must Learn 

http://kidsdiscuss.com/feature_article.asp?fa_id=182

As your child practices these skills, watch him smile as he becomes a likable leader.

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Parenting Video: How Bossy Kids Become Leaders

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Teaching Your Bossy Child Leadership Skills

WHEN YOUR CHILD IS BOSSY, does he only care about getting his way? Perhaps he tells kids what to do or what to play. If so, he has the Bossy Kid Problem and you can help him change.

Bossy kids get rejected. It hurts your child and it probably hurts you too. Did you know you can turn your bossy child into a good leader?

Research tells us there are 7 leadership traits your child can learn. Imagine role-playing this one technique, active listening, with your youngster. Of course, you’d want to share these ideas first:

3 Facts Your Strong-Willed Child Needs to Know:

1. Kids care about themselves, their own ideas, and activities.

2. Children don’t want to hear you brag or tell them what to do.

3. When you ask questions and listen to them, it makes them feel good.

First Leadership Behavior - Listen Actively

Explain to your student, “After you ask another child about himself and he’s finished talking, prove you listened.” He may ask, “How?”

Tell him, “It’s easy. All you need to do is repeat the last part of the other child’s words. This helps the other kid remember where he left off and makes it easy for him to keep talking. He’ll love it.”

Role-Play Active Listening

Listen to your child. Repeat part of his last sentence. Listen some more. When he’s finished ask how he felt and then point out how you repeated some of his words and how he continued speaking. Next have him try it by listening to you.

Role-play until it becomes a habit in your home. It will help him practice this listening technique with others. Kids won’t call him, “Bossy.” He may even become a trusted leader because he cared about listening to them.

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Gift: This Resilient Poem about Inner Guides Helps Kids

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Inner Guides Help Kids Think Before They Act

If you're worried about your distracted child and his concentration problems, then you'll want to introduce him to his Inner Guide.

When your child slows down, goes inward, and asks, “What’s the best thing to do in this situation?” he’s contacting his Inner Guide. Many times he’ll find the answer he needs.

Each of us has an Inner Guide. Some call it a Loving God. Others say it’s a helpful conscience. Still others might say it is our intuition, a gut felt sense, or an angel. People even give their Inner Guide a name. It’s up to you on how you’d like to present it.

Inner Guides have great value because they help your child take the time to reflect, ask questions, and think before he acts.

Choose to read this poem together. Ask your child to memorize it, cut it out, and/or post in a convenient place as a reminder for him to tune into his Inner Guide. It can help him concentrate, focus better, face difficult situations, and be more resilient.

Pick up your gift, A Resilient Poem: Your Child’s Inner Guide 

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