PARENTING A CHILD BULLY IS FRUSTRATING WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. If you find you're constantly stepping in the middle and it isn't working, keep reading. Today I'll share 3 tips you can easily use and a 1 minute video with 11 positive suggestions.
You'll know that bullying is occurring, if one child wants power over the other and wants to hurt the other with hitting, or yelling, or put-downs.
Of course, don't let jealousy be a cause for one child bullying the other. Do your best to show love, attention, and approval equally. Also separate your kids when the fighting starts. Here are 2 ways you can do that:
1. First Tip: Send each child to their rooms to hit their pillows at least 10 times. The idea is to help them let off the steam of anger, anxiety, and revenge. When they are done, get them to talk about the fighting and how to solve it. Let the solutions come from them.
2. Second Tip: Tell them to go to separate boring places in your home where they can't be in contact with each other.
Avoid their bedrooms because they could end up playing with toys instead of thinking about solutions.
Put the timer on for 5 minutes for them to come up a better way to handle the conflict.
Don't let them come up with easy immediate answers just so they won't have to be by themselves and think.
When the 5 minutes is up, listen to both sides. No interrupting by you or them.
In the end, have them act out their solutions.
Third Tip: Use this suggestion when the kids are getting along. A family meeting is ideal.
Discuss the problem with fighting.
Make sure they share their ideas without anyone interrupting.
This is a good time to practice listening skills. They must look at each other and repeat the other's ideas correctly before they get their turn to speak. The goal is to make sure each child feels heard.
Now please watch the 1 minute YouTube video with 11 more suggestions:
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