Timid kids feel pain. Parents watch and suffer. Loneliness wins.
Imagine your child sitting alone in the lunchroom thinking,
“No one will sit with me. Nobody likes me.”
What does she feel? Does she rush to the bathroom and hide until classes start again?
Bashful kids don’t have to be friendless. You can help. There is a 3-part blueprint that works.
Go slow. Keep the steps small. Why? Because shy kids are overwhelmed by fearful thoughts and feelings. Big leaps don’t work.
3 Don’ts for Overcoming Shyness
- Don’t speak up for your children because they’ll lose the chance to speak up for themselves.
- Don’t make excuses for your children because they’ll rely on those excuses and not try.
- Don’t put your children down for being shy because your comments will add to their misery.
3 Do’s for Helping Shy Kids Make Friends
- Do ask if they’d like to make friends because you want to know if they’ll cooperate.
- Do ask, “What stops you from making friends?" because the answer is important and will help you guide them with the blueprint.
- Do tell them that making friends is a skill they can learn because it will give them the hope they need.
Shy kids need your patience because impatience shuts them down. Remember, even tiny steps require taking risks. Your children may never become an outgoing extrovert or big talker. But, with your help, they can overcome loneliness and satisfy their need for a few close friends.
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