Parenting Kids to Learn with 7 Motivating Questions - Gift

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DR. SEUSS MOTIVATED KIDS. Parents, by asking children the right questions, you can motivate them too. Knowing the best questions is the subject of this gift.

Imagine your child giving up. You've tried everything to encourage your child. You've even:

  1. Bribed him with expensive rewards.
  2. Lectured her about not getting into college.
  3. Threatened him with punishment.
  4. Ignored her discouragement.
  5. Yelled at him.
  • Bribing might work for a few weeks. But, if bringing their grades up takes a few months, many children will give up. Besides do you really want to be a briber?  If you do, you might have to bribe your kids for everything.  That means only big external rewards will get them to perform. The important internal rewards like satisfaction, curiosity, and excitement could be lost.
  • Lecturing about college and getting a good job, like bribing, doesn't motivate because it's too far into the future.
  • Punishment may make them rebel.
  • Ignoring their discouragement may give them the idea, 'Mom doesn't care so it doesn't matter.'
  • Yelling, like punishment, will probably backfire.

But there are better ways to motivate your child.

 

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Ask Motivating Questions

 

Pick up today's handout with its 7 questions. Keep it handy. When your child needs encouragement, choose the best question for that moment.  Be an investigator, listen well, use empathy if appropriate, and be consistent.

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Successful Kids - 10 Parenting Strategies that Motivate Kids

 

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DOES YOUR CHILD COMPLAIN, “I can’t,” or “It’s too hard?” If you’d like to motivate him, check the strategies inside this parenting gift. Find the ones you can start using today.

If your daughter has a long habit of negative self-talk, you’ll need to repeat the methods often to remind her that she can succeed.

Should you be an optimistic parent, you may have an easier time helping your child become positive like yourself. Why? Positive people attract. They tend to be magnetic because they share a hopeful energy that others like to be near. That’s why they are successful. As long as you don't overdue it, your positive style will attract your child too.

Negative parents repel.

In today’s parenting gift, you'll find ideas for boosting your child’s:

  1. Efforts
  2. Imagination
  3. Goals
  4. Self-pride
  5. Self-talk

Getting A’s must not be what success is about. Why? Because sooner or later even the very bright child will fail at something. The fear of failing could slow down his desire to try. The risk is just too great.

But risk is the key to succeeding. Risk is about effort, grit, and the willingness to stick one's neck out.

Please download this gift and, if you don’t need it immediately, add it to your 3-hole binder for future reference. You never know which idea you might need for raising your successful child.

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7 Parenting Tips – How to Raise Motivated Kids + Video

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Turn Your Depressed Kid into a Happy Learner

 

YOUR DISCOURAGED CHILD MAY BE HOOKED ON NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. If so, you'll hear a hopeless tone with pessimistic words like:

  1. Why should I try?
  2. I’ll never use it.
  3. It’s boring.

What can you do to change her mind? Today’s video helps you turn your child’s dark thinking into bright ideas.

This video encourages your child to change his ‘can’t-do attitude’ into a ‘can-do mindset.’ You’ll be helping him compare the depressing feeling of giving-up to the enthusiastic sense of trying. How? With the 7 meaty discussions you find inside. 

The discussion questions are listed within the video.

You’ll also find 5 self-talk rhymes besides the 3 listed below to keep her joy of learning alive. Positive rhymes that become part of your child’s thinking pattern will help her stay motivated when she repeats them often. They're especially helpful when learning is tough.

  1. I feel my true grit when I lose, I don’t quit.
  2. I’m the guy who loves to try.
  3. Learning’s my style because trying’s worthwhile.

Even if your child doesn’t show signs of discouragement, listen to the video below. You’ll be glad you did.

 

 

 

You can also watch it on YouTube to leave me a comment. I'd love to hear what you think. 

 The Motivated Child – How Parents Raise Can-Do Children

 

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How Parents Turn Bullies into Respectful Children - 1 Minute Video

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Parents CAN Stop Bullying at Home.

 

PARENTING  A CHILD BULLY  IS FRUSTRATING WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. If you find you're constantly stepping in the middle and it isn't working, keep reading. Today I'll share 3 tips you can easily use and a 1 minute video with 11 positive suggestions.

You'll know that bullying is occurring,  if one child wants power over the other and wants to hurt the other with hitting, or yelling, or put-downs.

Of course, don't let jealousy be a cause for one child bullying the other. Do your best to show love, attention, and approval equally. Also separate your kids when the fighting starts. Here are 2 ways you can do that:

1. First Tip: Send each child to their rooms to hit their pillows at least 10 times. The idea is to help them let off the steam of anger, anxiety, and revenge. When they are done, get them to talk about the fighting and how to solve it. Let the solutions come from them.

2. Second Tip: Tell them to go to separate boring places in your home where they can't be in contact with each other.

Avoid their bedrooms because they could end up playing with toys instead of thinking about solutions.

Put the timer on for 5 minutes for them to come up a better way to handle the conflict.

Don't let them come up with easy immediate answers just so they won't have to be by themselves and think.

When the 5 minutes is up, listen to both sides. No interrupting by you or them.

In the end, have them act out their solutions.

Third Tip: Use this suggestion when the kids are getting along. A family meeting is ideal.

Discuss the problem with fighting.

Make sure they share their ideas without anyone interrupting.

This is a good time to practice listening skills. They must look at each other and repeat the other's ideas correctly before they get their turn to speak. The goal is to make sure each child feels heard.

Now please watch the 1 minute YouTube video with 11 more suggestions:

Click on: Sibling Bullying - How Parents Can Stop It

 

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Parenting Headstrong Kids - 5 Solutions in 1 Minute Video

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Power Struggles with Your Strong-Willed Child
Can Be Solved!


THINK OF HANDLING STUBBORN CHILDREN LIKE METAL BEADS AND A MAGNET. Your child's stubborn behaviors are the metal beads. Your reactions are the magnet. Each stubborn behavior can cause a swift and powerful clash if you let yourself explode with emotion. This doesn't have to happen.

Consider Using Logic by Asking Yourself 3 Questions:

1. What are the consequences to our relationship if I consistently blow-up?

       When I continually react with anger, his stubbornness hardens even more. Respect dies.

2. What are better ways of reacting to his stubbornness?

         I can use a kind, firm, and self-controlled voice.  With time and repetition, mutual respect could grow.

3. Are there specific ways to be the respectful parent and turn his headstrong behaviors into cooperative ones?

        If you draw a blank, watch our 1 minute video below. You'll find 5 solutions you can start using today.

Please remember, no parent is perfect. We all get over-stressed and lose our tempers. Don't get down on yourself if this happens to you. Just reconfirm your commitment to be a respectful parent.

One more thing, you CAN make the magnetic pull between you and your child into a pleasant and positive relationship.

Click on: Have a Headstrong Child? 5 Solutions

 

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The Sarcastic Parent - How to Use Praise Instead - 1 Minute Video

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Sarcasm Hurts Children

 

If you’re a parent who ridicules your child, and your sarcasm is backfiring, you must change. Why? Because getting your friends to laugh at your youngster causes her pain. Don’t be surprised when your parent and child relationship suffers and your friends gossip behind your back.

Today we’ll share a video with a 1 minute parenting tip that shares a specific suggestion on how to change. We’ll even include the script.

Sarcastic Parents - Don't Push Your Child Away 

 




Transcript:

Don’t Push Your Child Away

A 60 Second Parenting Tip

Avoid Sarcasm.

You may be witty, a jokester, or very funny.

But it can be hurtful if your child is the object of your jokes.

When others laugh at her she could feel ashamed or ridiculous and foolish.

Stop! Sarcasm can backfire on you.

Your kids could avoid you now and, in the future, too.

Catch your child being good instead.

Tell him specifically what you like.

Use positive words and a pat on the back.

Keep your child close with honest compliments.

 

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Parenting Checklist - 10 Listening Mistakes to Avoid

 

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Parenting Errors That Must Be Changed

Every parent makes mistakes. Some apologize. Others don't understand what they're doing wrong. But they sense they're making blunders because their children are shutting down.

Today's parenting gift helps those parents. We'll look through the "eyes of youngsters" and see what messages  children could be receiving when parents are too busy for them.

Imagine what children think when parents:

  • Fail to make time for kids
  • Rush from one thing to another
  • Seem distracted too often

This parenting gift helps alert parents to the pain kids feel and the changes than need to be made. Download the list. See if there's some behavior you'd like to change. It can be easy to fix when you understand the problem.

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Save it to a 3-hole binder and check it when your parent/child relationship isn't quite right. It could be one of them is the cause.

  

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Gift - How Listening Helps Parents - 3 Reminder Rhymes

 

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Listening Is the Parenting Skill that Brings Kids Close


When parents interrupt by talking louder than children to make their point, kids feel angry, unheard, and closed down. If you've ever been interrupted, talked down to, or over-talked, remember how you felt. 

Listening doesn't mean you agree with what your child said. It just means you listened. Of course, if you disagree, don't charge into your child with loud disagreement. Calmly ask questions and listen some more. The better you understand the better your child may listen to you.

Arguing doesn't solves problems. It just cements each side's opinions. We see this in the news every day. I bet there have been times you turned it off. Who wants to hear people fight?

Today's parenting gift offers rhymes as reminders to listen. You'll find 10 altogether. Pick the one you may need and save the others in a 3-hole binder in case you need them in the future. Here are two more of the rhyming reminders:

 

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My child gives me pleasure with
thoughts that I treasure.

 

To be attentive and wise, I look with both eyes.

 

Get all 10 Listening Reminders with Rhyming Solutions by using the code to download:

 

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How Parents Listen to Kids – Video Shares 10 Best Ways

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When Parents Listen, Kids Respond.

IF YOU'RE A BUSY PARENT and WANT YOUR KIDS TO CONFIDE IN YOU, but don't know how, watch today's brief video. Here's why:

Not having time for kids to share their thoughts or answer their questions can shut them down. When you're too busy too often and you want to change, try this parenting solution:

Listen to all of what he is saying. Be silent. (Did you know silent and listen include the same letters?)

When he's finished, ask questions to be sure you understand. Don't jump to conclusions or immediately say what you think.

Here are some questions you might ask:

  • Would you explain it a little more?
  • How do you feel about it?
  • How is it affecting your life?
  • What do you think you should do?
  • How can I help?
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Listening Well Helps Kids Confide.

 

 Questions like these show kids you're really interested in their thoughts, opinions, and feelings. They show you care. When kids know parents care they just might confide in them more.

This doesn't mean you should be overly intrusive, take over, or do what children could do for themselves. Such parenting behavior could shut kids down even more.

One more thing, you could say after kids share their thoughts, "I'd like time to think about what you said. Let's talk about it a little later." Don't forget to make it happen. It lets kids know you take their concerns seriously. It gives them more time to think too. 

Watch now:

Top 10 Listening Tips for Busy Parents 

 

 

 

Feel free to copy the transcript below the video and start practicing the parenting tips you need. Your children just might confide you even more. How great is that?

 

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10 Ways Parents Listen that Kids Love

 

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IF YOU’RE A BUSY PARENT AND YOU KEEP SAYING to your child, "I don't have time to talk," or “Not now,” there could be some parenting consequences.

Not having time could send him the message, “You don’t count. What I’m doing is more important than you are.” Of course, it’s not what you mean but it could be the message he receives. What can you do?

In our parenting video today, the first big tip deals with your lack of time. Let’s say you really can’t talk because you’re on an important phone call. Say, “Just a moment” to the caller. Tell your child when you can talk with him by saying something like, “Give me 15 minutes. Then, let’s talk.”

By your following through, your child will learn 2 things:

  1. Waiting is not the end of the world.
  2. Trusting you to keep your word is worth it.

You are the most important person in your child’s life. Giving him time to talk increases his love for you because your attention and approval are what he seeks.

Watch our video, Top 10 Listening Tips for Busy Parents, and get all the parenting strategies for listening well. They’re easy. They’re short. They work. https://youtu.be/FDfILglXoyw

 

 Feel free to scroll down beneath the video and copy the 10 tips.

One more thing, leave a comment on YouTube and let me know what you think of the video.

 

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