The entitled child believes everything should go his way. He acts like he’s the king of the universe. Justin was such a boy.
Whenever Justin’s younger brother, Seth, wouldn’t play Justin’s video games with him, he’d punch Seth and yell, “I hate you!” When his mom scolded Justin, he’d sass back, “You always take Seth’s side,” then slam his bedroom door.
If Justin was your son, would you want to hit him? Would you yell, “I’m sick and tired of your angry behavior!” and preach the same old lecture?
Consider having a conversation with Justin when both of you are calm.
Teaching the Entitled Child How to Be Realistic
Use yourself as an example. It might go something like this:
Mom: Remember when I arranged a birthday party for Grandpa?
Mom: I was frustrated because only three of our family members came. I really felt mad inside. I wanted to tell those who didn’t come what I thought of them.
Justin: Did you?
Mom: No, because I remembered something Grandpa taught me as a child. He’d say, “Sally, you’re not the Queen of the Universe. Things don’t have to go your way.”
Justin: How did that help you?
Mom: Can you guess?
Mom: Because if I was the queen, I could make everybody do what I want.
Justin: But you’re not the queen so you couldn't force everyone to come to Grandpa's party.
Mom: That’s right. How might that thought help you?
Justin: I’m not the King of the Universe so things don't have to go my way either.
Mom: Right. What about Seth not playing your video games?
Mom: How can we remind ourselves that we’re not the king or queen of the universe?
Justin: Let’s make 2 signs that say, “I’m Not the King,” and “I’m Not the Queen” and post them on the fridge.
Mom: And every time we stop ourselves from losing our tempers let’s make a tally mark on our signs.
Conclusion for Helping Entitled Kids Become Reasonable
Entitled kids need to know that life isn’t fair, doesn’t cater to what they want, and can be disappointing at times. You can teach them with reasonable self-talk how to be more rational about life. None of us is the king or queen of the universe. Things often don't go our way. Sometimes we need to be patient and accept that fact. And sometimes it becomes a challenge to creatively overcome the problem.
As the parent, you are the best one to teach him this lesson by being reasonable yourself and having good discussions with him. Start with a true story about when you were angry and irrational. He won't feel like you're pointing a finger at him and he'll like spending private time with you.
YOUR DISCOURAGED CHILD MAY BE HOOKED ON NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. If so, you'll hear a hopeless tone with pessimistic words like:
Why should I try?
I’ll never use it.
What can you do to change her mind? Today’s video helps you turn your child’s dark thinking into bright ideas.
This video encourages your child to change his ‘can’t-do attitude’ into a ‘can-do mindset.’ You’ll be helping him compare the depressing feeling of giving-up to the enthusiastic sense of trying. How? With the 7 meaty discussions you find inside.
The discussion questions are listed within the video.
You’ll also find 5 self-talk rhymes besides the 3 listed below to keep her joy of learning alive. Positive rhymes that become part of your child’s thinking pattern will help her stay motivated when she repeats them often. They're especially helpful when learning is tough.
I feel my true grit when I lose, I don’t quit.
I’m the guy who loves to try.
Learning’s my style because trying’s worthwhile.
Even if your child doesn’t show signs of discouragement, listen to the video below. You’ll be glad you did.
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THINK OF HANDLING STUBBORN CHILDREN LIKE METAL BEADS AND A MAGNET. Your child's stubborn behaviors are the metal beads. Your reactions are the magnet. Each stubborn behavior can cause a swift and powerful clash if you let yourself explode with emotion. This doesn't have to happen.
Consider Using Logic by Asking Yourself 3 Questions:
1. What are the consequences to our relationship if I consistently blow-up?
When I continually react with anger, his stubbornness hardens even more. Respect dies.
2. What are better ways of reacting to his stubbornness?
I can use a kind, firm, and self-controlled voice. With time and repetition, mutual respect could grow.
3. Are there specific ways to be the respectful parent and turn his headstrong behaviors into cooperative ones?
If you draw a blank, watch our 1 minute video below. You'll find 5 solutions you can start using today.
Please remember, no parent is perfect. We all get over-stressed and lose our tempers. Don't get down on yourself if this happens to you. Just reconfirm your commitment to be a respectful parent.
One more thing, you CAN make the magnetic pull between you and your child into a pleasant and positive relationship.
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BULLIES BURN BRIDGES BY WHAT THEY SAY AND DO . They destroy connections like trust, friendship, and future relationships with their victims.
Bullying and Peer Pressure
By seeming powerful, bullies can influence other kids. Some children are afraid to say, “No” to the bully. Others follow because they want to "fit in."
Victims never forget how the bully made them feel nor do they forget who followed the bully’s pressure against them. Being hurt physically, verbally, and/or emotionally, creates painful memories in the mind of the victim. They always remember. Some take revenge.
How Parents Can Help
Whether you suspect you are raising a bully or a bullied child, you CAN guide your child with good discussions.
Many children lack the experience to be wise about causing painful feelings and the importance of caring about others. You can raise their consciousness.
In today’s video, you will find 10 strategic questions to get your child to think more deeply about bullying, to consider the victim’s feelings, and to build the bridge of empathy.
As a bonus, you’ll also find 5 self-talk mottos to help your child choose caring and empathy over bullying.
Feel free to copy the transcript below the video with both the questions and mottos.
Use one question from the video per dinner discussion to find out what your child really thinks about bullying. Hold back from jumping in with your opinions. Listen well. Be sure you understand your child's thoughts before you speak.
Enjoy helping your children think wisely about the problems and pain that bullies cause because you CAN inspire them to choose caring instead.
If you're finding child-rearing difficult and you're worried about doing a good job, stop worrying. Consider promoting the 7 major ideas in this article with their practical parenting strategies. They're simple and require very little work or effort.
In this parenting article, you will find:
How to raise members to respect each other – 7 parenting tips.
How to teach your child social skills – 6 parenting solutions.
How to promote a love for learning – 5 parenting strategies.
How to nurture health and fitness – 6 helpful ideas.
How to instill gratitude in kids – 6 specific ways.
How to foster spirituality in children – 10 simple enriching approaches.
How to encourage no-cost giving 5 sample discussions.
Love Is the Key to a Happy Home.
The basic ingredient is love, and it is love that propels parents to do their best. The seven parenting values in this article, respect, social skills, love of learning, health and fitness, gratitude, spirituality, and non-material gift-giving can help parents raise the family of their dreams and build character too.
Give them a try and please share this article with your friends on social media.
PARENTS, RAISING CHEERFUL CHILDREN IS FUN. In this brief slide share presentation, you'll find out:
How to build optimistic mindsets
Help end each day with happy memories
Make each member feel loved and appreciated
Lifts each other's spirits
Use These Parenting Exercises
Look, as a parent you are very busy. All you need is more parenting suggestions that take time. Don't worry. The actions in this parenting presentation are so easy and take very little time. They'll make raising your family easier because your children will feel happier. When kids are happy they tend to cooperate more. The benefits give you and your kids a win-win.
NEGATIVE THINKING IS A DARK CLOUD THAT HOLDS US BACK from making friends, hurts our chances of success, and makes us feel gloomy. Positive thinking, is a light and cheerful feeling that attracts friends, success, and feels happy.
Use this creative discussion poem with your children to let go of hopeless thoughts and embrace positive thinking.
In just 4 short stanzas you'll discover topics to discuss like:
Moaning and groaning.
Excuses, blaming, acting cross.
Each verse reinforces solutions to negative behaviors like:
Expanding your heart.
Smiling and laughing.
Being kind and cheerful.
Discuss this poem as a friendly chat
Find out your child's thoughts by asking:
What do you think about judging others to bring them down?
How do you think negative thoughts push others away?
How do moaning and groaning poison people's minds?
How do excuses, blaming and active cross affect family and friends?
The power of gratitude shapes positive thoughts. Upbeat thinking promotes a happier heart. If you’d like to raise an optimistic child, consider The Gratitude Review as a bedtime activity. It’s so easy.
The Simple Method for Increasing Gratitude:
At bedtime ask, “What happened today that you’re grateful for?”
Give your child time to think. Make sure it’s something that’s completely positive. If she says,
“I had fun playing soccer during recess but when it was over…”
The word ‘but’ tells you something unpleasant is about to follow. Help her practice finding pleasant events that started and ended with a satisfying experience.