These Communication Skills Help Stop Fights!

When parents fight, kids hurt. They wonder, 'Are Mom and Dad getting a divorce?' You can stop the worry with a simple communication process. It is best used on a regular basis to solve problems that arise.

Most couples have differences and don't know how to solve them. Some parents shout, some pout, and others avoid dealing with conflicts altogether. If you look at difficulties as normal, fights don't have to be scary.  They can be solved.

Today you'll find a process that promotes good communication, respect, and it doesn't scare your children either. I've used it often when counseling fighting parents.

To solve your problems without fighting watch this Google Slides Presentation. It's brief, avoids long explanations, and you can copy the steps if you like.

Couple Conflicts Can Be Solved!

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Anxious Children Imagine the Worst!

OVERCOMING WORRY AND FEAR IN YOUR CHILD CAN BE DONE! 
Today's brief YouTube video shares 7 easy steps.

Seeing your child afraid to give a book report, join a sports team, or make a friend can fill your heart with worry. You know she imagines the worst and want to help her. But what can you do?

Like a stepladder each rung in this video takes her closer to success because she'll be using that same imagination to conquer her anxiety. You'll be her guide. Each step is written below the video on YouTube. Copy it. It's yours. 

Then watch the video with her when she is feeling calm, happy, or relaxed. Use your copy and ask her to go through the 7 simple steps with you.

Use this parenting strategy with her as often as needed because anxiety is a habit.  Like a habit it takes practice to change. 

To turn your child's anxiety into confidence click below:

How Parents HelpAnxious Kids Feel Confident

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"You never let me do anything."

"YOU'RE DRIVING ME CRAZY!" is more than lyrics from a famous song. It's the common scream from parents of whiny children.

Whining works for kids when they hear parents say, "Oh, alright." Every time your child gets her way with whimpers and wails guarantees she'll use it the next time she wants something. So what can you do?

In today's video you'll find 6 positive parenting strategies to stop the whining. One solution involves the word "Freeze!" It's easy to use and could be just what you need.

Another answer uses the Mirror Method. Sometimes your child needs to see it to believe it.

The four other methods tell you what to say and do. 

Try them because the sooner the whining stops, the sooner you'll stop pulling your hair out. Your child will be learning better ways to ask for what she wants and there will be peace in your home.

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Whiny Children: How Parents Stop the Nagging

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You Can Help Your Child Overcome Sarcasm

SASSY SARCASTIC KIDS CAN TEST YOUR PARENTING SKILLS. When your feelings are trampled on by your child's cruel words, it's hard to feel like a loving parent.

What Is Sassy Behavior?

Today’s post shares 7 sarcastic expressions, 5 examples of rude behavior, 5 ways to hold your temper, and 9 action steps for you to take to stop the sass. You’ll get a clear picture of what child rudeness is like and what to do about it.

What Consequences Await a Sassy Child?

Stop the Sassy Behavior Now!

• Gulf between parents and child
• Loneliness and estrangement from friends
• Attitude of superiority that turns others off
• Sarcastic personality that offends others
• Guilt for his sarcastic behavior

All of these fail to teach children how successful living works. They make it difficult to make friends and become a happy person.

Loving Parents Can Stop Sarcasm

Not all love is warm and fuzzy. True love for your child may mean taking effective action. It’s important to keep your eye on the bigger picture for your youngster’s future. By not allowing sassiness to become a habit now, you’ll be building character and helping him become a likable person with a happier life.

Click on Your Sassy Child: How Parents Overcome Sarcasm and start using the 9 action-steps today. It's easier than you think. It's free too.

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Rude Behavior - Don't Accept It!

Many children use sassy behavior to get their way. If your child is rude to you and you want to stop it, watch our brief video, Sarcastic Behavior: 10 Positive Parenting Tips. Here’s one of the solutions:

Parenting Tip # 8

Tell your child exactly what to do to replace the sass.

“Repeat what you said but say it with respect.”

 For instance, she could answer:

1. “I’m sorry for saying, ‘Do it yourself.’ I’ll set the table right now.”
2. “I'm sorry I rolled my eyes when you told me to do my homework. Next time I’ll ask, ‘May I do my homework after dinner?’”
3. “I shouldn’t have said, ‘Give me a break,’ when you asked me to carry in the groceries. I’ll get them now.”

Accept your youngster’s apology if you feel it is sincere. Otherwise, let her know that it still sounded rude and to try again.

If your child is younger, role-play the sass and then the better behavior. If she likes to draw, have her draw the sarcastic behavior and then the respectful conduct.

When she uses polite manners, be sure to compliment her. This may increase her politeness and decrease her disrespect.

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Helping Others Is the Key!

TO "PITCH IN" MEANS YOUR CHILD IS WILLING TO HELP. If you have a youngster who complains about tasks, his complaints can be a real drag at home and at school. How can you help him see the value of pitching in? Keep reading.

Real leaders don’t sit around basking in their leadership titles. True heads see the bigger picture and take action. One of their most important behaviors is to help others. How does this apply to your girl or boy?

The leadership attitude begins at home. To get children to help around your house, you might:

1. Use the phrase, “First this and then that…” First pick up your toys, and then we’ll play a board game (or whatever the motivating activity is). These powerful words avoid the complaining you detest and they increase your child’s willingness to help.

2. Find ways to compliment your child:

    "I appreciate the effort you made to complete your homework."

    "I like how you straightened your sheet before you finished making your bed."

    "Thank you for entertaining your baby brother while I fixed dinner."

    Children love honest compliments and appreciation.

3. Use stars and charts for a visual reminder of his or her helpfulness.

4. Create warm chats about leadership outside the home. Advise him to help his friend, a neighbor,  or look around his classroom and see what needs to be done like:

    Picking up toys when he and his friend have finished playing with them.

    Helping a pal with a task he needs to finish before he can play.

    Asking his teacher if he can clean the paint brushes after school.

    A child with an eye to seeing the bigger picture, the willingness to help, and then pitching in, is a leader in action.

Willingness to Help Is Leadership!

5. Ask your child to let you know when she helped others and increased her leadership skills. You are her confidant and guide. She’ll want you to know.

Your gift today lists 7 leadership skills. Find out what the other 6 are. Then think about how you can promote them in your child. If you do, you’ll be building her character and she’ll enjoy the good feeling of being an involved helper and leader.

Why not download all the leadership skills and put them in a 3-hole binder to use whenever you need them?

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 Bossy Kids Are Annoying

WHY ARE BOSSY KIDS REJECTED? You’ll find 7 troublesome behaviors to help you decide if your child is bossy and why children exclude him in this parenting gift.

Watch your child interact with other children. Does he irritate others by doing this?

Behavior #5:

Is He Someone Who Tells Others What to Do?

Here are 3 reasons bossiness doesn't work:

1. Both adults and youngsters dislike being told what to do especially when they aren’t asking for advice. Why? They have their own thoughts and their own answers to their problems and don’t want to feel pushed by someone else.

2. Bossy kids like to take control and order others to do what they think is best. This doesn’t work because they can’t possibly know the other child’s complete thoughts, feelings, or experiences. Naturally their advice will be faulty.

3. When pushy students use a demanding voice it annoys classmates. Again, children resent being commanded to do another kid's bidding.

The Bossy Solution 

What do you want to do?

If telling others what to do is one of your child’s problems, suggest he listen, empathize, and ask what the other child wants to do about the situation. This will help him be included and not excluded because he cares more about the other child's solutions than giving his own advice.

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Add this Parenting Gift to your 3-hole binder to use whenever you need it. Share it with your children too. It could help them choose more acceptable behaviors now and throughout their lives.

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Bossy Kids Can Become Leaders

IF YOUR CHILD IS TOO BOSSY AND KIDS ARE REJECTING HIM, it can be painful for him and for you. Most children don't have a clue about leadership skills. Yet, they want other kids to follow their lead.

Keep reading to find out the 7 bossy behaviors that turn kids off and the 7 leadership skills your child can learn.

You can teach these skills with helpful conversations, role-playing activities, and/or charting your child's new leadership abilities.

One leadership tip includes resolving conflicts. The key is negotiation. Here are 3 easy things your child can learn to do:

Leaders Can Resolve Conflicts

1. Ask questions about the conflict and listen to the other' answers.

2. Find out if there is something both sides share in common. This is called 'Common Ground.' Your child can help each side achieve the 'wants' they have wants in common.

3. Then have him ask the big question once tempers cool down and both sides feel listened to. "How can we both win?" or "How can you both win?"

This one skill can be practiced at home by you whenever conflicts arise. Because it's practiced at home, your child will know how use it with classmates and friends.

Can you see how this skill can help change your child from a bossy boy to a trusted leader?

Read more to find out the other 6 simple leadership skills you can teach your child:

7 Leadership Skills Your Bossy Child Must Learn 

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As your child practices these skills, watch him smile as he becomes a likable leader.

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Teaching Your Bossy Child Leadership Skills

WHEN YOUR CHILD IS BOSSY, does he only care about getting his way? Perhaps he tells kids what to do or what to play. If so, he has the Bossy Kid Problem and you can help him change.

Bossy kids get rejected. It hurts your child and it probably hurts you too. Did you know you can turn your bossy child into a good leader?

Research tells us there are 7 leadership traits your child can learn. Imagine role-playing this one technique, active listening, with your youngster. Of course, you’d want to share these ideas first:

3 Facts Your Strong-Willed Child Needs to Know:

1. Kids care about themselves, their own ideas, and activities.

2. Children don’t want to hear you brag or tell them what to do.

3. When you ask questions and listen to them, it makes them feel good.

First Leadership Behavior - Listen Actively

Explain to your student, “After you ask another child about himself and he’s finished talking, prove you listened.” He may ask, “How?”

Tell him, “It’s easy. All you need to do is repeat the last part of the other child’s words. This helps the other kid remember where he left off and makes it easy for him to keep talking. He’ll love it.”

Role-Play Active Listening

Listen to your child. Repeat part of his last sentence. Listen some more. When he’s finished ask how he felt and then point out how you repeated some of his words and how he continued speaking. Next have him try it by listening to you.

Role-play until it becomes a habit in your home. It will help him practice this listening technique with others. Kids won’t call him, “Bossy.” He may even become a trusted leader because he cared about listening to them.

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Believe in Your Child

If you’re a concerned parent wanting to turn your child’s poor outlook into a happy “I CAN” mindset, keep reading.

Parents who nurture a resilient attitude in their children do some very specific behaviors. They avoid name-calling and foster mutual respect. Their methods are fun, interesting, and rewarding. They're easy too. The following gift includes 5 definite actions you can start using immediately.  

Let’s look at the first specific parenting behavior.

To Raise Your Youngster with a "Can Do" Spirit:

 1. Believe in your child.

Say it! “I believe in you,” and tell your youngster why. “I believe in you because…

 1.) You like doing your best. I just saw it when you dove off the diving board.

 2.) You practice your musical instrument without being told.

 3.) You’re friendly when you see kids you know.

If you look for the good in your child, you’ll find it. Then tell her that you believe in her and name the good you saw. Isn’t that easy?

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NURTURE

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