Tired moms come home to sprawling clutter, kids playing videos, and dinner to fix. No wonder they explode.
Mom: “Who left their dirty dishes in the sink?”
Kids don’t answer. They keep playing video games.
Mom: “You kids are so lazy! You expect me to do everything.”
Kids pout and sigh. But they keep playing.
Mom: “You turn that thing off and get out here.”
The kids turn off their games and slowly drag their feet.
They’ve heard it all before.
Every day after school kids drop their coats, books and boots on the floor, eat snacks, leave a mess, and relax with video games. When Mom comes home, the shouting begins.
4 Careless Behaviors That Trigger Moms' Anger:
- Messy kids' bedrooms
- Dirty dishes in sink
- Filthy floor
- Loud video games
Exhausted Moms and Guilt
“This isn’t the picture I dreamed when I thought about having kids. I hate shouting at my kids. Now they're angry at me.”
What to Do?
- Don’t start cleaning up. It will just make you more upset.
- Take care of yourself first. Calm down by taking a nap, a bubble bath, eating a snack, or doing something you enjoy.
- Be thinking about ways to handle the situation without anger.
- Plan a family meeting to discuss the problem.
What to Include in the Family Meeting:
- Schedule it when everyone has calmed down - very important.
- Avoid making it a complaint session.
- Start with compliments for all.
- Bring up the problem. Ask members, “How can we solve it?”
- Write down solutions from each member.
- Group picks the best solutions.
- Each member makes a specific commitment to solve the problem.
- Post the commitments on the fridge.
- End with more compliments for each member and a dessert.
Make family meetings a regular event both to solve problems and to plan fun times together.
Conclusion for Tired Moms with Careless Kids:
Overworked moms and dads get upset with careless children. Yelling, lecturing, and put-downs follow. But they don’t motivate kids to help.
Family meetings, if they don’t become gripe sessions, can become positive events that solve problems. They teach kids listening and speaking skills. They train kids to work together within the family. Family meetings teach priceless life skills that build character too.
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