Over-indulging Kids Turns Them into Weak Characters.

When parents give too much and expect too little, they raise spoiled children. Their parenting love is out of control. They make themselves into doormats and their offspring selfish and weak.

7 Problems with Entitled Kids

1. They think they're the boss.
2. They can be rude.
3. They're never satisfied.
4. They verbally attack parents.
5. They whine when they don't get their way.
6. They want more.
7. They aren't grateful.

5 Ways Parents of Pampered Kids Feel

1. They feel like doormats - walked on.
   
2. They explode with anger.
3. They experience guilt when their kids act badly.
4. They whine and sound weak.
5. They confuse giving-in with love.

Today's Brief YouTube Video Shares 6 Ways to Stop Indulging Kids

It takes courage and determination to be a consistent parent. Why? Because youngsters will try hard to stop their parents from changing. It won't be pretty. But the improvement in their child's attitude and behavior will be worth the parenting effort. One more thing, Parents will take their true role as leaders and trainers and their children will feel more secure.

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Sass is dead if you say, "Stop sassing me!"              

Stop Sassing Me!

Then you must show you mean it by following  through with consequences. The trick is to catch your child being rude as soon as she starts becoming sarcastic. Don't let it become a habit because it will be more difficult to change. Not impossible but more difficult.

You'll also need to ask your child to think ahead and tell you how he will respond in the future to avoid the sass. Insist on an answer. If your child refuses, use a consequence. 

Reacting to Rudeness

Don't return the sarcasm by saying, “I see you're rolling your eyeballs again. Did you ever find a brain back there?” Sarcastic replies invite volleys of mean-spirited sass. You want to cut it off not rev it up.

Make your goal to model respectful behavior when reacting to your child's obnoxious retorts. Make sure you look and feel in control of yourself even if you need to let time pass before you respond.

Responding to Sassiness:

Our parenting gift offers 9 answers to sassy sarcasm that you can easily use. If your youngster needs a stronger consequence, consider not doing something he wants you to do or taking something away that fits his sarcasm.

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Logical Consequences Can Solve Problems

A LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE IS THE PENALTY you give your children for their misbehavior. It is logical because it makes sense. It fits the “crime.”

Here Are Some Illogical Consequences When Kids Sass:

1. Weed the garden.

2. Clean the garage.

3. Mow the grass.

These discipline solutions are illogical because they are not connected to sassing. Although you might like your garden weeded, your grass mowed, and your garage cleaned, none of these fit the misbehavior.  

Here’s the Discipline Problem:

How can you think of a logical consequence when you need it? Some corrections for misconduct are difficult to come up with on the spot. What can you do?

A Simple Discipline Solution:

Say, “I need some time to think of an appropriate solution. I’ll let you know later.” This is better than yelling and sounding out of control. Besides, if you scream, your child can blame you for hollering.

Instead, give yourself time to think and give your child time to reflect on what he’s done.

Here’s an Easy Discipline Consequence:

Tell your child to write down what she did wrong, why it was wrong, and what she should have done. When she’s done, ask her to apologize. This helps her think about her problem behavior, consider the right thing to do, and say, “I’m sorry.”

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5 Discipline Tips that Help Kids

DISCIPLINE METHODS FOR CONCERNED PARENTS can be confusing. Some are too strict. Some are too easy. Neither strategy is good for healthy child development. There is parenting approach that makes sense because it is balanced.

This parenting style needs to be anchored in the forefront of parents' minds for easy access when it's needed. To do this, I suggest, discussing it with your partner and friends, posting the words, "Kind, Firm, Consistent" on your fridge, bathroom mirror, bedroom door or wherever you might like a reminder. You might even use it as a bookmark.

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Calm Rational Discipline Raises Confident Loving Children

RAISING SELF-RELIANT CHILDREN includes caring and discipline. The discipline must be reasonable. But how can you act calm and steady when you want to yell and scream? How can you act rationally when you're upset?

The brief video below will show you how to teach your children self-regulation by regulating yourself. It will give you the mindset you'll need for correcting their misbehavior, taming their emotions, and increasing their confidence.

Children who learn to regulate themselves do better in school and make more friends. Your wise discipline will help them govern themselves and become people of character.

The video is entitled, How Loving Parents Can Discipline Children.

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ARE YOU SPOILING YOUR CHILD? Is she getting everything she wants and treating you badly.To get her to change, you may need to change first.
 

Discipline Strategies Can Help!

Today you'll hear the story of an overindulged child who gave her mother sneers, sharp words, and sass. She was a client. I've change the incidentals to protect her privacy. You'll hear her words, her mother's confusion, 7 typical insults, a Kind and Firm Discipline Method along with 7 strategies to get you started.

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6 CONCENTRATION AND FOCUS STRATEGIES FOR YOUR CHILD 

I remember a student who stared into space during class. His mind definitely drifted to something other than math.

 Perhaps your child experiences a similar problem. It’s tough to succeed in school and life with scattered thinking.

Today I’ll share 6 simple ways you can help your child learn to focus in this busy, distracting, and noisy world.

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How do you discipline when your kids tattle and act like victims? Do they cry, whine, and sob? Do their cries irritate you like fingernails scratching a blackboard? Would you like it to stop?

Imagine hearing your Cory fight with his older brother. When he sees you coming he starts to cry. As you come closer his cries turn into shrieks and sobs. Between the sobs he tattles on Joe. ‘Oh no,’ you think, ‘not again.’ You know Cory wants to get his older brother, 12 year-old Joe, in trouble.

But Cory is 11 years-old. It’s time to leave the tears behind and start using words.

You ask yourself, “What’s Cory getting by acting like a victim?” It’s true he wants to get Joe in trouble. But why does he whine and sob? This is what little kids do.

Could it be that Cory wants your sympathy, hugs, and soothing words? Does he want to prove he’s weak and can’t take care of himself? Does he want to avoid growing up so you’ll keep babying him? Does he want to avoid being responsible?

You don’t want Cory to see himself as a victim. You want him to stop crying and begin using words when he’s upset. You want him to enjoy becoming a responsible person. What can you do?

Discipline Tips for Kids Who Tattle Like Victims:

1. It’s time to teach Cory self-discipline. Go for a walk with Cory. Ask him if he’s tired of crying when he’s mad at Joe. Ask him if he’d like to handle conflicts better. Talk to him about the importance of using words without tears when he’s upset. Tell him how proud you’ll be when he talks out his problems without tears.
2. Role-play a frequent conflict with Joe. Have Cory pretend he’s Joe and you become Cory. Show Cory how you’d like him to act with Joe. Trade roles with Cory. Do this several times. Make it fun. Then discuss how you’d like him to talk instead of cry when he’s mad at Joe. Ask him if he’s willing to try.
3. Compliment when Cory uses words, acts like he’s growing up, and becoming more responsible when he’s upset with Joe. Do it often.

If you follow these suggestions Cory will cry less. His whining and tears won’t sound like fingernails on a blackboard. He’ll be more responsible too.

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How do you discipline your child when she tattles out of revenge? If her tattling smells like jealousy, you know something ugly is cooking. Perhaps a boiling anger is bubbling within her.

Let's pretend your Jackie thinks little Bobby is your favorite. She whines, "You love Bobby more than me!"

Jackie won't play with Bobby. She won't talk to him either. She tattles whenever he plays with her things. You yell, "Let Bobby have it!" Jackie stomps off screaming, "You let him get away with everything." You've heard this more than once.

Why Jackie Tattles and What Jackie Wants:

To find out, ask yourself these 3 questions -

1. Is Jackie tattling out of revenge?
2. Does she want to get Bobby in trouble because she's jealous?
3. Do I show more love to Bobby than to Jackie?

The answers to these questions will help you understand Jackie's motives. Once you know, ask yourself, "How would I feel if I were Jackie?" Walk around in her skin for a while.

How Can Jackie Get What She Wants without Tattling?

Get down to Jackie's bottom line. Of course, she's jealous. Of course, she wants revenge. But what is it that Jackie really wants?

Jackie wants to feel like she fits inside your heart just as much or more than her little brother.

Discipline for Tattle Tales Who Want Revenge:

Don't give in to Jackie's tattles. Don't prove you love Bobby more either. Think before you handle Jackie's tattles. Realize that you're jumping in and scolding reinforces Jackie's tattling. Why? It proves to her that she's right. It proves you love Bobby more. It justifies her meanness to Bobby.

1. Be fair to Bobby and Jackie in what you say and do.
2. At pleasant times, go for a walk with Jackie. Ask her, "What do you really want by tattling on Bobby?" If she says, "I don't know." Ask her to guess. Get her to admit her jealously. Then discuss it.
3. Find ways to show Jackie you love her. Spend one-on-one time with her. Have fun. Let her know how special she is by often catching her being good. Don't be surprised if she treats Bobby better too.

If you follow these suggestions, you'll be giving Jackie what she really wants– your love.

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How do you discipline your child when she tattles for attention? Do your shoulders sag? Is she driving you crazy? Perhaps it's time to slow down and ask yourself, "Why is she tattling so much? "What's she getting out of tattling that's positive?"

Why Lori Tattles and What She Wants:

In our last blog, you found out that your Lori tattled on her brother, Ralph, to get your attention. She wanted to prove to her brother and herself that you'd take her side. She wanted to prove you loved her best.

How can Lori Get What She Wants without Tattling?

You know giving Lori more attention than her brother isn't good. You know that loving Lori more than her brother isn't good either. Here are 4 questions that will lessen Lori's tattling and give her attention.

• "Why are you coming to me?"
• "Do you want to get Ralph in trouble?"
• "How will that help you?"
• "What are better ways to solve your problem with Ralph?

After Lori answers the above questions, give her the task below.

Discipline for Tattle Tales Who Want Attention:

Tell Lori to write out her solutions for solving her problems with Ralph. Tell her to bring those written solutions to you. If she's too young for writing, tell her to draw her solutions.

If the solutions are acceptable, ask Ralph to come. Tell Lori and Ralph to act out each solution. In this way, Lori will be solving her problems and getting your attention too.

At other times, catch each child being good when they play nicely together. Use compliments. They'll both feel loved by you.

In our next blog, we'll look at suggestions and solutions when your David tattles for power. In the meantime, share your solutions for stopping Lori from tattling in the comments section below.

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