If parents fear talking with their kids about right and wrong, they make a big mistake. Our expert blogger and expert author, Michael Sabbeth is both a teacher and a lawyer. He will share his classroom discussions and advice from children that will help you today. The following is from his book, The Good, The Bad, and the Difference: How to Talk with Your Children about Values.
Why Parents Avoid Talking about Right and Wrong with Their Children:
"Speaking to our children about right and wrong should be easy. We parents are more experienced, more educated and generally, more verbal than our children. Wise words should flow to angelic children like warmed honey from a jar. Yet, as Gershwin wrote in 'Porgy and Bess,' it ain't necessarily so. Indeed, many parents look forward to talking about this topic with the enthusiasm the tooth has for the drill."
Kids Want Parents to Guild Them about Right and Wrong:
"Teaching right from wrong is the foundation for teaching children to live virtuously. I've learned that children are hungry for this guidance. They value it. They want to talk about it. They respect the good that their parents do; helping fix a stranger's flat tire, saving a drowing child, volunteering at a batter women's shelter, and they want to be like them.
How Parents Teach Right from Wrong:
Parents teach right from wrong by their actions, of course, and that is probably the most powerful and effective method of teaching. But they also teach by their words.
For example, Sarah, a first grader in my class in 1990, said, with pride piggy-backing on every word:
"You sit down for dinner with your mom and dad and they teach you what is right."
Max, a fifth grader, eloquently echoed Sarah's words when he told me that he loved "learning how to help humanity."
I asked where his love came from."It comes from my parents," he replied, his unscheming eyes glittering. "My parents talk to me if I've done something wrong or if I've made a mistake and they tell me what is right."
I've never met a parent who didn't want to talk with their children about right and wrong.
One mom's comment is typical: It's my job to raise moral children. It's a matter of pride. It gives me satisfaction to know I am doing a good job. My children reflect upon me." pp. 11-12.
Let's give, Michael Sabbeth a BIG HAND for sharing the importance of discussing right and wrong with our children. I look forward to blogging more about his advice with you. Helping kids build character and hearing how they think will be a joy.
His book, The Good, The Bad, and The Difference: How to Talk to Your Children about Values is available at Amazon.com
Connect with Michael Sabbeth and hear him speak at http://kidsethicsbook.com/
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Jean Tracy, MSS
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