Set Goal

Is this what you want your child to yell?

"I can't set goals!"

 

Parents, give up resolutions! They don’t work because something is missing. Neither you nor your children can reach your goals without it. Today, I will:

1. Show why resolutions are broken.
2. Apply what a great leader understood.
3. Share a 4 minute video showing you and your children the way to achieve goals.

It’s not that you don’t want to achieve your goals or that you’re not strong enough to make them happen.

5 Reasons Resolutions Are Broken:

1. Losing interest in the goal.
2. Forgetting about the resolution.
3. Breaking the goal once and then giving up.
4. Breaking it for a good reason.
5. Breaking it at a party or because of a teasing friend.

William James, (1842-1910), the founder of American Psychology, stated:

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes.”

 

William James, 1842-1910

A good resolution includes altering attitudes. Positive attitudes are the foundation for good resolutions. They include clear vision, emotions and the words that describe them.

For example, envision these attitudes:

1. To embrace exercise rather than dread it -

“I am exercising with vim and vigor.”

2. To choose healthy foods over unhealthy foods -

“I am eating delicious fruits and vegetables.”

3. To focus on math rather than give up -

“I am seeing how to problem solve and multiplying with ease.”

4. To become outgoing rather than shy -

“I am smiling and acting friendly at school.”

5. To choose patience over impatience -

 “I am looking at my child with loving eyes.”

 

Resolution: "I am looking at my child with loving eyes."

William James also said:

“It’s our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task that will determine its success.”

Resolutions can be challenging tasks. Otherwise, we wouldn’t need them to improve our lives. Attitudes are the missing piece at the beginning of solid resolutions.

Don’t give up resolutions! They can work.

Today’s simple method gives you and your children an effective way to develop the attitudes to make your goals come true.

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How Parents Teach Children to Set Smart Goals

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 Mojo Mindsets Helps Kids Succeed

Achieving goals is easy when your child creates a mojo mindset. Just be sure his goals are realistic. 

Tell Your Child:

Pick one goal like –

• I am getting a good grade on my next math test.
• I am giving my book report with confidence.
• I am making a friend at school.

Clear your mind and relax with 5 deep breaths.

1. See clearly by looking outward at your goal not at yourself.
2. Sense it with a strong feeling like focusing, confidence, friendliness etc.
3. Say it starting with the words, “I am… as if you already have it.

1. Put the picture, the feeling, and the words all together in one magic moment.
2. Do this before getting out of bed each morning and before falling asleep at night.
3. Take the action to make it happen like studying, practicing your book report, smiling and saying “Hi!”

Enjoy using this mojo mindset to help your child achieve his goals. You can use it too.

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FUN DISCUSSIONS WITH KIDS PROMOTE FAMILY UNITY!

Praise or criticism, which motivates kids to do their best? Too much criticism often makes people bitter not better. Research advises us to give 3-6 compliments for every negative comment because kind remarks help lessen the sting from complaints.

If you must disapprove of your child’s behavior, there are 3 rules:

1. Do it privately.
2. Be brief, no lectures.
3. Suggest a positive behavior or solution.

Goal for Giving Praise

You don’t want your child to live for other people’s approval. A nickname for pure approval seekers is "Love Slob."No one wants to hear their child called a "Love Slob."

Your goal in using praise is to increase your child’s inner motivation which means they do their best because that’s their positive self-image. It’s who they know they are.

Use our gift today which includes the poem, “I Caught You Being Good Today,” by downloading, discussing, and getting your children to answer the 7 discussion questions.

If you do, you’ll find out:

1. How criticism feels to your children.
2. Whether they notice each others mistakes more than their good qualities.
3. What would motivate them the most, criticisms or compliments.
4. If they’d like to focus on the good in each other more often.
5. How they’d like to share with each member the good they see.

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YOU CAN HELP YOUR CHILDREN CONTROL THEIR FEELINGS. But how? Yelling

Parenting Tips for Helping Kids with Feelings

"Snap out of it!" won't help kids. Ignoring their emotional explosions doesn't help. Neither does complaining, "I'm sick and tired of your whining!"

If you'd like a parenting method that works, watch this brief YouTube Video. It will show you exactly how to help your child turn difficult feelings into healthy emotions.

Watch the video as often as you like or copy the script below it by clicking on "Show More."  Use it whenever you need it.

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Goal-Setting Can Overcome Fear!

Now parents can teach kids how to set goals in 3 simple steps. To show what I mean, I made a YouTube video which I'll share below. It includes some of the following:

Imagine this boy shaking as he shares his book report.  Facing his fellow students he tries to remember his thoughts but his throat is dry and he can't talk. After rushing to his seat he buries his   head in his arms and tries not to cry.

Telling him to relax won't work. What I'm about to share will.

Your child doesn't have to feel panic. Instead of fearing class presentations, he can visualize them before they even happen. When he gets up in front of his classmates, he will do well if he's followed the 3 steps. Why? Because his visualization, one of the steps, works like a rehearsal.

Reaching Goals Lifts Your Child's Spirits.

Would you like your child to feel great?  When kids create goals and reach them, their spirits soar. It gives them confidence to try again. The method you are about to teach your child offers them a method to use for life.

You can use it too. As a counselor, I've taught it to many adults. They were amazed at what they achieved.

Teach Your Child to Pick a Realistic Goal

Advise your child to choose a goal that she truly wants to accomplish, like catching fly balls, singing a song on key, playing her guitar for the school assembly, or talking to kids she'd like for friends but is afraid to approach.

The Goal Must Be Actionable:

1. It must be something she could actually achieve.
2. It needs to be time limited - something she could accomplish in a specific amount of time.

3. She must have the resources she needs to make it happen. For instance, if she doesn't have access to a guitar, playing for the school assembly is only a dream not a goal.

Here are the 3 Steps to Achieving Goals:

1. Say It.

Say, "I am..." + Goal (as if it is already reached.)

2. Sense It.

He's sensing the feeling he wants.

Your child must choose and sense the feeling he wants, like joy.

3. See it.

I am looking at my class as I give my science report.

Visualize it! He must look out toward the goal rather than see himself. He won't be looking at himself when he gives his report. He'll be looking at the class.

Say It. Sense It. See It Altogether in One Moment

I am seeing, sensing, and saying my goal as if I've already achieved it.

Say It. Sense It and See It Morning and Night Until the Goal Is Reached

Advise your child to see it, sense it, and say it before rising in the morning and before sleeping at night.

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Gift for Motivating Kids with Confidence

If you'd like to motivate your child to avoid discouragement and keep trying, you'll like today's fun gift. It's a well-used parenting skill that really works.

The Failure

I recently spoke with a teenage girl and asked her, “How did you deal with your math grade?” Earlier she told me she had flunked it.

“I felt terrible,” she answered.

“Did you do anything about it?”

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Motivation Helps Your Kids!

The Signs of Successful Attitudes in Children

How would you answer, "Who cares about your child's success more, you or your child?" If you didn't answer, "your child," you've got work to do. So many of us parents worry. We want our kids to succeed. We push them even when their feet stubbornly hold tight because they're not motivated.

The signs that your child is inspired depend on his view of himself. If you'd like to know, ask him these 3 questions:

1. Do you think you can succeed?

2. Do you want to succeed?

3. Why do you want to succeed?

If your child is focused on his own progress and is willing to take on challenges, don't worry. He is motivated. But if he isn't, let's listen to 6 of Carol's  20 suggestions for helping him move in the right direction.

1. Help your child get started on an assignment or project, if necessary, but then stand back.

2. Build on your child's strengths.

3. Believe in your child-and let him/her know it.

4. Acknowledge your youngster's hard work.

5. Encourage new experiences (sports, drama, painting, music).

6. Help your child set goals and find ways to achieve them. (From page 65.)

Advice for Setting Fun Goals:

Your child will feel motivated if she picks out a goal, works hard, and achieves that goal. Start with a goal your child wants to achieve. Hold a brainstorming session. Ask your child to set a fun goal for himself. Ask, "What is something you want?" "How will you help yourself achieve it?"

 Brainstorming Sample Goals:

!. Read a book on her favorite topic.

2. Play a sport she might like.

3. Learn to play a musical instrument.

Carol advises parents to encourage kids to break down big goals into small short-term goals with a due date.

Brainstorming Short-Term Goals:

Let's say your daughter loves books. You might help her by brainstorming this plan:

1. I will go to library

2. I will spend time finding a fun book.

3. I will check it out and bring it home.

4. I will pick a time to read it each day.

5. I will finish it in 2 weeks.

When she's completed her goal. Let her know you're impressed with her effort. Ask her, "How do you feel about accomplishing your goal?" Get her to talk about how she motivated herself. She'll love to share her thoughts with you. This could motivate her achieve even more goals. (From pages 64-69).

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Teach Your Children Leadership Skills Today!

If you'd like to build character and raise a leader, stay tuned. Alex Uch, a freelance writer, is sharing 6 ways to teach your kids leadership skills from his article "6 Things You Can Do To Develop Leadership Skills in Your Kids."

Some children are natural born leaders.  Others, however, struggle with stepping up and taking a leaderships position.  It is important that as a parent you do your best to help develop leadership skills in your kids to help prepare them for the future.   Use the tips below to guide you in developing these all important skills.

1. Encourage them to make decisions. Are you guilty of controlling each and every decision your kids make?  Decision making is one of the most important aspects of being a leader. Allowing them to make their own decisions regarding the simple things such as what to wear, their hairstyles, etc., you are helping them develop the decision making skills needed to be a leader.
 

2. Help strengthen communication skills. Communication is also crucial to leadership skills.  Teach your kids the foundation of communication by talking with them and allowing them to express how they feel. Encourage them to talk to adults to gain practice in communication.
 

3. Teach them to negotiate with friends and peers. This is a tough skill to teach but can be very beneficial in developing leadership skills. Trading playing cards is one example of how your child can learn negation skills.
 

4. Problem solving skills will be important. Don’t jump in to solve problems for your kids.  Give them opportunities to work it out on their own. 

5. Teach your kids to plan ahead. Real leaders know how to plan ahead.  Can your child plan ahead for things that will happen soon? Let them take part in planning family events or vacations.  It will be fun for them and they will learn leadership skills along the way.

6. Don’t be too pushy! Don’t overreact if your child isn’t a natural born leader. Sometimes, it takes time to develop these skills.  Being too pushy may actually drive them away from wanting to take on a leadership role.  Help them along but don’t go overboard with it.

Leaderships skills will come naturally for some kids.  These children will need very little encouragement to develop the necessary skills to be successful in life.  If your child needs a little help along the way, use the tips above as guidance in developing leadership skills.

This article has been written by Alex of http://www.matryoshkanestingdolls.com/

Let's give a warm hand to Alex for sharing his excellent ideas.

                
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 Building Character with Goals and 3 Simple Questions

A great way to build character in kids is through goal setting. But how? Bob Proctor, the great author and motivational speaker, offers 3 essential questions. Before learning about the questions let’s find out the importance of positive goals.

Why Parents Need to Teach Positive Goal Setting

Children must see goals clearly because, like all of us, they move toward their pictures. If their pictures portray failure, they will fail. This is where you come in. Teach them to form positive pictures with clear goals.

How Moving Toward a Negative Picture Causes Failure

Let’s pretend your son is picturing failing a math test.  He decides not to study because he’s telling himself, “Why try? I’ll never get it.” The result will be failure because he turned his self-talk into a negative picture.

What Can You Do to Promote Clear Goals with Positive Pictures?

Ask your son to clearly picture receiving a good grade. Give him all the time he needs. Ask him if he likes the feeling that goes with getting a good grade. Chances are he’ll say, ‘Yes.’

Next ask him to picture himself studying for the test and answering all the questions correctly. Does he like the feeling of success? If so, he’s ready for Bob Proctor’s first question.

1. Can you do this?

In other words, can you study for the test to pass it? If your son’s answer is, ‘Yes,’ ask him the second question.

2. Are you willing to do it?

Meaning, are you willing to study for the test to pass it. If he’s willing to do it, then ask the third question.

3. How can you make it happen?

Get him to brainstorm solutions.

His Possible Solutions:

1. Study the examples in the book.

2. Take time to think through each problem.

3. Ask the teacher, you, or a classmate for help.

 Your Action Step:

Talk to your child about how our thoughts are the pictures we make come true.  Ask your child to start by sharing a small goal with you. Ask the 3 questions. If the answer to the first two is “Yes,” then ask your child, “How can you make it happen?”

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 Goal Setting Begins with What Kids Want to Achieve

If you’d like to boost character in your kids through teaching them goal setting, you’re in for a treat from the Care4hire blog. Keep reading to find 12 ways to teach setting goals to your children.

“You want to teach your kids to set goals, get to work on them, and ultimately achieve them.  How can parents and babysitters help kids with this life lesson?

1. Talk to your kids about the goal setting, progress, and achievement in your own life.

2. Talk with your kids about what goals they would like to set for themselves. Younger kids should have short-term goals. Teens can establish longer-term goals (i.e., college and career planning).

3. Write down the goals you have agreed upon. Each goal should be recorded on a separate piece of paper or poster board.

4. Talk with your kids about what steps they think they need to take to achieve their goals. Each step toward goal achievement should be discussed.

5. On the goal papers or poster boards referenced in #3 above, record the steps to goal achievement. 

6. Post the papers or poster boards in a location that is highly visible to your kids.

7. Periodically review your kids’ progress relative to their goals.

8. Praise your kids when they successfully achieve steps along the way to goal achievement.

9. Encourage your kids (or redirect your kids, depending on the nature of the goal) when steps are not achieved.

10. Periodically review the goals and their steps to ensure that the goals continue to be achievable and that the steps remain the best or most realistic means to achieve the goals. (Note: many young kids lack perseverance.

Don’t let your kids easily wander from one goal to another without goal achievement or a valid reason for the change of heart. For example, if one of your kids set “save money to buy the music box I like” as her goal two months ago, but she’s not made as much money as she wanted so she now wants to abandon that goal for something more fun, perhaps it’s best to allow her to add the fun goal while still pursuing the original goal as well.)

11. If your kids cannot achieve one or more of their goals, do a goal post-mortem. Without being accusatory, try to determine what went wrong and what can be done to ensure that the next goals set will more likely be achieved. (Note: there may need to be consequences for some goals not being achieved. For example, in the examples above, if one of your kids had getting an “all ‘A’ report card” as her goal, but she got two failing grades instead, a consequence may be warranted.)

12. Celebrate with your kids when they achieve their goals. Goal achievement, for most kids, is a reward in itself. However, celebrations in recognition of goal achievement reinforce the benefits of goal achievement. So, have a pizza night and let your kids choose the kind of pizza they want. Or give them an extra hour to stay up one evening. Or celebrate in whatever way you and your kids think best.”

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