Parenting Fearful Children: 7 Mistakes and 11 Solutions

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"Please Don't Make Me!"


IS YOUR CHILD OVERWHELMED WITH WORRY AND FEAR? If so, you can help him turn anxiety into confidence. Today I will list 7 mistakes you don't want to make, 3 worrisome situations for anxious children, and 11 easy steps for helping your over-sensitive child.

Anxious children know the awful experience of thoughts and feelings running wild. For them, it's like a tsunami. They try to avoid such danger at all cost.

That's why they worry and fret about the worst things that might happen. They might cry, throw temper tantrums, and refuse to take risks. This is how their worry protects them from harm. It stops them from trying, making mistakes, and being embarrassed. It keeps them safe from failing and feeling foolish.

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     "I can't. I might fail"

But kids don't realize that anxiety also imprisons them with their negative thoughts and fearful feelings. It prevents them from experiencing the joys of accomplishment.

Find out what you can do. Practice the 11 simple steps to help your child overcome childhood anxieties.

Pick up your solutions at: 

11 Ways Parents Turn Anxious Kids into Confident Children

Because, like all parents, you don’t want your child to suffer from fear when he doesn’t need to.

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Anxious Child: Turning Fear into Courage

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Anxious Children Imagine the Worst!

 

OVERCOMING WORRY AND FEAR IN YOUR CHILD CAN BE DONE! 
Today's brief YouTube video shares 7 easy steps.

Seeing your child afraid to give a book report, join a sports team, or make a friend can fill your heart with worry. You know she imagines the worst and want to help her. But what can you do?

Like a stepladder each rung in this video takes her closer to success because she'll be using that same imagination to conquer her anxiety. You'll be her guide. Each step is written below the video on YouTube. Copy it. It's yours. 

Then watch the video with her when she is feeling calm, happy, or relaxed. Use your copy and ask her to go through the 7 simple steps with you.

Use this parenting strategy with her as often as needed because anxiety is a habit.  Like a habit it takes practice to change. 

To turn your child's anxiety into confidence click below:

How Parents HelpAnxious Kids Feel Confident

 

 

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Gift: This Resilient Poem about Inner Guides Helps Kids

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Inner Guides Help Kids Think Before They Act

If you're worried about your distracted child and his concentration problems, then you'll want to introduce him to his Inner Guide.

When your child slows down, goes inward, and asks, “What’s the best thing to do in this situation?” he’s contacting his Inner Guide. Many times he’ll find the answer he needs.

Each of us has an Inner Guide. Some call it a Loving God. Others say it’s a helpful conscience. Still others might say it is our intuition, a gut felt sense, or an angel. People even give their Inner Guide a name. It’s up to you on how you’d like to present it.

Inner Guides have great value because they help your child take the time to reflect, ask questions, and think before he acts.

Choose to read this poem together. Ask your child to memorize it, cut it out, and/or post in a convenient place as a reminder for him to tune into his Inner Guide. It can help him concentrate, focus better, face difficult situations, and be more resilient.

Pick up your gift, A Resilient Poem: Your Child’s Inner Guide 

Insert code word: GUIDE

Then download your gift. Save it in a 3-hole binder to use whenever you need it.

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Parent-Child Meditation Method for Soothing Emotions

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Meditating Helps Soothe Difficult Feelings

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

WANT A SELF-REFLECTION TECHNIQUE to help your child soothe her out-of-control feelings? Below you'll find a Parenting Gift to help her use whenever she needs it.

When kids explode with anger, they often regret their outbursts. If your student is having trouble digging out from under depression, this tool can help. Fear, that anxious feeling that can invade your youngster's heart and prevent her from trying, can be changed with this stress-relief strategy.

Children own powerful minds and rich imaginations. (You do too. That's why you can use this system too.) Just as thoughts can increase difficult feelings, thoughts can reduce them too.

Preparing Your Child to Meditate

1. Be sure your child is in a good mood. A bad mood won't work because your child is still feeling negative.

 

2. Talk privately to show you respect your youngster. Make sure the surroundings are quiet and peaceful.

 

3. Discuss out-of-control feelings and how everyone experiences them. Use questions to learn her thoughts rather than lecturing.

 

4. Ask, “What feeling is hard for you to control?” Help her talk about her emotions by listening well.

 

5. Ask, “Are you willing to use your imagination to control it?”

Your Parenting Gift

Use this simple method at KidsDiscuss.com and insert the code: WORDS

I suggest you keep this special parenting gift in your parenting binder to use whenever you need it.

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Parenting Video Helps Kids with Out-of-Control Feelings

YOU CAN HELP YOUR CHILDREN CONTROL THEIR FEELINGS. But how? Yelling

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Parenting Tips for Helping Kids with Feelings


"Snap out of it!" won't help kids. Ignoring their emotional explosions doesn't help. Neither does complaining, "I'm sick and tired of your whining!"

If you'd like a parenting method that works, watch this brief YouTube Video. It will show you exactly how to help your child turn difficult feelings into healthy emotions.

Watch the video as often as you like or copy the script below it by clicking on "Show More."  Use it whenever you need it.

View it on YouTube for the video and script:

How Parents and Kids Discuss Feelings

Or watch it here:

 

Pick up the Goal-Setting Kit and help your child use her imagination to achieve her goals. She can use this skill throughout her life. Great for boys too!

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How to Help Your Children Say, "I CAN"

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Help Your Child  Become an "I CAN" Person

If your children need to say "I can," instead of "I can't," keep reading. Our parenting skills expert, Miriam Laundry, has written an impressive book entitled, I CAN Believe in Myself. Today, we'll share the side effects of raising negative kids, how to change them, and the story of  Molly.

How to Help Your Children Think, "I CAN"

Miriam Laundry's book illustrates the problems your children experience when they repeat, "I can't." These two words have the power to influence them by:

1. Causing sad feelings. Notice the expression on your kids' faces. Have them look in the mirror. Ask them, "Do you really want your brain to think, 'I Can't?'

2. Making them feel helpless.  Ask your youngsters, "Would you rather feel weak or strong?" Hopefully, they'll say strong. Then discuss how choosing to be helpless hurts them.

Try not to do things for your children that they could do for themselves. It could intensify their helpless feelings.

3. Increasing a sense of fear. Many kids fear hurting themselves or failing. This fear prevents them from trying. Never put your children down for feeling anxious. Put-downs make things worse. Rather praise them for the steps they take to overcome their fear. Be specific, positive, and truthful.

The Story of Molly

In this beautifully illustrated book, young Molly shows your kids how "I can't" held her back. They'll find out why Molly couldn't speak as she heard her teacher and classmates also say, "I can't."

Through Molly's creative imagination, your child will learn how Molly and her friend, 'Shreddy,' turned everyone around, including herself.

I CAN Believe in Myself is the best message for raising positive children who don't give up. Read it again and again with your kids. You'll like the results.

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Let's THANK Miriam Laundry for writing such a helpful book promoting 'I CAN' in young children. And one more thing, let her book boost positivity and an 'I CAN' attitude in your kids.

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Pick up your copy of, I CAN Believe in Myself, read it with your children often.

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Parenting the Shy Child: How Imagination and Two Hands Can Help

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How Imagination Uses Hands to Overcome Shyness

If you're a parent you want to help your shy child with a fun imagination strategy, here's a method you can use today. Our expert parenting author, Dr. Charlotte Reznick, is sharing an excerpt from her book, The Power of Your Child's Imagination.

 

Listen as Whitney uses her own hands to talk to each other. Find out how this strategy began to open her up.

How Whitney's Self-Interview Helped Her Talk to Herself

Whitney was an extremely shy eleven-year-old who was just learning to communicate with herself this way. We were working on opening her up to what brought her joy. Her hand-to-hand interview is a great example of how this works.

Whitney's Dominant Hand (DH)

Whitney's Nondominant Hand (ND)

DH: Why don't you speak up?

ND: I don't know why.

DH: I want you to speak up.

ND: I don't think so.

DH: Let's just try a little bit. I won't get mad. I want to talk.

ND: Okay, I like to sing.

DH: Thank you. I like to sing too. What else do you like to do?

ND: I like to dance.

DH: When would you like to dance?

ND: Next Thursday at 5 p.m.

DH: I will ask my mom to look into a class.

ND: Good.

DH: What else do you like to do?

ND: I like to write stuff.

DH: What kind of stuff do you like to write?

  ND: Stories mostly, and plays.

DH: Would you like me to write more?

ND: Yes.

DH: What else do you like to do?

ND: I like to swim.

DH: I don't like to swim. How do we resolve this? 

ND: We don't have to go.

DH: Would a bath be as good as swimming?

ND: Uh-hmm.

DH: How often?

ND: One to three mornings?

DH: Thank you. When would you want to talk again?

ND: Welcome. Not now.

DH: Is it okay if we talk every day or something?

ND: Yes.

Our Author's Explanation of the Results

Because Whitney was new to this, her questions and answers were short and simple. As she got comfortable, they became more fluid.

She also seemed to contradict herself, but ambivalence is a natural part of life. Some part of her was curious about swimming; another was wary. These are the contradictions that nondominant writing negotiates well.

This time the solution was a bath; next time she could invite herself into a real pool. All kinds of possibilities arise when a child establishes such communication with herself.

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I liked how this hand-to hand interview was both fun and helpful to Whitney. Dr. Charlotte has filled her book with so many creative ways to use the imagination. Her work is amazing.

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