Parents Can Teach Kids Social Skills

CHILDREN  WITH SOCIAL SKILLS AND CHARISMA AREN'T BORN THAT WAY. To be charismatic takes charm and you can teach it.

We're not talking about popularity, manipulation, or vanity. We're talking about the true inner charm that cares about others. It will help them grow socially too.

If you model charm to your children, they can learn it from you. There are 3 things all people want that come under the Umbrella of Attention. Give those to others and you'll have charisma.

Use Sincere Eyes, Smiles, and Words with:

1. Approval by looking for the good in your children and telling them what you see.
2. Appreciation for the good things they do. "Thank you for..." or "I like the fact that you..."
   
3. Affection using a touch, hug, pat on the back, kind word, kiss, or whatever is appropriate.
   

This is called the Triple A Formula. It is the best way to give what your child and others crave and that is, Attention.

Be a great listener. Hear what your children are saying. See how they're acting. Then try to understand how they're thinking and feeling.

Don't tell. Ask.

"How are you feeling?" Again be a great listener and repeat in your own words what they said. Here's why:

Charismatic listeners help others feel a real connection with them.

You want that with others and, especially, with your children.

Use these 3 tips, Approval, Appreciation, and Affection, as you ask your children the 6 parenting discussion topics in the following YouTube video. They will help your children develop the social skills they need to become the charismatic leaders of tomorrow.

Click on Socially Smart Kids - 6 Parenting Discussions with Children

 

Charismatic Children Lead with Caring

Feel free to copy the discussion topics from the transcript below the video. Please leave me a comment too. I would love to hear from you.

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Learn the Secret to Becoming a Child Leader

NATURAL BORN CHILD LEADERS NEVER HEAR THIS, “You’re not the boss of me!” A child with leadership skills knows the secret within in our poem today. He knows bossiness doesn’t work. He also knows what the pushy child doesn't understand but can easily learn.

A True Leader

I remember a boy in elementary school named, Robert, who possessed this special ability. It worked so well that his fellow students made him their class president year after year.

When Robert entered a newly constructed high school, he became the student body president 3 years in a row. Today, I’ll share his secret with you through our simple poem.

Poetry Gift Includes:

This poetry gift comes with pictures and words to show what doesn’t work if your child wants to be a leader. The solution in the poem is easy and is the number one leadership skill your child must learn.

Who Can Be Leaders?

Can a shy child become a leader? Certainly! In fact, it may be easier for a shy child to come out of his shell than for a loud bossy kid to tone down his behavior.

What Is the Secret to Successful Leadership?

If you think the answer is “Listening” that’s only part of the answer. It all starts with a special kind of question.

Find out what that question is by downloading our gift at http://kidsdiscuss.com/subscriber-gifts.asp and by inserting the word CARING

Consider adding this poem to your 3-hole notebook to help your child whenever he or she needs it.

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Helping Others Is the Key!

TO "PITCH IN" MEANS YOUR CHILD IS WILLING TO HELP. If you have a youngster who complains about tasks, his complaints can be a real drag at home and at school. How can you help him see the value of pitching in? Keep reading.

Real leaders don’t sit around basking in their leadership titles. True heads see the bigger picture and take action. One of their most important behaviors is to help others. How does this apply to your girl or boy?

The leadership attitude begins at home. To get children to help around your house, you might:

1. Use the phrase, “First this and then that…” First pick up your toys, and then we’ll play a board game (or whatever the motivating activity is). These powerful words avoid the complaining you detest and they increase your child’s willingness to help.

2. Find ways to compliment your child:

    "I appreciate the effort you made to complete your homework."

    "I like how you straightened your sheet before you finished making your bed."

    "Thank you for entertaining your baby brother while I fixed dinner."

    Children love honest compliments and appreciation.

3. Use stars and charts for a visual reminder of his or her helpfulness.

4. Create warm chats about leadership outside the home. Advise him to help his friend, a neighbor,  or look around his classroom and see what needs to be done like:

    Picking up toys when he and his friend have finished playing with them.

    Helping a pal with a task he needs to finish before he can play.

    Asking his teacher if he can clean the paint brushes after school.

    A child with an eye to seeing the bigger picture, the willingness to help, and then pitching in, is a leader in action.

Willingness to Help Is Leadership!

5. Ask your child to let you know when she helped others and increased her leadership skills. You are her confidant and guide. She’ll want you to know.

Your gift today lists 7 leadership skills. Find out what the other 6 are. Then think about how you can promote them in your child. If you do, you’ll be building her character and she’ll enjoy the good feeling of being an involved helper and leader.

Why not download all the leadership skills and put them in a 3-hole binder to use whenever you need them?

Click on http://kidsdiscuss.com/subscriber-gifts.asp and insert the code word, LEAD. Then download your gift.

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Bossy Kids Can Become Leaders

IF YOUR CHILD IS TOO BOSSY AND KIDS ARE REJECTING HIM, it can be painful for him and for you. Most children don't have a clue about leadership skills. Yet, they want other kids to follow their lead.

Keep reading to find out the 7 bossy behaviors that turn kids off and the 7 leadership skills your child can learn.

You can teach these skills with helpful conversations, role-playing activities, and/or charting your child's new leadership abilities.

One leadership tip includes resolving conflicts. The key is negotiation. Here are 3 easy things your child can learn to do:

Leaders Can Resolve Conflicts

1. Ask questions about the conflict and listen to the other' answers.

2. Find out if there is something both sides share in common. This is called 'Common Ground.' Your child can help each side achieve the 'wants' they have wants in common.

3. Then have him ask the big question once tempers cool down and both sides feel listened to. "How can we both win?" or "How can you both win?"

This one skill can be practiced at home by you whenever conflicts arise. Because it's practiced at home, your child will know how use it with classmates and friends.

Can you see how this skill can help change your child from a bossy boy to a trusted leader?

Read more to find out the other 6 simple leadership skills you can teach your child:

7 Leadership Skills Your Bossy Child Must Learn 

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As your child practices these skills, watch him smile as he becomes a likable leader.

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Teaching Your Bossy Child Leadership Skills

WHEN YOUR CHILD IS BOSSY, does he only care about getting his way? Perhaps he tells kids what to do or what to play. If so, he has the Bossy Kid Problem and you can help him change.

Bossy kids get rejected. It hurts your child and it probably hurts you too. Did you know you can turn your bossy child into a good leader?

Research tells us there are 7 leadership traits your child can learn. Imagine role-playing this one technique, active listening, with your youngster. Of course, you’d want to share these ideas first:

3 Facts Your Strong-Willed Child Needs to Know:

1. Kids care about themselves, their own ideas, and activities.

2. Children don’t want to hear you brag or tell them what to do.

3. When you ask questions and listen to them, it makes them feel good.

First Leadership Behavior - Listen Actively

Explain to your student, “After you ask another child about himself and he’s finished talking, prove you listened.” He may ask, “How?”

Tell him, “It’s easy. All you need to do is repeat the last part of the other child’s words. This helps the other kid remember where he left off and makes it easy for him to keep talking. He’ll love it.”

Role-Play Active Listening

Listen to your child. Repeat part of his last sentence. Listen some more. When he’s finished ask how he felt and then point out how you repeated some of his words and how he continued speaking. Next have him try it by listening to you.

Role-play until it becomes a habit in your home. It will help him practice this listening technique with others. Kids won’t call him, “Bossy.” He may even become a trusted leader because he cared about listening to them.

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Teach Your Children Leadership Skills Today!

If you'd like to build character and raise a leader, stay tuned. Alex Uch, a freelance writer, is sharing 6 ways to teach your kids leadership skills from his article "6 Things You Can Do To Develop Leadership Skills in Your Kids."

Some children are natural born leaders.  Others, however, struggle with stepping up and taking a leaderships position.  It is important that as a parent you do your best to help develop leadership skills in your kids to help prepare them for the future.   Use the tips below to guide you in developing these all important skills.

1. Encourage them to make decisions. Are you guilty of controlling each and every decision your kids make?  Decision making is one of the most important aspects of being a leader. Allowing them to make their own decisions regarding the simple things such as what to wear, their hairstyles, etc., you are helping them develop the decision making skills needed to be a leader.
 

2. Help strengthen communication skills. Communication is also crucial to leadership skills.  Teach your kids the foundation of communication by talking with them and allowing them to express how they feel. Encourage them to talk to adults to gain practice in communication.
 

3. Teach them to negotiate with friends and peers. This is a tough skill to teach but can be very beneficial in developing leadership skills. Trading playing cards is one example of how your child can learn negation skills.
 

4. Problem solving skills will be important. Don’t jump in to solve problems for your kids.  Give them opportunities to work it out on their own. 

5. Teach your kids to plan ahead. Real leaders know how to plan ahead.  Can your child plan ahead for things that will happen soon? Let them take part in planning family events or vacations.  It will be fun for them and they will learn leadership skills along the way.

6. Don’t be too pushy! Don’t overreact if your child isn’t a natural born leader. Sometimes, it takes time to develop these skills.  Being too pushy may actually drive them away from wanting to take on a leadership role.  Help them along but don’t go overboard with it.

Leaderships skills will come naturally for some kids.  These children will need very little encouragement to develop the necessary skills to be successful in life.  If your child needs a little help along the way, use the tips above as guidance in developing leadership skills.

This article has been written by Alex of http://www.matryoshkanestingdolls.com/

Let's give a warm hand to Alex for sharing his excellent ideas.

                
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