Listening Is the Key to Stopping the Tattling

Parents yell, “Stop Tattling!”

Listening to tattling is like scratching a swollen mosquito bite. If you listen to it over and over, it will get worse. Tattling becomes your child’s  habit.  Screaming becomes your cure, but only for the moment.

There is a better way. Today we’ll show a video to stop the tattling. You’ll see within the video a father who asks his daughter,

“Are you trying to help or hurt your sister?”

If she’s tattling to get her sister in trouble, he tells her:

“Please try to solve the problem yourself. Then come back and tell me how you solved it.”

Two Parenting Goals for Problem-Solving

1. To increase problem-solving with your positive attention.
2. To decrease tattling.

 

Listening Is the Gift Your Child Wants

The Problem-Solving Gift

Imagine you’re the girl’s father. When she returns to share her solution, listen. Good listening is a hug without words. It is filled with your attention. It is peaceful and loving. It is your gift to her.

How Listening Shows Caring:

Good listening avoids judging or arguing. It really wants to know your child’s thoughts and feelings. If there is something you don’t understand, ask questions after she’s done speaking.

Here is what you might say when your child shares her solution:

1. Let’s talk about your solution.
2. What voice did you use and what did you say?
3. How did it end?
4. How did you feel after you solved it?
5. What do you need to do to avoid a conflict next time?
6. What do you think of your becoming a problem-solver?
7. Can you guess how proud I am of you?

In the end, you want your child to be able to say, “ You really listened. You really care about how I think.”

Listening is a gift that can be used over and over in many different situations, not just tattling. Why? Because listening with love is what your child wants.  It creates a bond with your child and harmony in your home. Yes, it takes more time and it is rewarding. It is a great way to teach problem-solving. 

This brief video shares more ways to stop the tattling: 

Tattletale Kids: 10 Tips for Frustrated Parents

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w4Z3fh0VzRw

You might also like this article:

How Parents Stop Kids from Tattling on Sibs

https://www.kidsdiscuss.com/#/article/206

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How Parents Become Loving Couples

CHILDREN WANT THEIR PARENTS TO LOVE EACH OTHER. Parents want the same. But what stops some couples? Here are some possibilities:

1. Busyness
2. Distractions
3. Communication Problems
4. Disrespect
5. Money Issues
6. Lack of Time
7. Fighting
8. Stubbornness
9. Jealously

Should any of the above affect your marriage, things can get better. The 10 keys to a loving marriage come from a unique marriage counselor who thought outside the box.

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Some of them surprised me even though they made perfect sense. They came from a era when many women were stay-at-home moms. Perhaps the advice about child care might intrigue you. 

There are suggestions about criticism, decision making, money, compromising situations with the opposite sex, physical affection, and more.

I hope you will find the 10 keys practical, modern, and needed today.

Choose the ones you like. Increase those suggestions in your daily relationship. Then see if, they unlock a happier love life for you and your spouse.

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Power Struggles with Your Strong-Willed Child

Can Be Solved!

THINK OF HANDLING STUBBORN CHILDREN LIKE METAL BEADS AND A MAGNET. Your child's stubborn behaviors are the metal beads. Your reactions are the magnet. Each stubborn behavior can cause a swift and powerful clash if you let yourself explode with emotion. This doesn't have to happen.

Consider Using Logic by Asking Yourself 3 Questions:

1. What are the consequences to our relationship if I consistently blow-up?

       When I continually react with anger, his stubbornness hardens even more. Respect dies.

2. What are better ways of reacting to his stubbornness?

         I can use a kind, firm, and self-controlled voice.  With time and repetition, mutual respect could grow.

3. Are there specific ways to be the respectful parent and turn his headstrong behaviors into cooperative ones?

        If you draw a blank, watch our 1 minute video below. You'll find 5 solutions you can start using today.

Please remember, no parent is perfect. We all get over-stressed and lose our tempers. Don't get down on yourself if this happens to you. Just reconfirm your commitment to be a respectful parent.

One more thing, you CAN make the magnetic pull between you and your child into a pleasant and positive relationship.

Click on: Have a Headstrong Child? 5 Solutions

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Listening Is Loving!

If you and your family are so busy with life that you don’t have time for each other, you might want to slow down. Remember the 10-10-10 Rule by Suzy Welch where you ask yourself 3 questions?

1. Will this (busyness) matter in 10 days?
2. Will it matter in 10 months?
3. Will it matter in 10 years?

In 10 years your 8-year old will be 18. The point is, we need to make room for our children if we want to enjoy a strong family bond. Family bonds can give each member a strong foundation for dealing with life, especially if it's a loving connection.

Today, our 1 minute parenting tip video features a simple solution you can start using today. Here is the video with the script below it:

Listening – the Key to Family Closeness

If You’re a Busy Parent AND YOU KEEP SAYING to your child, “I don’t’ have time to talk,” You could be sending him the message, “What I’m doing is more important than you are.” Of course, it’s not what you mean. What can you do? Tell your child when you can talk with him. “Give me 15 minutes. Then let’s talk.” Don’t forget!

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Encourage Your Child's Inner Beauty!

TEACHING YOUR CHILD TO APPRECIATE BEAUTY, MUSIC, LOVE, AND MORE is not difficult. It takes a parent who cultivates a loving inner spirt and wants to share the peace it brings.

Many people sense there is more to life than what we can see, hear, touch, or feel. If you’d like to help your child to tap into this special sense, consider sharing the 10 easy ways in this parenting gift.

 

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Family Respect is the Key to a

Happy Home.

IF POUTING KIDS, SHOUTING AND DISRESPECT are bringing your family down, you can change it. In today's gift we'll offer 7 strategies to increase your family's positive spirit. But first well share 5 tips that you might need to consider if your family feels out of control.

Parenting Out-of-Control Children:

1. Avoid lecturing, yelling, and pleading. They make parents look and sound weak.

2. Be kind and firm, consistent and stable. It’s best for you and your child.

3. Walk away from your child’s selfish words. Avoid being sucked into a fight because you’ll lose.

4. Keep your child’s allowance if he doesn’t complete his chores or does them poorly.

5. Stop doing extra deeds like his laundry when he’s disrespectful.

These suggestions may help your children realize you are in charge. This following brief video, could help you strengthen your resolve to get things under control. Then we'll share 7 positive tips that lead to respect.

Spoiled Child - 6 Practical Parenting Solutions

 

Changing the Out-of-Control Family

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These 7 positive tips to help your child grow in love and respect. They give your children exactly what they want: approval, attention, and appreciation. They are easy and practical.

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Family Love Helps Kids Grow

LOVE IS THE ANSWER FOR CREATING A HAPPY HOME and respect is its key. Today we'll offer you a brief YouTube Video sharing the 7 best mindsets to instill in your children. It will tell you why they're the best with special pictures to match.

If you're a little disappointed in your children's attitudes and don't know what to focus on to turn them around, this video can help. 

If you feel you are doing a good job and want to be sure, view this video. Pat yourself on the back for every healthy attitude you are boosting in your children.

If you don't have children yet but plan to, checkout this video and decide what you want to teach your children.

Finally, if you disagree with the ideas in this video or would like to add your own to the list, let me know by commenting below. I will reply to you.

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Is Materialism the Key to Your

Child's Happiness?

IF YOU'RE TEACHING YOUR KIDS THAT MONEY, TOYS, AND PRESENTS are the keys to happiness, are they happy? If you're fighting materialism in your home, is it working? 

You CAN nurture generosity over greed. Consider watching our brief video and picking up the parenting tips with questions you need.

It offers ways for your kids to think more deeply about materialism. It won’t promote shame or guilt either.

Toward the end of this video,

How Parents Discuss Materialism with Kids

you'll find four powerful ideas that really do lead to happier lives. They don't cost a penny either.

Below the video you’ll also find the script to use with your loved ones. Feel free to copy it and add it to your binder to use whenever you need it.

 

Teach Your Kids What's Really Important!

Enjoy raising children who value the things that really matter.

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 How Parents Discuss Materialism with Kids

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Use These Parenting Exercises

Look, as a parent you are very busy. All you need is more parenting suggestions that take time. Don't worry. The actions in this parenting presentation are so easy and take very little time. They'll make raising your family easier because your children will feel happier. When kids are happy they tend to cooperate more. The benefits give you and your kids a win-win.

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