How Parents Become Loving Couples

CHILDREN WANT THEIR PARENTS TO LOVE EACH OTHER. Parents want the same. But what stops some couples? Here are some possibilities:

1. Busyness
2. Distractions
3. Communication Problems
4. Disrespect
5. Money Issues
6. Lack of Time
7. Fighting
8. Stubbornness
9. Jealously

Should any of the above affect your marriage, things can get better. The 10 keys to a loving marriage come from a unique marriage counselor who thought outside the box.

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Some of them surprised me even though they made perfect sense. They came from a era when many women were stay-at-home moms. Perhaps the advice about child care might intrigue you. 

There are suggestions about criticism, decision making, money, compromising situations with the opposite sex, physical affection, and more.

I hope you will find the 10 keys practical, modern, and needed today.

Choose the ones you like. Increase those suggestions in your daily relationship. Then see if, they unlock a happier love life for you and your spouse.

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These Communication Skills Help Stop Fights!

When parents fight, kids hurt. They wonder, 'Are Mom and Dad getting a divorce?' You can stop the worry with a simple communication process. It is best used on a regular basis to solve problems that arise.

Most couples have differences and don't know how to solve them. Some parents shout, some pout, and others avoid dealing with conflicts altogether. If you look at difficulties as normal, fights don't have to be scary.  They can be solved.

Today you'll find a process that promotes good communication, respect, and it doesn't scare your children either. I've used it often when counseling fighting parents.

To solve your problems without fighting watch this Google Slides Presentation. It's brief, avoids long explanations, and you can copy the steps if you like.

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Communicating Well Brings Couples Closer

YOU DO HELP YOUR FAMILY, when you and your spouse communicate well. If you talk with clarity, speak without over-talking, and use a respectful tone, good things can happen.

Your partner will feel valued, your children will learn, and you'll feel good about your approach.

In today's gift you'll find 3 helpful speaking and listening guidelines:

First - 6 communication tips to establish before you even begin to talk.

Second - 6 recommendations for good discussions when you're together.

Third - 3 important suggestions after you've solved a problem successfully.

These three communication guides could save your marriage. All it takes is a desire to make your relationship stronger, happier, and more fulfilling.

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Practice 5 Communication Skills to Prevent This!

COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS BETWEEN PARENTS CAN BE EXPENSIVE! According to the law offices of William 3. Neary, the average cost of divorce is $15,000-30,000. Child Custody Evaluations are $2,000-$10,000 and then there are moving expenses, health insurance, child custody expenses plus a whole lot more. That’s just the monetary side.

Emotionally, divorce puts the whole family through turmoil. Counseling is often recommended for parents and children.

Today’s gift shares 7 communication difficulties many parents experience and 5 communication skills to practice.

Fighting Couples Need to Make 2 Choices:

1. The decision to overcome communication breakdowns.

2. The determination to practice good communication with each other.

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A boy I counseled had often seen his parents screaming at each other. He acted out  their behavior. The school contacted his mom and dad.

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Even though their son yelled at, hit, and hurt other kids on the playground, his dad said, "Boys will be boys!" This his sister started causing similar problems at school. Finally, the parents paid attention. That's when the school contacted me.

The kids did what they saw the parents do. Yet deep inside, they feared their folks would divorce.

If fighting is hurting your marital relationship and your kids are being affected, you CAN change. In today's brief blog video, you'll find 3 miserable marriage traps, 3 questions to ask yourself about each trap, and 3 ways to overcome the trap. You'll also find 4 helpful communication tips for couples.

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If you're a parent and want to get your needs met in your relationship, our marriage and couple author and expert, Dr. Jackie Black ,will show you how. Now you can keep your commitment and be happier too. Let's listen to her advice with an excerpt from her book, Love Like a Black Belt: Cracking the Code to Being a Happy Couple.

Parents, Discover Your Needs with Answers to These Questions:

Here are a few things to think about that might help you understand the concept of personal needs and values from another viewpoint. You might find it helpful to take a sheet of paper and pencil out and jot down your responses to the questions in this section. 

Do you have a need for intimacy? For achievement? For results? For companionship?

Reflect on your own needs-do you know what they are? Remember, this is something you are doing for yourself, so be honest! When a need gets met you may feel soothed, relieved, excited, accepted, loved, understood, valued or energized. When a need is not met you may feel upset, angry, disappointed, frustrated, alienated or rejected.

. Can you think of a need (or two) that is being met right now or that has been met in the past?

. How do you feel when a need of yours gets met? Can you recall how you felt when one of your needs was not met?

. Did you notice that your needs are requirements of something or someone to change or be different, to be better or be more?

. Did you notice any concerns or beliefs that there isn't anyone in your life who is able or willing to meet your needs? Think about what you noticed and how it made you feel.

If you have trouble identifying your needs, it is an indication you may not be fully aware of your needs.

You may not believe that it is okay for you to have needs. You may be ashamed of having needs and sometimes even not allow yourself to have needs. Or you may have denied that you have needs for so long that a part of you isn't letting you know.

Whatever your "good" reason, don't worry, I can assure you that identifying your needs, become aware of how your needs can be met, and having them met, is a very do-able process! (from pages 8-9)

To discover your values go to page 9-13. Jackie's information is priceless!

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Does your daughter put excessive value on her looks? Is she depressed because she's not gorgeous? How can you build character in your daughter with better values? Read how my friend and colleague, Claire Hatch, a Marriage Counseling Expert, helps her step-daughter choose brains over bimbos.

Jean: Claire, I've been reading Peggy Orenstein's book, Cinderella Ate My Daughter. In it she expresses concern about girls putting too much value on their looks. Your 15-year-old teenager  has a 3.7 GPA and, although she takes care of her looks, she's not excessive. How did you get her to value brains over bimbos?

Claire: Her father, mother, and I have planted seeds about school and career.

Jean: Do you have some examples for our readers?

Claire: Sure. We make sure she understands:

1. College graduates usually make more money and have more choices about how to live their lives than high school graduates.

2. Kids that drop out of high school tend to be poor.

3. We tell her, "You have such expensive tastes. You'll need a really good job to pay for them."           

4. We also do use a lot of "carrots" and they're not all about money. We have told her, "You'll learn about things in the world that might interest you that you would never have heard of without college. You'll have a more interesting life. You'll meet interesting people, maybe even lifelong friends."

 Jean: Sounds like you're giving her a choice between a negative and positive vision.

Claire: Exactly! We also try to model helping others. When she was little she didn't understand my job as a counselor, so I told her, "I help people."

Jean: Have you seen any results?

Claire: Yes. She is very kind to her friends. She also volunteered to assist a kindergarten teacher near her high school.

Jean: What other ideas would you like to tell parents?

Claire: Find out what motivates your kids. I asked my step- daughter why she likes to get good grades.

Jean: What did she say?

Claire: "Rewards!"

Jean: What did she mean?

Claire: Good grades give her rewards like when her teachers tell other kids to go to my her for help when they don't understand a concept. I think you'd say her reward is prestige. She's also very competitive and won't let herself fall behind in class.

Jean: Is there any other advice you'd like to share with parents?

Claire: Yes. Take your child's ideas seriously. Be sincere and be a good role model too.

I left Claire thinking how simple and effectively she, her husband, and her step-daughter 's mother are teaching values that last. They're building character too.

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Parents, life can be tough if your kids aren't responsible. Do you know parents who let their kids play before their chores? Many parents do and then wonder why their kids won't do their chores. Look inside for 2 statements that can turn things around if they're said often and used consistently.

2 Parenting Tips that Build Character and Childhood Responsibility

1.  "Work before play." This daily refrain like a popular melody must be implanted in kids' brains. When kids consistently work before play, they become responsible children.

2.  "First this, then that." Repeat this similar refrain when kids want to shirk their chores, homework, or practices like sports and music lessons.

Samples of both:

1. Do your work before you play with your friends.

2. First practice your guitar then you may watch TV.

One Reason Why Building Character and Childhood Responsibility Is Important

Not long ago I met Officer Stratton. He hoped parents wouldn't be fooled into raising self-indulgent, lazy kids with weak characters. Officer Strutton had worked in a state prison system. He told me, "The number one trait of inmates was laziness. It's what got them there in the first place."

Parents, the above 2 parenting tips can prevent laziness if you're consistent in repeating and following through with them. Use them to build self-discipline, character, and childhood responsibility. They're easy to say and easy to use.

One more thing, you are your child's best teacher.

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Motivation through stories gives your child a jewel to deposit in his memory bank with every story. When he remembers the story he remembers the moral. This moral could help him make good choices throughout his lifetime.

A Motivation Problem:

One mother's son is 9-years-old. He is well liked by all because he's sensitive to others. Yet he sets himself up for disappointment because he expects to succeed with his first effort. His mother is worried.

I think Lora has a solution that this mother might try. You can use it too.

I often use stories of famous people or heroes who overcame obstacles to show that not everyone, in fact no one, gets everything on the first (or second or third) try. The important thing is to keep trying. - from Lora

This reminds me of a character building chart I'm using with a child who's

 learning to read.

He'd like to get everything correct on the first try too. To keep him motivated I

 try 4 things:  

Your child's motivation may need a boost when she wants to give up. Find out this mom's strategy when her children are discouraged.

I acknowledge how they feel - that they might be discouraged, tired, disappointed, afraid - and remind them that everyone feels that way from time to time. Then I talk about what it will be like when they reach their goal. What it will look like, how they will feel, how others will react (kiddy visualization). Then with me right by their side cheering them on just give them some version of "GO FOR IT". - from Lora B.

I like how Lora starts with kids feelings. Acknowledging those feelings helps kids feel understood. It can motivate too. She also uses visualization to help her kids see and feel the positive picture to strive for. 

Motivation and Goal Setting for Kids Using Visualization:

Parents, when your kids can see, feel, and say positive self-talk all in the same moment, their goals will be within reach.

I did this with my son, Brian, when he was 10-years-old. The baseball coach told Brian he would pitch in the next game. Brian had never pitched before. We sat down and did what Lora suggested. Brian saw, felt, and used positive self-talk.

He struck all the batters out. It was amazing. Like Lora I was his biggest cheerleader. 

One more thing, this was his self-talk sentence: "I am pitching powerfully into the catcher's mitt." And he did.

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