Positive Parenting: 5 New Tips to Help Your Kids

 

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Kids Become the Way They Think 

 

As we enter the New Year, it's the perfect time to reflect on our parenting methods. Let's set positive intentions for our children's growth. One crucial aspect to consider is the development of thinking patterns. Just as a plant needs sunshine and water to survive, your child needs a positive mindset to bloom. Let's examine five toxic thinking habits and how we can help our children overcome them for a brighter future.

 

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Turn Her "I Can'ts" into "I-Cans."

 

1. The 'I Can't' Dilemma: Is your child trapped in the grip of "I can't" thoughts? This self-limiting belief can slow her progress. She may resort to the easy way out when faced with challenges, saying, "It's too hard." 

The antidote? Encourage her to take small steps and celebrate each achievement. By fostering an “I Can” mindset, she'll realize that every effort contributes to success, no matter how small.

 

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Teach Him that Failure is a Steppingstone to
Success.

 

2. The Mistake Magnifier: Does your child magnify mistakes and stop trying?  Giving up could seem easier. Perhaps he fears failure. The fear of failure can shrink growth. It’s important to emphasize that mistakes are stepping stones to success.

Mistakes help us. Mistakes tell us what doesn't work. They say, "Stop repeating my errors. Try something else." Help your child view errors as ways to learn and grow. Show him how to break down problems into easy steps. You'll be helping him overcome his fear of failure. By accepting his mistakes, he can try new ways. He can start on a journey of continuous growth.

 

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Turn "I'll Never Understand This" into "I Am
Understanding This Page by Page."

 

3. The Generalizer: If your child uses sweeping words like "all," "every time," "always," and "never" in negative statements, she might be falling into the trap of generalization. Generalizations exaggerate and are rarely true. Challenge her exaggerated statements by asking her, "Is, 'I'll never understand this really true'?" or is it an exaggeration?" Help her recognize that using such words leads to discouragement.

Teach her to drop her sweeping statements. Then focus her attention on breaking problems into smaller bits. By encouraging clear language, you guide her toward a more positive and realistic view of herself, her problems, and the world.

 

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Teach Him to Recognize the Truth in Your Compliments.

 

4. The Compliment Problem: When your child rejects compliments and turns them into personal criticism, it could be a sign of fuzzy thinking. Perhaps he's convinced himself he's not good enough.

Make sure your praise is specific and something he cannot deny. "Doug, I like how you wash your sheets and make your bed each week." Then teach him to accept your approval with a smile. You'll be turning his negative thoughts into honest beliefs about himself. His self-esteem will grow. He'll start to become a clear thinker too. 

 

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Avoid Promoting Helplessness by
Doing Her Work for Her.

 

5. Mountain or Molehill: Does your child turn everyday chores into mountains? She may even try to prove she is helpless. She needs to face her tasks.

Empower her with honest praise whenever she completes a small responsibility. Use specific words to help her realize she can do things for herself. "I like how carefully you dried and put the dishes away." She will want more of your approval and rely more on her abilities. Keep teaching her more age-appropriate tasks and compliment her with specifics when she achieves them. 

Boosting Positive Mindsets: You are invaluable in shaping your child's attitude. Changing negative thinking into positive mindsets isn't an overnight process but it is worth the effort.  Don't give up.

Here are three puzzles for your child  to unscramble and discuss in fostering positivity this New Year:

  1. Unscramble this word, KIMSATES, and discuss how it can help you grow.
  2. Unscramble this word, SMTEIDNS, and discuss why a positive one is important.
  3. Unscramble this word, LEBOPSRM, and discuss why these help you think.

 
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Answers to the 3 Puzzles:

  1. Mistakes
  2. Mindsets
  3. Problems

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The Power of Listening: 6 Ways to Build a Strong Bond with Your Child

Why Listening is a Parenting Superpower

Listening is a powerful parenting tool that can help you build stronger relationships, solve problems, and create compassion within your family. Here are six reasons why listening counts:

1. Listening Cares

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 My listening is caring.

My kids love our sharing.

     

Listening Is the Caring Connection Between Parent and Child

 

"When you listen, you sprinkle caring into the conversation."

 

When you listen to your child with care, you show them that you value their thoughts and feelings. This helps them feel loved and supported, which is essential for their emotional well-being.

 

Listening Understands

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I listen with understanding,

And my mind is expanding.

 

Listening Boosts Understanding Between Parents and Children

 

"When parents listen, they give children the gift of their time and attention."

When you listen to your child with understanding, you try to see things from their perspective. This helps you build trust and rapport, and it makes it more likely that your child will come to you for help when they need it.

3. Listening Heals

 

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My listening is healing.

It's a beautiful feeling.

 

Listening is the Superpower to Healing Your Kids' Emotions

 

"Your listening is the silent kiss your child loves." 

Listening heals. When you listen to your child with compassion, you help them to feel validated and understood. This can help them to heal from emotional pain and to cope with difficult experiences.

4. Listening Supports

                               

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My listening is supportive,
And the results are effective.


Listening Gives Your Child the Support System They Need

"Love is heard through the ears, not just the lips."

When you listen to your child with support, you offer them encouragement and guidance. This helps them to feel confident and capable, and it makes it more likely that they will succeed in life.

 

5. Listening Encourages

 

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My listening is encouraging,
And my children are
flourishing.
 

 

Encouraging Parents Boost Their Children's Belief in Themselves

"Your listening is like a warm hug in your child's heart."

When you listen to your child with encouragement, you let them know that you believe in them. This helps them to develop a positive self-image and to achieve their goals.

 

6. Listening Bonds

 
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My listening is bonding, 
And my children are responding.

 

Children Who Feel Heard and Respected by Their Parents Bond with Them

 

"Parents who listen are like hearts beating in harmony with their children."

 When you listen to your child with empathy, you create a strong connection between you and them. This helps your child to feel safe and loved, and it makes it more likely that they will thrive.

Based on this article, here is a little Quiz. Pick out the best answer:

When you listen to your child with care, you show them that you:

    1. Value their thoughts and feelings
    2. Love and support them
    3. Understand their perspective
    4. All the above

When you listen to your child with care you show 'd' All the above. 

Conclusion for Listening - Your Parenting Superpower

Listening is a skill that takes time and practice to develop. But it's one of the most important skills a parent can have. By listening to your child with care, understanding, and compassion, you can build a solid foundation for a happy and healthy relationship.

Your call to action: Pick out one of the 6 listening techniques to practice. Add a new one each week. Let me know the results.

This 50-second video The Key to Family Closeness is helpful when you don't have time to talk. Its tip is priceless.

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Goals - 2 Ways Kids Create Winning Feelings

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You can teach your child how to choose winning
feelings.

Healthy character building teachers children to choose their thoughts. Your kids can choose their feelings too. Inside you’ll find 2 ways to help your children choose winning feelings and build character too.

Building Character in Kids that Develop the Feelings of Joy and Enthusiasm:

"When we accept tough jobs as a challenge. . . and wade into them with joy and enthusiasm, miracles can happen." - Arland Gilbert

Your child becomes a winner when he approaches life with joy and enthusiasm. But when your child’s spirits are down, he won't want to try. Goal setting offers him a way to learn the magic of optimism. Here are two ways you can help him feel the magic.

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Why Brad Chooses to Try

 

2 Parenting Tips – How Brad Creates a Winning Spirit

Let's say your Brad loves soccer but he's an average player. His last practice was a disaster. He's told you that he'll be standing on the sidelines this season. Now he mopes around the house. Your heart goes out to him. You ask him if he'd like a way to create winning feelings. He nods. Here's what to do:

Goals - 2 Ways Kids Create Winning Feelings 

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Helping Children Overcome Shyness and Make Friends

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Don't Let Your Bashful Child Be Lonely!

 

Timid kids feel pain. Parents watch and suffer. Loneliness wins.

Imagine your child sitting alone in the lunchroom thinking,

“No one will sit with me. Nobody likes me.”

What does she feel? Does she rush to the bathroom and hide until classes start again?

Bashful kids don’t have to be friendless. You can help. There is a 3-part blueprint that works.

Go slow. Keep the steps small. Why? Because shy kids are overwhelmed by fearful thoughts and feelings. Big leaps don’t work.

3 Don’ts for Overcoming Shyness

  1. Don’t speak up for your children because they’ll lose the chance to speak up for themselves.
  2. Don’t make excuses for your children because they’ll rely on those excuses and not try.
  3. Don’t put your children down for being shy because your comments will add to their misery.

3 Do’s for Helping Shy Kids Make Friends

  1. Do ask if they’d like to make friends because you want to know if they’ll cooperate.
  2. Do ask, “What stops you from making friends?" because the answer is important and will help you guide them with the blueprint.
  3. Do tell them that making friends is a skill they can learn because it will give them the hope they need.

 

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A Few Friends Can Make a Big Difference.

 

Shy kids need your patience because impatience shuts them down. Remember, even tiny steps require taking risks. Your children may never become an outgoing extrovert or big talker. But, with your help, they can overcome loneliness and satisfy their need for a few close friends.   

 

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Friendships Bring Happiness to Kids

 

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The Assertive Child - How Parents Empower Kids

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The Aggressive Child Lacks Friends
 

 

Aggressive kids, like Joey aren't liked. He hated waiting in line at the water fountain. He'd shove the kids lined up ahead of him. They'd fall forward like dominoes. The first child always hit his face while drinking. Joey laughed. I visited his parents and had a glimpse into Joey's life at home. 

The father put his wife down several times during our conversation. She looked straight into my eyes but said nothing. Tears ran down her face.

When parents model meanness, children pick it up. Joey was mean. He didn't know how to relate to others.

I found out that Joey's dad was too busy to spend time with Joey. Joey didn't feel important. He didn't feel love from his dad. As we ended the meeting, Joey's father promised to spend time with him. He and his wife decided to work on their relationship too.

 

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Parents Must Model How Children Can Assert Themselves
 

Teaching children how to assert themselves, speak up with respect, and be friendly starts at home. Parents must model how to communicate well. If they don't know how, they can learn. The following article will show how.

 Assertive Children  - How Parents Raise Great Communicators

You'll find:

1. An empowering formula for teaching kids assertiveness skills

2. 5 assertive role-plays to practice at the dinner table

3. A fun family activity 

4. An assertive poem for kids

How Joey Became Assertive

Joey told me with a big smile that his dad playfully put shaving cream on his face and let him shave it off with an empty razor. It made a real difference. Joey, over a matter of weeks, stopped shoving kids and started making friends. A greater respect developed between Joey's parents. Soon they were ready to learn the Assertiveness Formula within this article:

Assertive Children  - How Parents Raise Great Communicators

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Loving Parents Empower Kids

 

You can raise assertive children by practicing the formula within your family. Advise your kids to use it with others too. If you do, they'll learn to speak up for themselves, make friends, and become respectful communicators too.

Watch our brief video on assertiveness:

 

 

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How Parents Deal with Childhood Boredom - 10 Ways

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Helping Bored Kids Become Interested Children

 

BUILDING KIDS’ INTERESTS STARTS WITH ASKING THE QUESTIONS THEY LOVE TO ANSWER. Good questions create a bond between you and your child. With these questions you’ll find out:

  • How they feel about boredom
  • What blocks their curiosity
  • What they’d really like to learn
  • What fills them with wonder
  • How you can help them satisfy their curiosity

 

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Curious Kids Have More Fun

 

After you hear the answers to the 10 discussions, You’ll know what fascinates your children. This helps them overcome boredom. You can then support and nurture their quest for knowledge by:

  • Suggesting they ‘Google’ the information they seek
  • Taking them to the library
  • Asking about and listening to their research
  • Praising their efforts to learn more
  • Suggesting they share their knowledge with grandparents and friends.
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"I Love Discussing My Interests."

 

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Parenting Tips: Motivating Kids Through Their Senses

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Motivating Your Child Is Easy


 

CHILDREN LEARN THROUGH THEIR SENSES. Seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and touching are built-in learning gifts. Parents CAN encourage kids to gain knowledge with sense-based compliments. Today, you’ll find several ways to encourage your child’s efforts to expand their intelligence. 

Your Children Feel Great with Loving Touches

Perhaps you want to teach your child kindness. His sense of touch could come alive with a pat on the back, a hug, a kiss, or a hand squeeze. When you notice a caring behavior, you could say something like, “I appreciate how you let your brother play video games with the older kids.” A pat on the back might be the perfect touch.

Your Kids Learn through Tasty Foods and Delicious Smells

Consider promoting your child’s cooking skills. Let’s say she decides to bake chocolate chip cookies. She’ll learn to read recipes and measure ingredients. You could inspire further cooking by saying, “Your cookies taste as good as they smell.” A warm cookie with a glass of milk could further her desire to learn new recipes.

Children Smile When They See Their Work

Refrigerators and kitchen bulletin boards are super places to post their masterpieces. Art work, school work, even a photo of a bed well-made can motivate them to keep on trying. Your comments like, “How did you challenge yourself to write such an interesting report,” encourages them further.

Kids Love to Hear Special Sounds

 

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Use Her Sense of Sound to Motivate Her

 

Perhaps your child enjoys baseball and made a difficult catch. Your words like, “How did it feel when you caught the fly and threw it to third base for a double out?” puts her back in those moments when the crowd was cheering. Because of your praise and the crowd’s roars, she’s likely to practice catching and throwing even more.

For more ideas using the senses to motivate your child, go to:

How Parents Motivate Kids Through Their Senses

 

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The Sarcastic Parent - How to Use Praise Instead - 1 Minute Video

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Sarcasm Hurts Children

 

If you’re a parent who ridicules your child, and your sarcasm is backfiring, you must change. Why? Because getting your friends to laugh at your youngster causes her pain. Don’t be surprised when your parent and child relationship suffers and your friends gossip behind your back.

Today we’ll share a video with a 1 minute parenting tip that shares a specific suggestion on how to change. We’ll even include the script.

Sarcastic Parents - Don't Push Your Child Away 

 




Transcript:

Don’t Push Your Child Away

A 60 Second Parenting Tip

Avoid Sarcasm.

You may be witty, a jokester, or very funny.

But it can be hurtful if your child is the object of your jokes.

When others laugh at her she could feel ashamed or ridiculous and foolish.

Stop! Sarcasm can backfire on you.

Your kids could avoid you now and, in the future, too.

Catch your child being good instead.

Tell him specifically what you like.

Use positive words and a pat on the back.

Keep your child close with honest compliments.

 

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