Parents Who Love Kids "Just Right"
HOW TO PARENT WITH LOVE AND CONFIDENCE is the subject of our parenting skills author, Dr. Robin Berman.
In her book, Permission to Parent, Dr. Robin says, "Lasting bonds are forged through a combination of love, limits, and time." Today she'll share how to love your kids "just right."
Dr. Robin Berman offers stories from her student days as an intern. An older woman, who was dying of cancer said, "I want my mom." Even though her mother had died many years ago, her mom's love gave her the comfort she needed. The old woman carried that love throughout her life. It was that loving bond which helped her now.
Throughout her book, Dr. Robin shares stories that reinforce her point, a loving parent/child bond is everything. I was inspired by her tale of the man in his eighties and of the young mute girl who was dying of AIDS and why she spoke to the author.
Love, limits, and time are Dr. Robin's recipe for family peace. She not only uses stories to show how the parent/child bond works, she uses insightful quotes from ordinary moms and dads like:
The Loving Connection
"It' is all about the connection. I want my daughter to feel how much I love her. I slow it down, I get low. I sit on the floor. I meet her where she is. I don't parent from above. I want to reach her, eye to eye, soul to soul." - Father of three
Reaching your child and making the connection is another point Dr. Robin makes. But some parents reach too far. They are "helicopter parents" because they hover too close. Instead of making their kids strong through their love, they make their children anxious.
3 Examples of What Helicopter Parents Do:
1. They rush to do their child's work.
2. They try their best to prevent all pain.
3. They send the message, "You need me because you can't do things on your own."
Dr. Robin calls this "Bubble wrapping." Helicopter parents prevent their kids from thinking, "I can do it myself."
The author also explains how parents can give healthy love that fosters independence and security.
3 Ways Parents Love Best:
1. They respond with a soothing calmness.
2. They give the child room to solve problems on their own.
3. They send the message, "You can do it. I believe in you."
This kind of love gives the child a belief in himself and leads to self-confidence.
Parents who aren't sure if they're doing too much or too little will appreciate this book. It clearly shows them how to give their children the love that lasts a lifetime.
Many parenting authors write fine books. Dr. Robin's book is among the best because she focuses on the foundation - LOVE. She knows the way to parenting "just right."
If you'd like a parenting book that lays out step-by-step tips and truths, pick up Permission to Parent - How to Raise Your Child with Love and Limits. Your children will profit and so will you.
Let's THANK our Parenting Skills author, Dr. Robin Berman, for sharing her positive insights into parenting "just right."
Robin Berman, MD
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Jean Tracy, MSS
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