Do you have an out-of-control teen? Have you tried everything but nothing works? Sue Scheff, our parenting expert and author of the book, Wits End, will share some ideas on getting your teenager to the residential treatment center. She knows first-hand about the pitfalls and helps parents assess programs for choosing the best. Once you've chosen the program the next step is to get your teenager there.
Your Teenager's Sense of Betrayal and Your Feelings of Guilt
Sue Scheff agrees it's difficult to convince your out-of-control teen to agree to go to the residential treatment center. Most adolescents feel betrayed and no parent looks forward to the angry words and tantrums. In fact, Sue knows the guilt a parent feels since she had to face the same problem with her daughter.
Sue advises that a good treatment program will help with your teen's sense of betrayal and your guilt. A good program will get your teen to take responsibility for her behavior that brought her there. Most programs, says Sue, remove all privileges and your teenager must earn each reward. In this way, your teen begins to cooperate.
To calm your guilt, Sue counsels you to learn the details of the program, your teenager's day, and every aspect of your child's life in the facility. Then, she says, "Give yourself time to fight it (the guilt) off."
Getting Your Teenager to the Treatment Facility
Some fortunate parents convince their teens to go but not many in comparison to those who rebel. So what do you do? Here are two suggestions:
1. Be deceptive. Get your adolescent to the facility when she thinks you're taking her somewhere else.
2. "Ask the treatment facility for a list of recommended escort services that you can contact and interview to determine which one you desire to work with." Sue instructs parents to compare rates, availability, and procedures.
If you choose the second, the escort service may come before dawn while your child is sleeping and is taken off guard. It also assures your teen arrives during daylight hours. (From pages 117-123)
Sue Scheff has researched many resources for parents to consider. She is the founder of Parents' Universal Resource Experts, Inc. (P.U.R.E.). Since 2001 Sue has assisted families with valuable information and resources for their children and teens who are struggling with today's peer pressure, experimenting with drugs and alcohol, and simply good kids starting to make bad choices. (From page 169)
Let's PRAISE Sue for her research into the best programs for your out-of-control teenagers. The story she shares about her daughter in Wits End will save you much grief if you follow Sue's advice.
Pick up Wit's End: Advice and Resources for Saving Your Out-of-Control Teen to get the information you need.
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