If you're a parent who wants to raise resilient kids, use these power thoughts! Our parenting expert and author of The Resilience Formula, is Dr. Donna Volpitta. She is here to share 2 practical ways to help your kids with scripts and triggerscripts. Keep reading and start using these amazing tools today.
Definition and Goal of Scripting
"Scripting is the process of providing the exact language we want and having someone repeat it back. The goal of scripting in this book is to provide kids with strategies to handle everyday challenges." (page 77)
Dr. Volpitta describes the process for parents with 2 steps:
1. Create the script or sentence.
2. Tell your child to repeat the script exactly.
Here's an example many parents say and it's not the best because it doesn't get the child to repeat exactly.
"Mom can I have a cookie?"
"What do you say?"
The best script that becomes a brain pathway to other requests like a doll or a bike:
"Mom, may I have a cookie please?"
Dr. Donna's Golden Rule for Raising a Polite Kid
Have them say the whole phrase-don't let them separate out the "please!" (page 80)
The Triggerscripts - A Definition:
If you're a parent who repeats positive mottos and quotes often when guiding your kids, then you're halfway there to helping your kids develop strategies for handling the challenges of life.
"A triggerscript is a short script that can trigger a brain pathway to set in motion specific actions." (page 86)
Of course, triggers and triggerscripts need to be explained to kids beforehand so your kids know what you want them to say. These sayings then become power thoughts to help them throughout life.
I remember my mother often repeating, "A stitch in time saves nine." It was her way of telling me not to put things off.
But Dr. Donna would take that quote one step further. If my mother had said, "A stitch in time..." and had me fill it in either out loud or silently, it would have made an even greater pathway.
Why is this important? Remember, "The goal of a triggerscript is to create a pathway that is automatic, one that triggers a behavior without having to think about it." (page 87)
Dr. Donna's Guidelines for Generating Your Own Triggerscripts:
1. Use words that tell your children what to do.
2. Give any script a rhythmic beat.
3. Repeat, repeat, repeat.
4. Be consistent. (pages 91 - 92)
"The ultimate goal of triggerscripts is self-regulation - teaching kids the tools to control their own behavior. Ideally, we arm them with triggerscripts so that they can act appropriately and safely when we are not around." (pages 92-93)
I love the ideas of using scripts and triggerscripts when raising children. Having children repeat the exact script of what to say is very important.
There are many great mottos and quotes to use as triggerscripts. If we can't think up our own we can repeat ones that are short and to the point. Ones that rhyme are especially effective like, "A stitch in time saves nine."
Scripts and triggerscripts help children know what to do when we aren't there. They help kids regulate themselves because they become power thoughts with automatic pathways in their brains.
Let's HONOR Dr. Donna Volpitta for sharing these two brilliant ways of raising kids with power thoughts for guiding them toward a meaningful life.
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