Does your child tattle to get siblings in trouble? Does this happen several times a day? Do you react to tattling? Does it unsettle your inner peace? If so, look inside to see how the family meeting can help.
“Tilly Tattler, bellyacher, your big mouth’s a trouble maker.” - Page 16 from Character Building on BackTalk Street
If you have a Tilly the Tattle in your house, how do you get her to change? How can you get her to understand the difference between tattling and keeping her siblings safe? Let’s find out how questions during the family meeting help.
Discuss tattling without pointing to the biggest tattletales in your house. Pretend you’re talking about an imagined child. You might use these questions to help your kids discuss tattling:
What do tattletales need to know?
How do kids feel when a tattletale tells on them?
Do kids want to play with the tattletales? Why?
Are parents or teachers pleased with tattletales?
What do tattletales really want? Why?
If you’ve ever tattled, how do kids treat you after you tattle on them?
What advice would you give a tattletale?
Asking the above questions will help your tattletales think before they tattle. Ask if they are just tattling to get their sibling in trouble or to be safe. Remind them about your tattletale discussion when they tattle.
Keeping the minutes in your Family Meeting Diary can be fun to read in the years to come. They’ll remind you of how you helped your children grow.
How do you stop your tattletale from tattling? Please share. We want to know.