Spoiling Kids Stunts Their Character!
If you're a parent raising a spoiled child, listen to how this child became an out-of-control teenager. Our parenting expert, Dr. Partridge worked with immature kids.
While consulting to a suburban school district, I heard about Marise, a beautiful auburn-haired girl of seventeen. I had been contacted by her parents to see what could be done to save their daughter from an increasingly troubled life.
Because she was so bright, and such an attractive child, she had been the pride of both her parents and grandparents. From infancy she was the family's center of attention. They delighted in lavishing clothes and toys on Marise, and so indulged and protected her that she was rarely inhibited or under any stress.
When she entered preschool, Marise saw no reason why things had to change. She demanded- and generally received - special attention.
During my conferences with her parents, they recalled Marise's primary teachers had observed that if her intelligence or clever social manipulation didn't produce quick success, Marise would reuse to participate. If school work came easily, fine. If not, Marise regarded it as too boring, too difficult, or claimed she didn't feel well.
Through middle school, Marise was simply a chronic underachiever. But at fifteen, she was a full-fledged truant, completely out of parental control. When her parents tried, too late to establish limits, Marise ran away.
By the time I became involved, Marise had dropped out of hight school, had been on the run in a nearby city and was thought to be deeply involved in sex for drugs. Her parents had coaxed her home for one more attempt to turn her life around, but her prognosis was dismal. Time for character building had run out.
Immature Character Development
It is not surprising that so many aspiring adults have no concept of what it means to take responsibility for themselves. They have never moved beyond the three-year-old behavior pattern of blaming everyone else wen things go wrong. Because they're hooked on infantile, immediate-gratification patterns, they are unable to put together meaningful efforts toward accomplishment.
Equally tragic, they have not learned to meet others halfway in the give and take of human relationships. They are doomed never to know real human love for they lack capacities for empathic concern.
Without ability to tolerate frustration, they are at the mercy of their own tempers, like a two-year-old who explodes in a tantrum every time he doesn't get his way.
If you're parenting a child by spoiling him/her, you can change. To find out how, Dr. Partridge has written Building Character Skills in the Out-of-Control Child available on Amazon. He knows how to help parents.
Let's APPLAUD Dr. Partridge for sharing this story to help us to understand why we must not raise a spoiled child who may become both an out-of-control teenager and an immature adult.
Jean Tracy, MSS
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