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    Jean Tracy, MSS

    Thanks for your comment, Mighty Student.

    Do you have suggestions for turning this around?

    Warmly,

    Jean Tracy, MSS
    www.KidsDiscuss.com

    mightystudent.com

    It happens more regularly than we'd like to think and, from my viewpoint, it alerts a issue in the teenager between understanding the right factor to do vs doing it.

    Jean Tracy, MSS

    Hi Annie,

    I really like how you arranged your book. It's unique to put your questions up front for us to think how we'd answer. It's fun to read your solutions in the back.

    I goofed assuming the 16-year-old in the story was a girl. I hope it doesn't matter since both boys and girls shoplift. I think your response would still be the same.

    What a wonderful book!

    Warmly,

    Jean Tracy, MSS
    www.KidsDiscuss.com

    Annie Fox

    Thanks so much Tracy, for this shout-out and for shining a light on this rarely spoken about teen behavior... shoplifting. It happens more frequently than we'd like to think and, from my perspective, it signals a conflict in the teen between knowing the right thing to do vs doing it. Parents typically are shocked when they find out their son/daughter has broken the law (or broken a family value). That's upsetting, of course, but parents, as you point out, need to see the behavior for what it really is: ignorance on the part of their child. When kids (of any age) truly "know better" then they DO better. When their actions harm themselves or others, then that's a clear sign that parents need to find out what's going on, emotionally with the child. That takes patience and compassion. And it may also take additional support from caring professionals, like yourself.

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