If you're a parent, you'll need these strategies to raise emotionally healthy kids. Our parenting expert and author, Dr. Charlotte Reznick, is sharing her top 10 best ways for rearing children along with 6 parenting requests from a nine-year-old child. I suggest you copy the top ten methods and keep them where you can refer to them. This is an excerpt from her book, The Power of Your Child's Imagination. Let's listen to her advice.
Listen to Allegra's Story
Nine-year-old Allegra asked me to speak to her parents on her behalf. She had a list of concerns she was afraid to bring up, behaviors that made her anxious and unable to concentrate on her schoolwork and chores. Her requests included:
. Not yelling at each other: it woke her up at night
. Not screaming at her older brother
. Never hitting her, for any reason
. Not saying anything mean or hurtful to her
. Making it safe for her to talk about her feelings
. Being more positive
Kids like Allegra have taught me a lot about good parenting. They are much wiser than we give them credit for and know exactly what they need to thrive. Over the years, these requests have evolved into the top ten list below. I share them with adults whenever I can.
Not only do these items promote stronger family ties, but they are principles that create a safe emotional context in which to teach your child the Nine Tools. If you think about the qualities you appreciated or would have liked in your parents, you may find many on this list.
What Kids Most Want and Need from Their Parents
Dr. Charlotte's Top Ten List
4. Soft Voices
8. Freedom connected to responsibility
9. Family and extended family
10. Role models
If you think about it, these make so much sense. Can you imagine how life would have been if your parents had lived these top 10 ways with you. Let's live them with our children today.
Dr. Charlotte Reznick goes on to discuss each item on her top ten list with wisdom. Go to pages 71 - 75 to read her descriptions. Then follow Dr. Reznick's advice and have a conversation about them with your children. See if there's anything they'd like to add to the list.
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Let's APPLAUD Dr. Charlotte Reznick for her excellent book. It contains many helpful exercises you can share at bedtime to help your child grow.
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