Would you like parenting tips for getting your kids to bed and teaching self-discipline too? Our counseling expert, Melissa Pazen, Parenting Coach at Inspired Coaching in the greater Chicago area, will show us how.
Melissa Pazen, MSW
"Self-discipline is among the trickiest for some of my clients. They frequently come to me with school age children who haven't developed any self-discipline.
I have found in working with soon-to-be and new parents that few of them know there are ways to help children develop their internal discipline!
Self-Discipline at Bedtime:
In 1984, my son Christopher at 17 months was old enough to climb out of his crib. AND, he'd had sleep patterns similar to adults from the time he was born. I remember Christmas night with this wee one toddling into the living room, where I was reading. He had the sweetest smile on his face! And it WAS Christmas and he simply was too excited (sugar high?) from his day to get to sleep.
I was in the living room reading a book. I'd already read a story to him as I finished his nighttime ritual. Hmmm... I wasn't sleepy either.
"Would you like to look at some of your books, instead of going to sleep right now?" "Yes!" he said as he nodded, wearing the little jammies that snap bottom and top together.
I took any book he could use by himself without destroying (the hard-board and cloth books) from his book case to his crib. I helped him back into the crib, already crowded with his stuffed friends. I turned on a soft light with a 40 watt bulb and he happily reviewed his books until he was drowsy.
It wouldn't surprise me if my 29 year old son still reads himself to sleep. I know his 26 year old sister does. I do too.
AND, we all go to bed at a proper hour, get up on time and are relatively self-disciplined.
OK, I've given a lengthy example.
Dads and Moms,
What steps are you taking to help your children learn to discipline themselves?
Please comment in the comment link below.
Thanks, Melissa. Your example and story make it clear that self-discipline works at bedtime.
With warm wishes,
Jean Tracy, MSS at http://www.KidsDiscuss.com
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