Parenting Tips: 9 Positive Sayings for Becoming Friendly Kids

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Your Child's Good Thoughts Attracts Friends

SO OFTEN A DIFFICULT SOCIAL SITUATION, like being called a mean name, can rattle kids. How they react to that name-calling is easier when they develop mental self-control.  Good mottoes repeated often can give them the restraint they need. 

In today's parenting gift you'll find 9 smart self-talk sayings your kids can use.

When children grow-up thinking socially smart thoughts, they'll remember them as adults. Such mental brainwaves become automatic and are a gift that can last a lifetime.

Ask your child to make-up socially intelligent thoughts of their own. Have a rhyming session together. Suggest they post it where they will see it often to use as a reminder even when  difficult social events occur.

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"When my feelings hurt, I'll be kind and alert."

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You CAN help your child develop strong self-thoughts and become a powerful influence for others.

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How Loving Families Promote Self-Esteem - a SlideShare Activity

 

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THIS SLIDESHARE PRESENTATION SHOWS PARENTS EXACTLY WHAT TO DO

Many busy parents want fun-loving activities for building character and raising caring children. This brief SlideShare gives parents an easy way to teach kids to notice the good in each other. When youngsters are trained to search for, remember, and tell each other compliments, everybody wins.

Those who receive praise love hearing it. Those who give praise develop a positive mindset toward others. Positive thinkers live happier lives. They attract friendships and spread good will to others.

It is hoped that this activity will lessen tattling, blaming, and whining.

Below this SlideShare you can copy the short script to use as a guide. I suggest you add it to a binder to use whenever you need it.

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Family Character: Simple Activity Strengthens Relationships

 

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CREATE A SOLID FAMILY FOUNDATION

When children feel like they belong to a loving family team, they experience inner security and confidence. Today's parenting gift shares an easy bonding activity. It helps family members develop a strong foundation with solid roots.

You'll be asking your family, "What do you want our family to be like?" To get the family discussion going you'll find 12 suggestions. Everyone should get a chance to share their ideas.

When you have a list of ideas, take a family vote and pick the top 6 suggestions. Choose someone to print them out and post them on the fridge or put them in a picture frame with a family photo as a reminder.

Challenge the family members to notice these qualities in each other as they occur.

Feel free to download this parenting gift to use whenever it is needed.

Pick it up at http://kidsdiscuss.com/subscriber-gifts.asp and insert the keyword:

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Parenting Tip: How Happy Families Encourage Children

 

 

 

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HONEST FAMILY COMPLIMENTS RAISE SELF-ESTEEM

If your family spirit needs a boost, and you're not sure what to do, consider this article with its 30 positive parenting tips.

Parents are powerful because their words can increase their child's confidence or tear it down. When their angry words are repeated, children remember. To the child, "Get out of my sight" becomes "I'm not lovable."

Repeated put-downs become the 'Critical Judge' living inside the child's head and they can last a lifetime. Negative self-talk has the power to limit a person's effectiveness.

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Harsh Words Can Become An Internal 'Critical Judge'

Positive words also have a ripple effect. Catching children being good boosts their self-esteem and steers them toward becoming kind and caring people.

In today's article, you'll find:

  • 9 of the worst things to tell your children
  • 12 character traits with an activity for bonding family members
  • 9 positive strengths to notice in children
  • 9 examples of compliments to share within your family

Children who internalize honest specific praise see themselves as good people who care about their family and other people too.

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Honest Praise Helps Kids See Themselves As Good People

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Caring Families: How Parents Build Self-Esteem

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Anxious Child: Turning Fear into Courage

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Anxious Children Imagine the Worst!

 

OVERCOMING WORRY AND FEAR IN YOUR CHILD CAN BE DONE! 
Today's brief YouTube video shares 7 easy steps.

Seeing your child afraid to give a book report, join a sports team, or make a friend can fill your heart with worry. You know she imagines the worst and want to help her. But what can you do?

Like a stepladder each rung in this video takes her closer to success because she'll be using that same imagination to conquer her anxiety. You'll be her guide. Each step is written below the video on YouTube. Copy it. It's yours. 

Then watch the video with her when she is feeling calm, happy, or relaxed. Use your copy and ask her to go through the 7 simple steps with you.

Use this parenting strategy with her as often as needed because anxiety is a habit.  Like a habit it takes practice to change. 

To turn your child's anxiety into confidence click below:

How Parents HelpAnxious Kids Feel Confident

 

 

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Parenting Gift - Self-Pity Poem to Improve Positivity in Kids

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 Poem for Kids - 'Self-Pity Isn't Pretty'

Do you have an over-sensitive child? Does she feel sorry for herself way too often? How can you help her get off the 'pity potty?'

Let her know when bad things happen some self-pity is okay. It's the habit of holding on to 'poor me' thinking and recycling the thoughts over and over that will weaken her spirit and bring her down.

Tell her "Being upset is normal. Try not to repeat the thoughts that hurt you." You might add,

"Miserable thoughts may soothe you at the time but will harm you when you make them a habit. They are like “10,000 nasty trolls.” They can follow you into adult life and make you a very unpleasant person on both the inside and outside.”

Our parenting present today is my poem, 'Self-Pity Isn't Pretty.' It includes the problem and solutions. Ask your child to draw, memorize, or clip out and post it in a place where it will remind her to:

“…Choose to rise above self-pity,

With a “CAN DO” mind that’s pretty.”

 

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How Parents Can Solve Couple Problems with Visualization

 

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Parents Can Visualize Solutions to Problems!

How you solve couple problems can scare your kids. They worry when you fight.

Most parents regret scaring their youngsters. Yet most couples still say and do painful things they can’t take back. If you and your mate have communication difficulties, here’s help.

You can’t make your partner a good communicator but you can become one.

If you focus on the last fight and the one before that until you remember every conflict, you’ll create a strong negative pathway in your brain paved with your couple struggles. By recycling old hurts with new ones you can easily build a case against your partner. You’ll also have a convincing mental route to follow whenever a new problem occurs. When that happens, don’t be surprised if you explode. You don't have to lose your cool. You have choices.

Two Choices

“You have a choice. You can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or what’s holding you together.” - Pinned by Gelyn Resuma

The Third Choice

You can raise your self-esteem by visualizing your best self handling a problem you tend to avoid. If you do this before falling asleep and before rising in the morning for 3 weeks, chances are you’ll become the good communicator you want to be.

Today’s gift, Self-Esteem Visualization for Couples with Problems will show you how to handle difficulties with elegance and no regrets. Then, when your kids are watching, they’ll feel the change. Why not calm their fears by solving problems with dignity.

To download your step-by-step visualization click on Subscriber Gifts

and insert the code word: VISUALIZE. You can start today! Why not make a copy for your partner too?

 

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4 Loving Messages: How to Launch Your Child's Self-Image

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Children Leap for Joy When They Find Your Loving Notes

Your Child's Self-Image Is Important to You.

You want her to feel confident and believe in herself. Is there a simple way to increase her self-worth? Certainly!

Today I'll share a video and its script to get you started.

 

 

 

 First, Here's Something Important to Know

Research tells us that doing something randomly increases its meaning. Giving something too often lessens its power.

For instance, if you give your child a big bowl of ice cream every day for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and for snacks in between, she might lose her desire for ice cream. I don't suggest you experiment with this.

But wonder if ice cream was a special treat to enjoy once in a while. How might she feel about it then?

Love notes, given when least expected, could raise her self-esteem. Rather than giving a loving message 5 times a day like the ice cream example, a loving comment might do more good 3 or 4 times a week.

Kids Delight in Surprises

I suggest you rotate putting a loving comment in her shoe, under a pillow, in her favorite cup, or her favorite cereal box. Once you start, you'll think of lots of places to hide them.

Now for the Script and Video:

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3 Rules for Love Notes

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1. Be Specific

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2. Be Honest

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3. Be Positive

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Complete the 4 Loving Messages:


 1. I Love Your Smile Because...

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I Admire Your Artwork Because...

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I'm Glad When You're a Good Sport Because...

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I'm Pleased When You Offer to Help Because...

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Reduce Stress: 2 Easy Ways Parents Can Teach Kids How to Relax!

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Teaching Your Child to Relax

If you're a stressed parent and fear your children are copying your emotional reactions, stop worrying. Our parenting skills expert, Lori Lite, author of Stress Free Kids, is here to help. Today she'll discuss how stress is contagious, ask you 3 important questions, and give you 2 relaxation techniques.

Lori’s Story

In her book Lori shares the overwhelming pressure she felt as a young mother. Raising both a hyperactive child who took hours to get to sleep and a daughter with night terrors exhausted her. Lori decided to make her life’s journey one of learning about stress, how to relieve it, and how to help others.

Is Stress Contagious?

“Yes,” says Lori Lite. When you feel strain, your child learns to copy your reactions. For instance, do you pack your days with too many responsibilities?

Let’s say your neighbor needs to talk, the sink is leaking, and your boss is calling about your overdue report. How do you react? Many parents feel so much pressure that they tense up inside, sleep less, and get sick more often.

The Stress Quiz

Lori provides you with 10 questions that are easy to answer and quite revealing. Here are 3:

1. Are you yelling at your kids more?

2. Do you cram way too much into your day?

3. Are you saying “Yes” to requests when you wish you said "No?"

If you do the above, don’t be surprised if you’re feeling stressed. I like Lori’s quiz because it shows you what you are doing and what needs to change.

2 Sample Techniques You Can Use Today

Both techniques show you and your child how to relax and deal with current stress.

1. Tell your child, “I am feeling too stressed right now. I am just going to take a minute for myself to sit down and do my breathing.”

Invite your child to sit next to you, identify the stress, and take it down a notch by breathing deeply together.

Can you see how this could benefit both you and your child? What a gift!

2. This skill is one you can use whenever you need it. Again you can do it with your child, in the shower, or when driving to an appointment.

Deeply inhale and exhale with a loud “AHA!” Feel free to do it several times in a row.

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Lori has filled her book with many stress reducing techniques. It’s like a delicious banquet where you can pick the ones that appeal best to you.

I highly recommend Stress Free Kids: A Parent's Guide to Helping Build Self-Esteem, Manage Stress, and Reduce Anxiety in Children for parents, teachers, counselors, and anyone who want to help kids.

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Please join me in THANKING Lori Lite for sharing her research and wealth of knowledge to help us and our children live healthy relaxed lifestyles.

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Parenting: 12 Best Compliments for Your Child's Self-Esteem

 

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The Best Way to Build Your Child's Self-Esteem

If you'd like to build your child's self-esteem, listen to our parenting skills expert and author, Carole Disseldorp. Her book, Easier Parenting, is full of practical parenting tips and good advice. Today Carole will share the 4 most important behaviors to encourage and the best remarks to inspire them. I will offer extra examples when commenting on the qualities to promote and suggest a special activity.

 Building Self-Esteem on the Inside:

Many parents motivate their kids with stars, charts, and external rewards. That's good for outside motivation. But how do you get your child motivated to behave well, try, and become a team member on the inside?

Carole tells us to focus on 4 behaviors when making our positive remarks for motivating kids on the inside:

1. Effort

2. Cooperation

3. Progress

4. Strengths

She will offer a statement in quotes for each and I will add 2 more for each trait.

Comments that Encourage Effort:

1. "Joe, I can see that you are trying really hard, to find the right piece to fit the puzzle. Good for you."

2. Ethan you never gave up learning how to do cart wheels and now you do them skillfully.

3. Allyssa you put a lot of meaning and detail into your picture. You know how to give your best.

Remarks that Promote Cooperation

1. "Thanks for setting the table so nicely, Michelle."

2. George, when you played checkers with your little brother, you encouraged him.

3. You're ready for school each morning because you pack your school backpack  and set it by the front door each night.

Statements that Boost Progress:

1. "Greg, you've come a long way with your model car. You've glued 3 pieces together."

2. Mary, you've already put most of your outside toys away before it starts to rain.

3. Most of your science project is done, Joe. It's looking good.

Comments that Boost Strengths:

1. "Julie, your scrapbooking layout is beautiful. It's balanced and the colors go really well together."

2. You've made your body flexible while practicing your gymnastics, Jason.

3. By keeping your eye on the ball, Sarah, you're becoming a fine batter.

The behaviors to note and the quotes of Carole's are from Chapter 2, Promoting and Practicing Positivity.

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I especially appreciate Carole's 4 behaviors to focus on when we congratulate our children. When we catch them expanding their effort, cooperating, progressing, or developing their strengths, we need to compliment them. Our praise will increase their inner motivation and build their self-esteem.

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I suggest posting Carole's 4 behaviors on a bathroom mirror or on the fridge to remind us what to commend when our children are exhibiting these behaviors. It's easy to post and fun for us when we share our admiration. One more thing, our kids will love what we say.

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