All kids and teenagers need social skills. Today I interviewed 15-year-old Paula to find out her advice for 3 essential ways to make friends. She exceeded my request. Read on to find out how.
Jean: "Paula, what are the 3 best social skills kids need to learn for making friends?"
Paula: "First I'd say, make a good impression."
Jean: "How do you do that?"
Paula: "Try to get to know the person by asking them questions about themselves instead of talking about yourself. Find out what you have in common. Talk about that and feed off of each other. Be sure to say a little something about yourself to make it a two-sided conversation."
Jean: "I like that because it sounds like you're focusing on the other person."
Jean: "What is another social skill you recommend?"
Paula: "My second recommendation is to respect the other person."
Jean: "What do you mean?"
Paula: " Be courteous. Don't grab. Ask for what you want. Don't talk behind the other person's back. That means 'no word vomit.' Don't seek revenge when someone hurts you. Be the better person."
Jean: I like how you link respect to courtesy and being the better person if someone hurts you. What is the third social skill you recommend?"
Paula: "My third social skill is don't gloat. That means don't brag because it annoys the other person and could cause jealousy."
Jean: "Gloating is so easy to do but it doesn't work. Bragging about others is much more effective."
Paula: "I have more suggestions."
Jean: "OK, what are they?"
Paula: "Treat people less smart or who have less material possessions with respect. Make friends with people who are on the same or higher level than you because they can lift you up and you can grow together to become better people. And finally, stay away from people who seek out trouble."
Jean: "Thank you, Paula. I appreciate your good ideas. If we all followed them, we'd become quality people. In fact, just realizing the truth in your suggestions can be the springboard to following them."
Now It's Your Turn. What are your ideas about social skills for kids?
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With warm wishes,
Jean Tracy, MSS
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