Motivation: How This Grandmother Keeps Grandchildren Motivated

Motivation for pre-schoolers can be difficult. If you have very young children you know their attention spans are short. So how can they learn? Find out what this grandmother does.

For my grandsons, age 3, and 5. I have to keep them moving from one activity to a new one often. I can see when they are losing their focus. Then I stop what we are doing and move to the next.

They like water balloons here in AZ a lot while it is hot outside. Inside they love water paints. - from Annie

Parents, when I taught first grade years ago, I knew the kids needed a change because the wiggles and noise increased. I did what Annie does and changed the activity. I got them out of their seats. Then we'd sing and exercise with silly gestures. As soon as they sat down, I'd teach them something new because their young minds were rested and ready.

(Of course, the first thing I did once I reached home was take a nap until dinner time. You need lot's of energy with little kids.)

What Parents Need to Motivate Young Kids

Like Annie we need to have a number of activities ready, like drawing, painting, puzzles, building toys, and especially colorful children's books. At home it works well when your children pick the next activity from what you set out.

You can also teach them to clean up after each activity. This helps keep toys organized for the next time you need them.

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Motivation: How This Mother Is a Champion at Motivating Kids

Motivation is difficult when kids say, "It's too hard." It can be discouraging when kids won't try. So how do you get kids to keep trying? Here's what my friend Darla advises:

 

Hey Jean, My personal experience as a parent and teacher is that kids are best motivated by previous successes. My advice is to be realistic with your kids; set the hurdle low, show them how to clear it, and then let them clear it. The next thing you know they will be raising the hurdle for themselves. Anybody can clear any hurdle as long as it is low enough. Choose a beginning height that you know your child can clear.

 

Did you notice that Darla, as mother and teacher, starts kids with tasks she knows they will achieve?

 

She sets the hurdle low.

She shows kids how to clear it.

She lets them clear it.

 

She says kids will be raising the hurdle for themselves.

 

Her motto could be: "Anybody can clear a hurdle if it is low enough." 

 

 

I like Darla's hurdle metaphor. The picture of raising the bar is great for kids. It makes use of their imagination and energy.

 

Motivation and What Parents Can Do To Help Kids

 

As parents, let's start where we know our kids can be successful. This gives them the taste of success and encourages them to try the next hurdle as long as it is just a little higher but low enough for them to clear the hurdle. Why? Because success builds on success.

 

One more thing, did you guess that Darla is a true athlete at hurdles? She's won many championships.

 

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Motivation: How Motivating Kids by Example Works for This Mother

Motivation is easier if your child sees your enthusiasm for the things you do. You become the model of  trying to do your best. Let's find out how this mother motivated her daughter for the last 18 years.

My daughter is now 18. The trick has always been the same - teach by example. When I want her to do something, I do it myself. After a couple of days, she models the behavior.

Daughter Models this Behavior  for Two Reasons:

First, she does not want me to nag her about not doing something.

Second, she sees how much happier I am.

The best example of this is exercise. When I start exercising, I am usually happier, more level headed and things do not bother me as much. She will go with me to the gym and just sit on a machine. By the end of the week, she will be doing at least 20 minutes.

The same goes for food choices and everything else. If she sees me doing, she will do it. - from Roxana

Roxana's motivation by example reminds me of my grandson. A few of us were playing alphabet Bingo. I asked,

"Hey, Ethan do you want to play?"

"No Thank you, he answered."

I knew he was feeling a little shy. But I thought, 'If I don't make a big deal about it, he'll come running.' Sure enough as soon as we started he ran to the dining room and became our 4th player. We acted like everything was normal and didn't make a big deal out of it.

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Motivation: How This Mom Finds Resources to Motivate Kids

Motivation to learn grows when you add fun resources to the teachers lessons. Find out how this mother uses orientation day to find the resources she wants.

I love the orientation day when we can meet teachers face to face and get a feel for each other. My favorite tip is to find out ahead of time what the children will be covering for each six week period and find age related resources they can tap for more information and graphic stimulation.  - from Ruth 

How This Mom Exemplifies Being a Parent and a Teacher

Ruth listens to the teacher to:

  1. Find out what the teacher will be covering in the next 6 week period
  2. Looks for age related resources to support what her child will be learning
  3. Makes sure those resources add information and visual stimulation

Imagine how the partnership between you and your child's teacher could promote your child's enthusiasm and learning. Get to know your child's teacher. Find out the curriculum she'll be teaching. Then look for resources on the internet and at the local library. If you do, you'll be motivating your child to learn.

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Motivation: How These Parents Share Goals with Their Child

Motivation makes sense to kids when parents share how they motivate themselves. One couple do just that. Listen to Keyuri. Perhaps you'll be inspired to use her strategy.

...that visualization of retirement is what keeps me going:

Way up high on the mountain tops with meditative views and an occasional black bear peering through the grand windows of my dream home. Now that is my motivation! I feel it down to my bones and share it with my son.

That real life glimpse that he has of me gives him a sense of the reality of my goals and my journey toward them. With a  little help from me and his dad,  we can get him to visualize, hear, and "feel" his goals too!

We take it a little further and ask:

  • Who is there with you?
  • What are you doing to celebrate?
  • What stories about this journey do you think you will share with others?
  • What 2 things did you do that you are most proud of? and so on

I like Keyuri's strategy because she shares her vision with her son. He gets a sense of how strongly she visualizes it.

With the support of her husband they ask their son about the goals he wants to move toward. Then they use questions to help him visualize them more fully.

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Marriage or Divorce: How to Save Your Family

Whether you've divorced once, twice, or thrice you're probably aware of the following:

"What a holler would ensue if people had to pay the minister as much to marry them as they have to pay a lawyer to get them a divorce." – Claire Trevor

We all dream of a life-long loving marriage and happy family. Then things happen. One spouse threatens, "Divorce!" Before we know it one of us walks out the door. The pain overwhelms us and our children. The parenting plans don't seem to work and the children act out in anger or close in on themselves with depression.

The one thing we can do is learn. If there was threatening, put-downs, hateful talk from before, we can keep them out of our present marriage. We can learn to communicate by listening well, creating romantic dates, and following the Couple's Meeting Blueprint found in the last class of my free 5 part marriage e-course, Parents, Stop Fighting! Save Your Marriage Now!

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If you're already divorced and your children are having a hard time, consider my friend, Rosalind Sedacca's expert advice in her e-book, "How do I Tell the Children about the Divorce?" Rosalind has created a story book scrapbook with templates that tell you what to say before, during, and after the divorce. Use it with your children to relieve their pain.

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Jean Tracy, MSS